When I stopped trying to fix or change my child, and explored my own role in fostering bullying behaviors, I found the answers I needed. These behaviors were a direct consequence of my own insecurities. - Sean Grover, Ph.D.

Summary

Parents often make excuses for their children's outrageous behavior, whether it's a preschooler's tantrum or a teen's sullen refusal to do what he or she has been asked. Children who become unmanageable or verbally abusive to their parents are, in fact, bullies, although most parents don't think of these behaviors in that way. Maybe they should.

• Kids aren't the problem—unchecked patterns are. When disrespect or control shows up in a child, it often points back to gaps in parental boundaries, consistency, or self-awareness.

• Testing limits is normal. Running the house is not. Kids are supposed to push boundaries, but they also need parents who confidently hold them. That's what makes them feel secure.

• Your parenting is shaped by your past. How you were raised affects how you handle conflict, discipline, and respect. If you don't examine it, you'll repeat it.

• Inconsistency creates escalation. When parents give in, avoid, or explode, kids learn to push harder. Over time, this can turn into manipulative or aggressive behavior.

• Healthy authority starts with self-control. Calm, consistent, self-aware parenting is more powerful than strict rules or harsh discipline. Kids follow who you are, not just what you say.

• Where do we struggle most with consistency or follow-through as parents? (Be specific about situations where you tend to give in, avoid, or overreact.)

• How did the way we were raised shape how we respond to our kids today? (Think about conflict, discipline, and handling disrespect.)

• Are we aligned in how we set and enforce boundaries? If not, where are we off? (And what's one practical change we can agree to make this week?)

https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/singletons/201509/the-3-types-of-parents-who-get-bullied-by-their-own-children

The most effective parents aren't the loudest—they're the most consistent.

Why do we yell at our kids, even when we know it doesn't work? In this episode, we unpack the hard truth behind yelling in parenting: it's often not a discipline strategy, but a reaction to stress, frustration, and lack of follow-through. While it may get quick results, it slowly weakens our authority and damages connection with our kids. We talk about why yelling becomes a habit, what it's actually teaching our children, and how to replace it with calmer, more effective discipline. You'll walk away with simple, practical strategies to respond with intention instead of reaction, and build a home where your voice doesn't have to get louder to be heard. This is a re-release of "Yelling, the Lazy Approach to Parenting".

• Pause before reacting to your child. Take a breath and step away if needed.

• Get physically close. Instead of yelling across the house, get up and go to them and make eye contact.

• Use fewer words, but use them clearly. Short instructions are better than long, angry diatribes.

• Follow through consistently. Sometimes kids don't listen the first time because you never made clear that is what you expect.

• Address your own triggers. Notice when you tend to yell and plan ahead for those moments.

• Make sure to repair the relationship when you mess up. When we apologize we model humility and it can actually strengthen your relationship.

• When are we most likely to yell at our kids? (Time of day, situation, stress level)

• How does yelling affect our relationship with them long-term?

• What would change in our home if the kids listened to us without raising our voices?

"The sexual revolution was not about freedom. It was about transferring power from families to the state." - Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse

What really makes a family essential, and why does it matter so much right now? In this episode, Dr. Jennifer Roback Morse makes a compelling, research-based case for why children need both their mother and their father. We explore the irreplaceable role of mothers in forming trust and attachment, the unique responsibility of fathers to provide protection, limits, and direction, and how these roles evolve as children grow. You'll hear why the family is not outdated or insignificant, but the best and most natural place for human formation.

We also dig into the devastation of the sexual revolution, unpacking the contraceptive, divorce, and gender ideologies and how they've reshaped society at the expense of the most vulnerable. This conversation is a powerful reminder that there is no substitute for family, and the Church was right all along.

• Children don't just need love in general. They need the distinct, complementary presence of both a mother and a father, especially in their earliest years of formation.

• The family is the primary place where a child learns how to use freedom well. There is no automatic or "invisible" process that forms character without intentional relationships.

• Mothers and fathers have different but equally vital roles that change over time, from early attachment and safety to setting limits and guiding children toward independence.

• The sexual revolution has weakened families by separating sex from children, marriage, and the body itself, with serious consequences for the most vulnerable, especially children.

• How do we intentionally live out our roles as mother and father in our family right now, and where might we need to grow or adjust together?

• In what ways has the culture shaped our view of marriage, parenting, or family life, and how can we more consciously build our home around truth rather than those messages?

The Ruth Institute: https://ruthinstitute.org/