Divorce is a process that is often spoken about in absolutes - whether it be failure, freedom, grief, blame, conflict or closure; but unsurprisingly the reality is far more nuanced and complex.

My guest for this episode is someone highly experienced with all of the above - divorce lawyer Lucy Stewart-Gould from Stewarts Law; and in this conversation we explore what really happens when a relationship comes to an end—not just legally, but emotionally, practically, and relationally. Together, we unpack the space between decision and action: the build-up, the moments of realisation, and the often uneven pace at which two people arrive at the same ending, alongside the legal stages and proceedings that people have to go through to get divorced.

We talk about divorce statistics including the rise in later-life divorce; and unpack the emotional and practical undercurrents that sit beneath legal processes, from questions of value and contribution, to the invisible weight of roles carried over years of partnership.

Lucy walks us through the reality of divorce as a process—demystifying what it actually looks like, from initial conversations to final orders—while also reflecting on the human experience inside it that she sees as a lawyer. We also consider the idea of a “good divorce”— and whether that language serves us at all. Instead, we explore what it might mean to move through separation with awareness, respect, and support, even when things feel at their most difficult.

This conversation holds space for the complexity of endings: for the imbalance of emotions, the reshaping of family life, and the possibility that something can end without it being a failure.

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From dating apps to AI companions, our relationships are increasingly mediated through screens, algorithms, and carefully curated versions of the self. But what does this mean for intimacy, desire and our capacity to tolerate the messiness of human relationships? In this episode Dr Aaron Balick draws on over two decades of clinical experience and psychodynamic thinking to unpack the idea of the digitally mediated self and how projection, fantasy, and validation can play out in online spaces. We explore why quick hits of connection, and what Dr Aaron describes as “relational doughnuts”can feel good in the moment, but leave us emotionally undernourished over time. We also discuss the rapidly changing landscape of both looking for love and connection, and maintaining relationships. This is a conversation about intimacy beyond ease and the difference between feeling seen and being known. We examine how relationships are changing as technology and AI play increasingly larger roles in our lives, and the similarities, differences and contradictions between relationship simulation and interpersonal connection.

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In conversations about fertility, we often focus on hope, treatment, and the possibility of becoming a parent. But what happens when it doesn’t end that way?

In this deeply honest and thoughtful episode, we explore the often unspoken experience of being childless not by choice—and the profound emotional, physical and relationship impacts that can follow fertility treatment, miscarriage, and years of trying to conceive.

My guest Lucy Frank, a psychosexual and relationship therapist who now supports individuals and couples through these experiences, shares her own journey through infertility, IVF, and pregnancy loss. Together we talk about the losses and distress that so often go unseen, the concept of disenfranchised grief, and why these experiences can feel so isolating—even within relationships.

We explore the language we use around fertility, the pressure of endless hope, and the cultural narratives that can make it so difficult to imagine a meaningful life outside of parenthood. We also talk about the impact on identity, relationships, intimacy, and how couples can begin to reconnect when life takes an unexpected direction.

This is a conversation about the often unspoken side of infertility, and the ongoing process of making sense of what life looks like when it turns out differently to how we imagined.

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