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Stonewall Book Award Honor Book winner

Ivan Coyote is a celebrated storyteller and the author of 10 previous books, including Gender Failure (with Rae Spoon) and One in Every Crowd, a collection for LGBT youth. Tomboy Survival Guide is a funny and moving memoir told in stories, in which Ivan recounts the pleasures and difficulties of growing up a tomboy in Canada's Yukon, and how they learned to embrace their tomboy past while carving out a space for those of us who don't fit neatly into boxes or identities or labels.

Ivan writes movingly about many firsts: the first time they were mistaken for a boy; the first time they purposely discarded their bikini top so they could join the boys at the local swimming pool; and the first time they were chastised for using the women's washroom. Ivan also explores their years as a young butch, dealing with new infatuations and old baggage, and life as a gender-box-defying adult, in which they offer advice to young people while seeking guidance from others. (And for tomboys in training, there are even directions on building your very own unicorn trap.)

Tomboy Survival Guide warmly recounts Ivan's adventures and mishaps as a diffident yet free-spirited tomboy, and maps their journey through treacherous gender landscapes and a maze of labels that don't quite stick, to a place of self-acceptance and an authentic and personal strength. These heartfelt, funny, and moving stories are about the culture of difference - a "guide" to being true to one's self.

©2016 Ivan Coyote (P)2017 Audible, Inc.

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From a self-proclaimed Tomboy

I loved this book! Listened to it all in one day while driving. It's funny in places, touching, and I cried a handful of times. Stories narrated by the author imo can go either way, but Ivan's accent, tone, and performance really added to the book for me. It felt genuine and personal.
It's also so uplifting to read about trans adults, AND trans adults who speak to their families. I spent the entire book either living vicariously through their wonderful life, or relating deeply to their discussion of gender, dysphoria, and navigating the world as a tomboy. I'd recommend this especially to trans young adults, anyone coming out later in life, and parents + friends of trans people looking to learn.

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I am left breathless

I am feeling like I wish it could go on. These stories told with Ivan’s vocal input have taught me so much. This book has educated me from a perspective that I had not anticipated. I cried quite a bit and a lot of it was because I realized I am not quite as educated as I once believed. I have recommended this book to many people—and I will continue to do so!

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Amazing

This is so far my favorite book of 2018. Ivan reads with such passion and truth.
Thank you!
Lisa

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Listen to the kindness

I get a bit cynical. The world swims in a soup of complicated ideas, thoughts and actions. Sometimes, I just crave simplicity even though I know that this is not possible. Coyote’s book touches on some of the complications of the world but in a way that pares things down. There are also pretty basic things in our world: love, compassion, family and community. This books celebrated these basics within the complications of being human. This book brought me to tears multiple times for the intense displays of kindness. Coyote’s words are beautiful. Their reading is beautiful. It is simply beautiful.

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Funny and Touching Memoir.

I loved the humor and honesty of this book. Ivan has a very personal and vulnerable way of storytelling. "AUDIBLE 20 REVIEW SWEEPSTAKES ENTRY".

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so much heart

loved every second. I laughed, cried, felt touched deep inside my queer self. Totally beautiful.

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  • K. L. Joy
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Brilliant!

So happy I got this book, have wanted ti read it for a while. Just tried Audible for the first time, love it, I'll be back!