How to Date a Millennial

The Dating Guide

By: Justin LaCour

Narrated by: Holly Holt

Length: 32 mins

Publisher's Summary

If you are searching for a date in the new millennium, this audiobook will give you the tools that you will need to meet the love of your life. There are millions of beautiful women around the world who are willing and waiting to meet you. The only thing holding you back is you!

©2018 Justin C LaCour (P)2018 Justin C LaCour

ok for what it is

I ended up with this audiobook in a sort of accident. But I had a tedious, somewhat mindless task to do and it was only 32 minutes. So, I figured I could listen to it and get it off my shelf while I pecked away on the computer. Plus, I was kind of curious what it would claim was so different about dating a millennial.

The first thing I noticed was that, despite the general title, this is a guide for men to meet women. And it feels very much like a guide for how an older man might meet a woman (it assumes the man is introverted or unfamiliar with clubs, online dating and such) and since it specifies millennial, I assume it's intended for older men to meet a younger woman.

It starts with places to meet women, church, the club, mutual friends, etc. I felt it questionable that a funeral was suggested as a good place to meet someone for a fling, but otherwise nothing unheard of or new here, nothing millennial specific either.

It goes on to suggest walking up to and speaking to a woman (wow)...but be sure to abort mission if her boyfriend is nearby (eye-roll). Then, it's on to the first date (dress respectfully, take time to take care of your appearance, be punctual, dine somewhere familiar, don't mumble, don't hijack the conversation, ask questions, listen, stay on neutral topics, avoid heavy personal questions, put the phone away, pick up the bill (she can get the bill on the second date), ask for 2nd date if you want it, but don't promise to call if you don't want one). Again, nothing new...or millennial specific here.

Next, it finally claims to get to millennials women. But honestly even this feels like women in general. But I suppose a 60-year-old man might need to hear some of it laid out plainly. It says all women are different. Don't' stifle her. Support her goals. Learn her deal breakers. "Woman of the new world take less drama than their counterparts in previous years." <-- This is the kind of quote that makes me think this is a book for older men to find younger women. Along with things like, "Is she comfortable with your sexual or marital history? For ladies in their 20s they see life through rose-colored glasses...however older ladies they are cool with divorcé or single fathers." Find out her preferences and be honest. Gone are the days of playing games. Observe her body language. Don't' be intimidated by her success. Watch your health, including sexual health. So, use protection. Don't force it (the relationship). It goes on in the same vein. The feeling I got was that men are being informed that millennial ladies are their own woman and they need to let her live her life and not expect her to drop everything for him. Again, duh, this is hardly millennial specific. But if you're going into the dating scene expecting a 50s-era wife, I suppose you might need the clarification.

All in all, I think the title is misleading. No woman would get anything useful out of this. So, I think it needs to be How to Date a Millenial Woman or How a Boomer/Gen-X Man Might Date a Millennial Woman. This would be more honest. But even that I feel doesn't really hit the mark. Because as I've said numerous times, very very little here is specific to millennials. I suppose it might give a guy who'd been out of the scene for a while some confidence though.

As a woman, I side-eyed a few comments. But on the whole, I found very little in it truly objectionable. And considering some of the toxicity out there, that is saying a lot. I appreciate that it reiterated that there is nothing earth-shattering in being turned down, reinforced that women don't owe them a date or anything else, reminded men that women shouldn't have to drop everything to be with them, etc. None of it is bad advice, just not new or original.

Really enjoyed the narrator

Some of the information seemed to be a little bit obvious but I’m sure that anyone who has been struggling to find a date may pick up some pointers.