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Why is it so difficult for men and women to get along? In this phenomenally popular and effective work, Dr. John Gray illustrates how differences in communication styles, behavior, and emotional needs can drive the two sexes apart, and offers ways to help keep them together. By giving us insight into the opposite sex, Dr. Gray shows how we can build loving, mutually fulfilling relationships.
©1998 John Gray (P)1998 HarperCollins Publishers, Inc., All Rights Reserved, Harper Audio, A Division of HarperCollins Publishers

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"A valuable, much-needed book. A contribution to the understanding of the communication styles of men and women." (Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author of Getting the Love You Want)

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  • Lenna
  • Seattle, WA USA
  • 06-29-06

May I suggest...

This is an excellent book, in spite of how cliche the title has become. But I STRONGLY recommend the abridged version.

I am usually 100% anti-abridgement, I hate them hate them hate them. I owned the abridgement of this book on cassette before I purchased the unabridged version. It was abridged by and is read by the author - so you can be certain it still has everything in it that he felt was essential. The unabridged version is very repetitive, which is fine when you are reading but may put you to sleep if you are listening!

42 of 42 people found this review helpful

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  • Isaac
  • Houston, TX, USA
  • 12-06-05

A Very Helpful Guide to The Opposite sex

A GREAT TOOL!!! to becoming a great partner............ This Book will save you from many many unneeded missunderstandings in a relationship. it brings much self improfment by bringing a better understanding of how and why men and women differ. ................. The ONLY negatives are 1) the voice reading is unpleasant at times and 2) few times, it may seem repetative-due to much topic clearification. yet this is really nothing compared to all the benifets it brings........All in ALL, a must read..

10 of 11 people found this review helpful

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Terrible outdated material.

I could barely finish this book because of how bad, inaccurate, and one-sided it's psychology was. As a psychologist one should take into consideration a female perspective. which is something that this man does not do.

3 of 3 people found this review helpful

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  • anita
  • san pedro, CA, United States
  • 10-29-13

Men stick together

What could have made this a 4 or 5-star listening experience for you?

I think the voice was monotone. It did not have the energy I expected in a motivational/inspirational book.

What was most disappointing about John Gray’s story?

It appeared that the story was for women to better understand men and it almost made me believe that women have to be the patient one and accept the "way men are"..Very seldom did he mention mutual efforts.

You didn’t love this book... but did it have any redeeming qualities?

It was informative and it did make me think back to mistakes I may have made along my path. Many of the things he talked about, I saw in my mother and of course, sometimes we adopt things we see our parents do.

7 of 8 people found this review helpful

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Truly Comforting

I don't normally take the time to write reviews, but this book is AMAZING. I downloaded it at a time in my life where my relationship just seemed like it was falling to pieces, but both my fiance and I have been listening to it together, and we BOTH come back to each other time and again to share just how right John Gray is! It is wonderful not only to understand the opposite sex, but also to help you understand yourself and how you can express yourself to your partner. Most of all, it is so comforting to know that you aren't alone! You recognize yourself in almost every word. Repetitive? Maybe. But almost everything John Gray says is WELL worth repeating until you've got it right. I don't know what we would do without this book. It is not a fix-all if you've got serious problems, but it is a wonderful beginning to giving each other the chance that you both deserve.

10 of 12 people found this review helpful

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  • Jignasu
  • Adelphi, MD, USA
  • 06-13-08

Poor Quality

Poor Quality of the audio book. Did not follow the book verbatim. I downloaded the unabridged version and wanted to follow along reading the unabridged book as well; in order to follow the tone of Dr. Gray's Men are from Mars. Some parts were omitted in the audio recording that were listed in the book. The audio otherwise conveyed the point in capturing the tone and message of the book, however it was overall difficult to follow along.

6 of 7 people found this review helpful

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  • Udaya
  • Simi Valley, CA, USA
  • 08-18-03

Wish I knew about this book earlier

Recently divorced after 2 years of seperation. I wish my X-wife and myself read this book 2 years ago. The reasons for most of our problems, which I could not explain before are very clear now. I would have handled many situations differently only if had this knowledge then. I am confident the knowledge gained through this book will be very useful in my future relationships with the people from Venus

9 of 12 people found this review helpful

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  • Victor
  • manalapan, NJ, USA
  • 01-09-03

loved the hard-copy and loved the audio book

almost everyone has heard of this title unless you live in a cave on an island without any access to society and the opposite sex ... listened to it 3 times (on different flights) - makes me laugh even now just thinking about it ...

4 of 5 people found this review helpful

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  • Jennifer
  • Lafayette Hill, PA, USA
  • 09-20-05

Saved our relationship

This book truely saved our relationship at a time where both of us were very confused! John Grey is funny, insightful, and speaks well to not only women, but men too!

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Felt like I was reading a cosmo article

This is the silliest thing I've read marketed to adults. I should have guessed by the title that this would be a he said/she said formula for not communicating but rather playing each other like a cosmo mag advice piece.

1 of 1 people found this review helpful