Falling in love can be one of the most beautiful experiences in the world, but it can also be the place where we lose ourselves.

Today, Jay invites us to pause and reflect on how we fall in love, and what it’s costing us when we do. Love, he explains, isn’t meant to complete us or rescue us from our pain; it’s meant to add to a life that already feels rooted and whole. Too often, we mistake intensity for intimacy and attachment for alignment, ignoring the subtle signals that tell us whether a relationship is helping us grow or quietly pulling us away from who we are.

Jay unpacks the biggest mistakes we make in love, beginning with the habit of outsourcing our emotional healing. When we rely on a partner to regulate our emotions, fix our wounds, or validate our worth, love becomes a burden rather than a blessing. He encourages us to tune into the signals that matter most, how you feel after conversations, whether your energy expands or contracts, and if your values are being respected. These signals aren’t signs of failure; they’re invitations to deeper self-awareness and healthier connection.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Fall in Love Without Losing Yourself

How to Stop Making Love Your Identity

How to Let Love Add to Your Life, Not Replace It

How to Heal Yourself Without Relying on a Partner

How to Recognize Emotional Red Flags Early

How to Choose Someone Who Respects Your Life

How to Build Love That Supports Your Growth

Love doesn’t have to feel like losing yourself, proving your worth, or shrinking to be chosen. It can be calm, supportive, and deeply affirming when it’s built from self-respect and clarity.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

01:11 How to Fall in Love Without Losing Yourself

02:10 The Biggest Mistake We Make in Love

03:42 #1: Love Should Bring More Join In

08:12 #2: Don't Outsource Your Emotional Healing

09:57 #3: Don't Ignore the Signals

13:14 #4: The Three Love Boundaries You Mustn't Cross

16:05 #5: Fall in Love with Someone Who Loves Your Life

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Today, Paris Hilton returns to On Purpose not as the icon the world once projected onto her, but as the woman she has fought to become. Paris opens up about the many chapters of her healing journey, through trauma, public scrutiny, and profound personal loss, and how each experience shaped her identity. From revisiting painful moments of being misunderstood, underestimated, and violated in the public eye, to reclaiming her narrative through creativity, advocacy, and self-compassion, Paris reflects on what it truly means to find your voice after years of silence.

Paris also shares how music became a lifeline, a form of therapy that helped her process pain and rediscover her voice, a journey that unfolds in her latest documentary, Infinite Icon. She speaks candidly about living with ADHD, not as a limitation, but as a superpower that fuels her creativity, courage, and entrepreneurial vision. Through stories of hyperfocus, resilience, and learning how to build systems that support the way her mind works, Paris reframes what success can look like when you stop trying to fit into a world that was never designed for you.

Now a mother of two, Paris reflects on how love, boundaries, and purpose have reshaped her life. She opens up about finding real partnership after doing the inner work, the joy and responsibility of raising children with kindness and openness, and why giving back, especially protecting vulnerable children and supporting communities in the aftermath of loss, has become central to who she is today.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Stop Carrying Shame That Was Never Yours

How to Heal Without Erasing Your Past

How to Set Boundaries Without Apologizing

How to Build Self-Worth Beyond Public Opinion

How to Lead With Kindness After Pain

How to Become Yourself Again After Survival Mode

You don’t have to be perfect to move forward. You don’t have to be understood by everyone to be worthy. What matters most is the relationship you build with yourself, the boundaries you honor, and the kindness you choose to lead with.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

02:13 Healing Through Music

05:15 Lyrics That Could Change Your Mood

06:40 ADHD Awareness

10:09 How to Turn ADHD Into a Superpower

11:34 Doing Important Things First

14:24 The Challenges of Having ADHD

17:59 The Importance of a Strong Support System for Children

20:34 The Aftermath Of A Damaging Tape

24:49 Revisiting A Terrible Experience

27:47 Back In The Spotlight

29:43 Healing And Reclaiming Your Narrative

34:24 The Journey Of Healing

38:48 The Joys Of Motherhood

49:39 Lessons From The Paris Playbook

42:38 Being Misunderstood & Underestimated

44:28 What Truly Matters Is You

46:43 Is It Love Or Just ADHD?

49:27 Routines To Help People With ADHD

51:27 Perfectionism Is A Myth

52:33 The LA Wildfires

57:55 Final Five: Paris Hilton

Episode Resources:

Website | https://parishilton.com/

Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/parishilton/

YouTube | https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwl5c3q0uBK3mVv9OXQUeeQ

Twitter | https://twitter.com/parishilton

Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/ParisHilton

TikTok | https://www.tiktok.com/@parishilton

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