Sad Love

Romance and the Search for Meaning

De: Carrie Jenkins

Narrado por: Jordan Cobb

As a woman with a husband and other partners, philosopher Carrie Jenkins knows that love is complicated.

Love is most often associated with happiness, satisfaction, and pleasure. But it has a darker side we ignore at our peril. Love is often an uncomfortable and difficult feeling. The people we love can let us down badly. And the ways we love are often quite different to the romantic ideals society foists upon us. Since we are inevitably disappointed by love, wouldn't we be better off without it?

No, says Carrie Jenkins. Instead, we need a new philosophy of love, one that recognizes that the pain and suffering love causes are a natural, even a good part of what makes love worthwhile. What Jenkins calls "sad love" offers no bogus "happy ever afters". Rather, it tries to find a way properly to integrate heartbreak and disappointment into the lived experience of love.

It's time we liberated love.

©2022 Carrie Jenkins (P)2022 Tantor

The premise is good the delivery is poor

There a ton of items that are brought that are valid and should be brought up but the examples provided are one sided and as narrow as the issues that are brought.

Throughout the book it felt like the author was seeking validation for their choices opposed to truly owning them. And instead of focusing on one's choice to make the best of what one has fall back on what has been done to one's self. I would agree with their are many injustices in the world but calling out the wrongs in hope that someone reading this will do something opposed to calling that someone to recognize what part they play in it felt like a missed opportunity.

I personally think that the nuclear family is the hardest structure but it one of the hardest to maintain because what is called out by the author. i agree that focusing on romantic love and letting chance layout out the fate of our life is a good call out. calling out the failures of the said structure again felt like a missed opportunity to call out. I agree that families are more focused on making their families stronger and not knowing our neighbors is a bad but that does not make a nuclear family bad. To call out the failings and to call out how the author's way of life is better feel one sided.

I had to rate the book low because the views seemed to focus on the current political state and the evils with the United Srates without giving credit to the good things that come from society and also for the continued reminders how invalidated the author has felt.

The book sadly in my opinion is a callnout of the author's view of the world and a vision of what the world should be without fully exploring the hard issues from more then their personal view.

Good at the start, quickly becomes dull, imho

Lost interest in content quickly. It might be what you are looking for, but I was expecting something different.

Could not tolerate listening to this audio book

Could not tolerate listening to this reader. She over accentuates the author’s personal accounts making them sound disingenuous. I read the book in electronic form and found it to be excellent. I think the audio book would would have sounded better in the author’s own voice.

Wish I’d read the previous review

The audio voice does not suit the book and made it very difficult (impossible) to listen to.
The book is excellent.
The author’s reading in her other book is excellent.
This experience was dismal (due to the audio voice)