Not Tonight, Honey

Why Women Actually Don’t Want Sex and What We Can Do About It

By: Courtney Boyer

Narrated by: Courtney Boyer

When it comes to your sex life, do you ever ask yourself, "What's wrong with me? Am I broken?"

You're not alone. So many women have felt that way. But not for the reasons you think. This audiobook explores why women have actually struggled sexually, helping you to realize where these feelings of brokenness originated. Having this awareness will open you to the possibilities of creating a sex life that works for you.

Does the idea of having a sex life that works for you seem unattainable? When you’ve spent years battling your body image, dismissing sexual advances from your partner, and even praying that not another person touches you today, you’re primed to resist and resent sex. And then it becomes just another thing on your never-ending to-do list.

The stories that Courtney Boyer shares in Not Tonight, Honey will have you wondering if she wrote this audiobook about you. The insight and wisdom inside will encourage you to look at your sex life differently. Courtney Boyer provides listeners with practical solutions, including how to establish a pleasure practice, aimed at increasing sexual satisfaction, as well as specific tools that will allow you to have a different conversation about sex and pleasure with yourself, your partner, and even your children.

This audiobook will leave you feeling empowered to work towards change and help you realize that you are allowed to ask for what you want inside and outside of the bedroom.

©2023 Courtney Boyer (P)2025 Courtney Boyer

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Listening honestly felt like having a heart-to-heart with a wise, non-judgmental friend. Courtney gets real about why so many women feel disconnected from their sexual desire and she does it with empathy, humor, and a lot of insight.

What I appreciated most was how practical it was. She gave actual steps to help you understand what’s going on and how to reconnect with yourself (and your partner). Hearing her narrate it herself made it feel even more genuine.

If you’ve ever felt like something was “off” in your sex life but couldn’t quite name it, this is absolutely worth a listen.

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Not Tonight, Honey by Courtney Boyer is an honest and relatable book about why so many women feel disconnected from sex and how to start changing that. She’s warm, honest and full of empathy – no shame or judgment here! I really appreciate how she addresses the everyday things that kill desire, like stress, burnout, body image, and people-pleasing.

I also have this as a book, but the audio format made it feel super personal in a way that had me nodding along as I listened. I finished the book feeling way more seen and way less alone.

Everyone should give it a listen – you won’t regret it!

Wow- incredibly insightful and well-researched

When I decided to listen to this book, I expected some standard “getting in touch with your feminine energy” content… and while this book has some of that to be sure, it also has some wonderful historical context, as well as personal anecdotes, behind why so many women just don’t want to be physically intimate with their partners. In addition to examining the “why,” the book also offers many practical solutions and pieces of advice to add to your toolkit. I truly enjoyed this listen, and I hope to put some of the tips to use in my own life!

Great Primer

Courtney provides a lot of great and researched information into everything that surrounds a woman and her sexuality. Beyond sex, this book looks at the entire psychological environment that starts or stops a woman's sexual enjoyment. Definitely worth the read!