The Surrendered Wife

Narrated by: Laura Doyle
Length: 1 hr and 7 mins
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Publisher's Summary

Like millions of women, Laura Doyle wanted her marriage to be better. But when she tried to get her husband to be more romantic, helpful, and ambitious, he withdrew - and she was lonely and exhausted from controlling everything. Desperate to be in love with her man again, she decided to stop telling him what to do and how to do it. When Doyle surrendered control, something magical happened. The union she had always dreamed of appeared. The man who had wooed her was back.

The underlying principle of The Surrendered Wife is simple: The control women wield at work and with children must be left at the front door of any marriage. Laura Doyle's matrimony shows women how they can both express their needs and have them met while also respecting their husband's choices. When they do, they revitalize intimacy. The Surrendered Wife will show you how to transform a lonely marriage into a passionate union.

©2001 Laura Doyle (P)2001 Simon & Schuster, Inc., All Rights Reserved, SOUND IDEAS Is an Imprint of Simon & Schuster Audio Division, Simon & Schuster, Inc.

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"The Surrendered Wife is a practical and valuable tool for women wanting to regain intimacy in their relationships." (John Gray, author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus)

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I feel so much gratitude🙏

I enjoyed this audible version tremendously.
This information had me intrigued. Surrendering is the key to unlocking your husbands masculinity and sense of love , tenderness, protection. Now for the hard part ( application) I feel inspired to experience true surrender in every area of my life.
I would recommend reading this book if you notice your nagging, controlling, and feeling lonely within your marriage. It could be you stirring up all the drama and projecting it all on your husband.

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Simple and Sufficient.

Simple content. A great formula for the beginner on a journey to submission. Great tools that can be applied to real life.

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Great!

Awesome info for any woman that wants to have a great relationship with her husband!

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Great Information

I loved it! I only wished it was longer. The information inside is invaluable. I am going to use some of the tips to try and help me. The recording is clear and the narrator is pleasant to listen to. If this type of book is what you are looking for, it could save you some agony along the marriage path. I also got some of Dr. Laura's Books. A+

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Wonderful!

This book is wonderful! I listened to it twice and then gave it to my sister. The author points out things I haven't thought of before. Great book.

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Not for Post Moderns

This book is probably perfect for traditionalists and I hope that these insights help your relationships! However, for modern and especially post modern persons I don't think this would be considered in any way progressive actions in establishing true equanimity within a relationship unless you had an honest discussion about how and why you were applying the changes that have been suggested in this book. People do not like to feel like that are being manipulated or toyed with.

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Great insight.

Loved it, she got it right, that all we real men need respect and we will slay dragons for our woman.

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Fed up wife

This book has given me great insight. New things that i will do to become a better wife

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Short and sweet + practical

I absolutely agree that the feminist movement has made it so that we can now CHOOSE to surrender, which makes it much more meaningful.

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makes perfect sense

my marriage is already a good one but I am looking for great not just good. this book and its companion first kill all the marriage counselors are just what marriages need. These principals will make a bad marriage good and a good one better!

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  • BETTY
  • 12-30-18

Great but where are the rest of the chapter's!!!

Really like this book you have to be open minded when you read it though.I have already been implementing some of the things and im seeing changes.Just wish there was more chapters!!! So i have bought the hard copy book hoping there is more depth to it.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 09-08-18

life changing

this book saved my marriage! I can't recommend it enough. start with an open mind!

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  • The Sculpted Vegan
  • 02-16-15

Fantastic book

I think we could all do with giving up a little bit of control to lead happier and more fulfilling lives. This is essentially the essence of this story and I think the author explains it very well. As a former control addict and always looking for ways that I can surrender more and be better in my life and I definitely picked up a few fabulous tips from this book. perhaps her best tip is not retaliating in an argument but simply saying ouch Wenstone by the words of another. This leaves them to assess their words and leave them hanging in the air which has a far greater effect than retaliating in anger. Definitely recommended if you are married or intended to get married

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  • Maxine T
  • 01-07-20

Great for getting back on track !

This audiobook is short, but I find the quick overview very useful. I like to be reminded of Laura's techniques occasionally, usually when I feel my relationship starting to drift sideways. I find this audiobook very grounding and it's like taking a refresher course in her techniques.

For those who are hearing Laura Doyle for the first time, the audio book of "first kill all the marriage counsellors" may be more suitable. She explains a lot more of the "why" these techniques work and the long term goal.

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  • Miss
  • 10-27-19

Passed this on

So good I shared it with friends! Let's see what happens I have good hope

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  • lian frankland
  • 08-30-19

Great help

Would have liked more though
Bit short
But some good examples to try
Which I will give a go
Narrators voice clear and easy to listen too

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  • Gayle 123
  • 05-31-18

My poor husband

A friend recommended this book as I had watched a film which had helped me recognise that I wasn’t allowing my husband to be a man. Having read this book I fall into every single category. It’s going to take time but I will work on this from today. I think I will need to listen again to this book every so often to help me reach my goal. Thank you so much for writing this in a clear , concise way that doesn’t degrade women but empowers us.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 09-23-17

Great and realistic! suitable for all married wome

I would recommend it to all young married women in my generation! well done Laura!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 08-28-17

Great tips but..

After reading the sample of this book on the author's website, and feeling very much identify with her, I thought I need to read this book! Bought the audio version though, to find out that it narrates exactly the same chapter as in the sample! Very disappointed.
Anyhow, the tips and examples are great, is not something new to me to hear if you want to change something you have to change the way you see it or act, and that is more or less the message that comes across. It requires a lot of inner work though, nevertheless, it's only one day since starting practising the advice and I can already see a positive difference between us!!

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  • T. Blake
  • 09-20-16

Very short

I was shocked by how short it was. only 1 hour. had some good points that I will definitely be taking on board. I will listen to it a few more times to get the info to sink in and take notes.

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  • Nic
  • 10-29-19

Love this book.<br />Well worth the download.

Extremely important information and spoken by the author was so much better.
Treasured so much, helped me get through a depression stage with regards to myself and my marriage.

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  • James Marciniak
  • 12-07-16

Amazed

Absolutely enjoyed a mature overview of a relationship. so impressed with a fresh statement of relationships.