• The Dead Bedroom Fix

  • By: D.S.O
  • Narrated by: D.S.O
  • Length: 3 hrs and 32 mins
  • 4.7 out of 5 stars (674 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Men: Are you in a sexless marriage? 

Divorced and don’t want to go through that nightmare again?

You're not alone.

There are a lot of men out there not happy with their sex lives.

What is going on? Is the tried-and-true stereotype of the undersexed husband and the cold, bossy wife inevitable? Are monogamous relationships doomed to such a pitiful state? Is that just the way marriage is?

I don't think so.

To cut a long story short, several years ago, I was married for 15 years, discovered infidelity, quickly divorced, and found myself newly single and sharing custody of three little kids. I, then, started a website: dadstartingover.com. After chatting with many men in my situation, I slowly started to notice patterns of behavior. Most men experienced long “dead bedroom” periods in their relationship, prior to their divorce. Many of these men later discovered infidelity.

Simply put, nobody seems to know what to do to keep the fire going in their long-term relationship. Most of us experience a “honeymoon phase” of intimacy and then, watch it quickly fade as the stress of life and the boredom of familiarity settle in.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

My audience are fixers, and they have tried everything under the sun to light a fire in their wife again. Some have already lost their marriage battle and don’t want to go down that awful road again. What they all tell me: The Dead Bedroom Fix is the best, no bullshit, no fluff guide to getting your self, and consequently, your sex life back on track. 

It works.

©2017 D.S.O (P)2019 D.S.O
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Interesting

Ok, so if you are a Christian with strong Biblical morals, this book needs to be listened to with a very strong filter. The author goes so far to say, it is ok to be attracted to other girls. We as men, are fallen and do notice other girls. The Bible calls that adultery. The author also states that a female that knows her man is watching porn may want to watch with him as a turn on. Again, adultery. This is sin. Do not listen to everything he has to say. But, with that in mind, it does talk about how the secular world views things and may explain how your wife feels. Take this all into consideration, and in the end pray and consult with God.

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Every man needs this information

Very good information for men, regardless of relationship status. I listened in the car to and from work and couldn't wait to get back in the car to hear more. Well written with great narration that delivers the "you've been a dumbass" tone when necessary and the encouraging/affirming tone when you need that. In the end you realize you dont need affirmation from other people and that viewpoint intrinsically makes you happier and more attractive. No I do not work for this author or publisher. I am 48 yrs old and my wife is 46. We met in high school in 1989. I became comfortable and she became restless. I am writing this review because this book describes our relationship and heartache so accurately and if I had read this earlier it could have saved us both years of complacency and the resulting pain that we are working through now. Thankfully it looks like we are going to make it, and I am sure this strategy will help. Thanks for writing this book.

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My bedroom was NOT dead...

My bedroom was NOT dead, BUT, every guy wants to be the best life partner, lover, and friend to their wives. My opinion, if you read this book and keep an open mind, you CAN improve who you are, married or single. If you apply these concepts to yourself, your life AND sex life, will improve. Mine did immediately, even before I finished the book.
Jim, 68, retired and finally happy in marriage #3.

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Reading this as a wife.....

I learned so much about my attitude and how it is affecting my marriage. I might have my reasons for my resentments and anger, but I know that I could have a much happier life if I understood my husband more, and changed my own toxic patterns; this book really helped.

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Brilliant book!!!!

This book is a nail on the head self help and often times hilarious programme for men who struggle in the bedroom. This often not easily spoken about and often mind boggling topic of trying to understand my wife phenomenon is disclosed in a simple and very funny way. My only disappointment was that it was so short. Thanks DSO

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Not sugar coated truth

I liked the book no matter if I'm a woman. Finished in one night. We are ok otherwise, but in bedroom not so much. I miss us how we were in the beginning - lowers not just parents. Wish the man had listened to this and done something about it not just complained about it ...

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Armed with information!

Thanks for getting right to the point instead of forcing us to listen to a 45 min video only to find out you have to "pay to play". You gave me straight to the point advice. The truth will set you free but first it will piss you off!

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big gut check, but very excited to get to work

I hated when I had to put it down. At first it made me feel horrible. Like is that what my wife really thinks about me?? It was crazy how close it hit home. Although I trust that my wife isn't the type of cold hearted woman he was describing, I'd heard alot of the phrases and examples he used from my wife. So I feel like my situation is a combination of the same issues but without the fear of cheating. Just really need a rekindling, making more time for each other. Be the confident strong husband she needs. It was a great book and I was sad when it was done. I actually think I'm going to read it again.

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Wow..

So many harsh truths..
I am trying to engrain this stuff into my mind right now. While at first it was so brutally honest, I found myself becoming enraged, I eventually got to the point where I told myself, wow.. I really need to be about this and really take this with a grain of salt.. life really is kill or be killed and this book really does a great job of outlining the dos and don'ts and carefully and throughly explain all the nuances.

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Great practical advice

This book just says it how it is without all the altruistic bullshit so typical in other publications.

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  • Amazon Customer
  • 08-10-20

Epiphany after epiphany!

Regardless of what the future brings I have just e
dumped about 6yrs worth of rarely controlled resentment after listening to this - more than worth it if only for that. Understanding the 'whys' and yourself is emotionally and physically liberating.

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  • Mandyc
  • 01-29-21

This COULD have saved my marriage

I’m a female that thought she was broken.
Now I’m a single female that knows she’s not!
I wish I had listened to this years ago and made my soon to be x husband listen to it too. I believe with all my heart this book could have saved our marriage.

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  • luke
  • 09-10-20

100% worth 3hrs of your time !!!

I’m over 40 and married for nearly 20 years. I wish someone had given me this book as a wedding present.
The author presents recognisable situations, thoughts and actions I’m sure many of us can relate to. We “husbands” try our best and get it thrown back at us, left wondering where did I go wrong.
Our wives don’t want a nice guy/good dad and husband they want a strong, confident lover. This book gives a simple map to that destination that will not only improve your marriage but also improve you for your benefit and those around you - I highly recommend this book, even if you don’t think you need it you probably do....good luck

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  • Gavin M.
  • 05-16-22

Simple yet specific!

I went into this book not really knowing what to expect from it. I think a lot of men are literally looking for a list of stuff to do to make their sex life more to their liking, and even though this book is formatted in list form to a degree, it mainly explains that you need to focus on being the best you, and then the rest will come naturally. I tend to agree. A must read for any man in a long term relationship or marriage, whether or not your bedroom life is dead, this is an interesting read.

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  • Robert Wattam
  • 10-07-21

Straight talking advice

Really enjoyed the authors style, not to mention the great advice. 90% of men need to read this as part of their mid-life education.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-30-21

Wow shocking insight to the female mind about sex

Just listening to it for a second time, if the content is true then it could be a life changer!
P. S. made an audible account just to listen to this book!

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  • duck u
  • 04-05-21

Eye opening

You want to get something done - do it yourself. I just did not see this in a relationship!! Great book

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  • Jason Overell
  • 01-06-21

a real eye opener

Well I thought I would give this a go.

I am married and have been for nearly 6 years. not the longest I know. This book has opened my eyes to the harmful behaviour I have been displaying and really reached me. Bring on the positive change. Any man should give this a listen who is married and unhappy.

Give it a chance and just try it.

Going to listen to it again. revalational

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  • Sam T.
  • 11-19-20

Best help I've found after years of bad advice! ty

I've had this audio book on repeat for weeks! its by far the best advice.

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  • aiden berry
  • 11-10-20

the truth finally ..

amazing and the best thing I've listened to / read in a very long time. something that will actually help a boy / baby become a man once again.
truth hurts thats for sure but its much needed help for men everywhere
thank you so much

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  • Martin McCabe
  • 02-06-20

Locker room truisms

By his own telling, our author's wife cheated and then divorced him. His tone suggests that he feels embittered and emasculated and wants the world to know that he is FINE now and having much better sex with someone else.
The premise of the book is that to be desired in a relationship you should work on being confident. This isn't very profound but it is probably on the money in my experience. The most tangible suggestion as to how to achieve this is to just to transform yourself at the gym. Perhaps not for everybody.
The book is written in a blokey locker room style that just manages to stay on the knife-edge of misogyny. All of this said, his observations are fair and sometimes almost funny.

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  • ben
  • 02-01-21

Take A look at Yourself

You will either wish you read this earlier or be lucky enough to read it in time.
Truly a transformative read and a start to a beautiful journey.
Thanks DSO.

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  • Leon John Taggart
  • 04-05-22

A MUST READ FOR MEN

Seriously a life changing experience for me. My eyes were opened and life will never be the same again. D.S.O dished up a brutal load of truth that has made me grow up as a man and sent me in a better direction in my relationship and my life. The world is a much better place for me and so many other men due to this book. Thank you D.S.O.

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  • Kindle Customer
  • 09-01-21

absolute gold

cant recomend this book enough. ive read dozens of marriage books. most offer a small nugget that may or may not work for your situation. this book however covers broad areas and points out things that, once you read them, will seem obvoius.

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  • Panos
  • 07-04-21

DSO you f@&!n genius!

The most manly man book out there.
It is written in a language that men can understand and IT WORKS!
I saw changes from day one and could not imagine what came after.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-23-21

A must read

Fantastic book, has changed so many lives. awesome job DSO, I would not be in the great position I am now without your book.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 05-13-21

if she doesn't respect you, she ain't f***ing you.

This is a blunt, no BS hard hitting smack in the face that every pissy whining man needs when he finds himself wanting in his relationship with his partner.
stop reading this review, just read the damn book. Get better, join the fraternity. Thank yourself later.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-21-21

wow

holy shit, I just finished it and am going to restart is straight away. thank you

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  • Anonymous User
  • 02-10-21

Excellent

Was definately an eye opener. Simple, practical, effective, and easy to understand and implement.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 01-05-21

Gamechanger

Great book with valuable insights and reminders that have greatly improved my marriage, thank you.