Thriving in Sex Work

Heartfelt Advice for Staying Sane in the Sex Industry: A Self-Help Book for Sex Workers

By: Lola Davina

Narrated by: Lola Davina, Felicia Gotthelf

Length: 7 hrs and 25 mins

Publisher's summary

Sex work is "easy money?" Hardly. The adult industry is riddled with pitfalls and dangers. Erotic labor is often emotionally demanding, draining, and complex. It can be hard to know who to turn to for advice on keeping yourself safe and sane. Lola Davina, former stripper, dominatrix, porn actress, and escort, provides the life skills you need to prosper, including: 

• Cultivating friendships, community, and romance
• Mastering money
• Debunking sex industry myths such as: you have to be flawless, or clients hate to hear "no"
• Avoiding trigger states, like loneliness, fatigue, boredom, anxiety and depression, that lead to bad decision-making and burnout
• Surviving bad calls, shifts, and shoots...and so much more! 

Thriving in sex work means having a healthy body, mind, heart, and bank account. No matter your job title or gender, whether you're independent or work for someone else, if you want to succeed in sex work, this book is for you.

©2017, 2018 Lola Davina (P)2018 Lola Davina

Thank You Lola We Love You

Yes, I am a sex worker. I am proud of who I am and what I do. However, it can be very lonely. The stigma we face can put us in terribly violent, scary and isolating situations.

Lola is our Patron Saint. She never forgets to tell us that we are human. We are loved. We deserve respect. She is held in such high regard in our community.

Here I am running late for an appointment. Listening to Lola tell stories that I have lived. I feel like we are engaging in a private conversation. Just for me.

I suggest purchasing the audio version. You won’t regret it.

Great!

I highly recommend this book to both sex workers AND people who are simply curious about the topic.

Something to relate to

I like listening to these stories and pieces of advice because as a SW, people don't really talk about all aspects of the life. Somebody needs to say it and here it is. It's all very true and is helping me get by mentally and emotionally.

so glad this exists!

Seriously bless Lola Davina for this gift! So pleased with the inclusivity of genders. this book is great for self esteem as well as business 💖

Very different from the others in a good way

This book is very different than the ones who are suggested below it on Audible.
This book is written by an intellectual who is smart, decent, down-to-earth, non-judgemental who happens to be an ex-sex worker.
Don't get me wrong. She is not like the ones who try to convince you the industry is bad either.
I mean it's definitely like the superficial ones who call themselves sugababe or a heaux.
OK, I'm not doing a very good job describing it :) just give it a try. Your mental health will thank you.
And thank you Lola. You helped me. You really did.

Interesting listen

I got this book because I wanted to know in more detail what sex workers had to deal with. A lot of this was common sense and things I’ve heard from interviews, but I feel like it would be a great resource for the target audience: sex workers new to the field. Pretty cool listen!

A must listen for anyone curious about the 'biz'

Almost anyone you know could be a sex worker. Lola is the perfect representation of an intelligent, multi-skilled and highly functioning human being who brings to light her experience in the adult industry. If you are a sex worker, you MUST take note of her advice. If you know someone who is a sex worker or have simply enjoyed adult content in its various forms, you will leave with a greater respect and understanding of the wonderful people in the industry.

Such a Necessary Read & Re-Read for Any Sex Worker

Lola did an incredible job with this piece! Not only is her voice very relaxing, but her calm way of communicating the importance of safety, saving money, & self care would make any sex worker looking for support feel as if they truly have someone in their corner when reading this book!

Lola's message was very clearly and calmly communicated and I enjoyed every minute so much so that I decided to read the book again. In the process, I discovered what a GEM chapter 48 is and listened to that over and over. It's a chapter where Lola goes into detail about the psychology of boundary-pushers and how to make your boundaries clear safely and sweetly. That was one area that I particularly have been struggling with in my journey!

Thank you, Lola, so much for writing this book- it is wonderful!

Really good

This book is grounding, comforting, and exactly what people in the industry needs. SW’s are encouraged to stay safe and be themselves. More of this is needed in the world. I appreciate her being vulnerable and putting the ins and outs out there for everyone to learn from.

Loved this.

What an insightful and unique piece of work. Wonderfully read. I highly recommend for anyone in SW or interested in the complexities of the industry.

Perfect

This is a book I wish i had read twenty years ago. I'd recommend it as a manual for the new and the more long term workers in the sex industry. She's brilliant, kind and eloquent and has brilliant advice for people at all stages of their careers.

Not what I was hoping for

Not what I was looking for. More about how to look after your mental health than anything else.
I was hoping for true stories of occasions and problems, and how to deal with these situations....

A wonderful book

This is possibly the best self help book I’ve read. Strip (pardon the pun) out the sex work bit and it’s full of compassion and love, sane sensible advice and humour. Lola’s voice is as soothing as it is erotic. It doesn’t hide the ugly truths and doesn’t sugar coat but is clear and concise. Wonderful.