I Miss You When I Blink

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Narrated by: Mary Laura Philpott
Length: 6 hrs and 5 mins
4.3 out of 5 stars (330 ratings)

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Publisher's Summary

Acclaimed essayist and bookseller Mary Laura Philpott presents a charmingly relatable and wise memoir in essays about what happened after she checked off all the boxes on her successful life’s to-do list and realized she might need to reinvent the list - and herself.

Mary Laura Philpott thought she’d cracked the code: Always be right, and you’ll always be happy. 

But once she’d completed her life’s to-do list (job, spouse, house, babies - check!), she found that instead of feeling content and successful, she felt anxious. Lost. Stuck in a daily grind of overflowing calendars, grueling small talk, and sprawling traffic. She’d done everything “right”, but she felt all wrong. What’s the worse failure, she wondered: smiling and staying the course or blowing it all up and running away? And are those the only options? 

In this memoir in essays full of spot-on observations about home, work, and creative life, Philpott takes on the conflicting pressures of modern adulthood with wit and heart. She offers up her own stories to show that identity crises don’t happen just once or only at midlife; reassures us that small, recurring personal reinventions are both normal and necessary; and advises that if you’re going to faint, you should get low to the ground first. Most of all, Philpott shows that when you stop feeling satisfied with your life, you don’t have to burn it all down and set off on a transcontinental hike (unless you want to, of course). You can call upon your many selves to figure out who you are, who you’re not, and where you belong. Who among us isn’t trying to do that?

Like a pep talk from a sister, I Miss You When I Blink is the funny, poignant, and deeply affecting audiobook you’ll want to share with all your friends, as you learn what Philpott has figured out along the way: that multiple things can be true of us at once - and that sometimes doing things wrong is the way to do life right.

©2019 Mary Laura Philpott (P)2019 Simon & Schuster

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A story for forty-something’s.

This book of light essays on the trials, tribulations, and triumphs of a talented writer was definitely geared toward the younger generation where it would be so much more relatable. As a reader over sixty, it just didn’t ring true in any sense. My fault for not doing my homework before beginning the read.

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Witty and Smart

I Miss You When I Blink is a combination of “oh my gosh, you feel that way too-giggle giggle” and “I know your pain- tear tear” that makes another working mom (trying to balance family, career and the ever elusive self-care) feel like she has a tribe. Mary Laura, Thanks for your honesty and your willingness to poke fun at your own journey so I feel more normal!

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I’m old enough to be her mom, and yet

Everything she writes about resonates with my own experience. The title essay is destined to be a classic. Loved every part of this book.

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Good for 30 somethings

I thought this book was well written and performed. But, I think the target audience is probably more toward women in their 30’s and early 40’s, especially if you are a perfectionist. I am in my mid fifties and I didn’t gain much insight from the stories, since many of the experiences the author spoke about, were already behind me.

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Great read

Such a good book. I give it 4.5 stars as some essays I didn’t connect with however I love, love, love, the authors sense of wry humor. Her type A personality mimicked mine and her after thoughts when she made or didn’t. Are a decision could have been taken straight from my head. Most of the essays made me laugh in collaboration with her knowing and feeling the same way. I recommend this book.

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Awesome

Really made an impact on me! Perhaps one reason is because I’m also a recovering perfectionist English major grad of Davidson! Excellent, authentic, articulate. Thank you, Mary Laura!

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Love hearing great works from fellow wildcats!

I loved how I could relate to everything here, but especially all the pieces about college friends as compared to mundane parties with others.

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Looking in the mirror

Love this book! I had a difficult time putting it on pause as I wanted to keep listening. This book was a perfect depiction of my life. It made me laugh and nod. It hit home! I highly recommend it for those Type A personalities.

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Loved these essays!

These were so relatable. I was genuinely sorry when I finished listening. I know I'll go back and listen again and again!

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So very relatable!

Every time you want to beat yourself up for some quirky behavior she will confirm that it's not just you. There's no fix in here, but it sure feels good to know you're not alone. I thoroughly enjoyed this book and didn't want it to end.

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Smug breeder heteronormative personal stories

I'm not usually so harsh on a book that's reasonably well written - but her intensely self obsessed world had little humour and little of interest. I was very surprised with this after seeing her interviewed and her being apparently entertaining, kind and insightful. This book however is dull and I'll be returning it. In the book she describes a slip into depression - which I wouldn't wish on anyone, but seems not at all unsurprising with her insipid unexamined life. Hopefully the book helps her deal with that. but that doesnt mean it's fun to read