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How to Be Alone

If You Want to, and Even If You Don't
Narrated by: Lane Moore
Length: 6 hrs and 3 mins
4.5 out of 5 stars (665 ratings)

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The former sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan and host of the wildly popular comedy show Tinder Live with Lane Moore presents her poignant, funny, and deeply moving first audiobook.

Lane Moore is a rare performer who is as impressive onstage - whether hosting her iconic show Tinder Live or being the enigmatic front woman of It Was Romance - as she is on the page, as both a former writer for The Onion and an award-winning sex and relationships editor for Cosmopolitan. But her story has had its obstacles, including being her own parent, living in her car as a teenager, and moving to New York City to pursue her dreams. Through it all, she looked to movies, TV, and music as the family and support systems she never had.

From spending the holidays alone to having better “stranger luck” than with those closest to her to feeling like the last hopeless romantic on Earth, Lane reveals her powerful and entertaining journey in all its candor, anxiety, and ultimate acceptance - with humor always her bolstering force and greatest gift.

How to Be Alone is a must-listen for anyone whose childhood still feels unresolved, who spends more time pretending to have friends online than feeling close to anyone in real life, who tries to have genuine, deep conversations in a roomful of people who would rather you not. Above all, it’s an audiobook for anyone who desperately wants to feel less alone and a little more connected through listening to her words. 

©2018 Lane Moore. All rights reserved. (P)2018 Simon & Schuster, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Self awareness I wasn’t expecting

This book was suggested to me by a friend and I genuinely thought I was going to be a self help book that had a bit of an edge. Female writer, cover I related to, sure! Well it was so much more.

Part memoir, part cautionary tale, part advice, all heart. I don’t relate to Lane on every aspect she bravely shares in this book, but damn do I relate to her thoughts and behaviors as an adult. I was able to gather insight I’d been seeking all year and I have a big smile on my face knowing that she would be genuinely happy to know that she helped a stranger.

If you’ve always felt a little weird and a little outside the norm of society, I’d recommend this book. It was like talking to a friend.

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loved this book!

I have listened to this book twice! This is my first holiday season alone and I am so gladni stumbled upon this book!

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This book is for you

if you're single and navigating what it means to grow into adulthood in 2018, this book is for you. If you feel like you're surrounded by people who met their partner in high school or college and have never had to navigate the perils of dating apps, and think 'getting out there!' is 'fun!', this book is for you. If you feel intimidated by people who somehow manage to have like, a tight knit group of good friends, and a job they love and/or pays them well, and solid mental health, and you, um, don't have that? this book is for you.

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perfect timing

I found this book on my facebook feed in an audible ad post breakup and getting ready to move out. It's incredibly real and even though I haven't experienced every single thing the author has, I felt like I was listening to someone else tell my story. She puts so many feelings into words that I could not describe over the years. So many internal dialogues secretly had with myself that I thought made me crazy when really, I was just human. This book is raw, honest, and reassuringly human. Thank you Lane Moore.

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because of this book im not alone anymore.

because of this book, I'll never be alone again. Moore's voice holds you in the dark.

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Everyone must read.

Lane Moore is brutally honest and opens parts of her heart that no one should have to. And that’s the point, she doesn’t have to. She does so on the hope, that she can help even one soul feel seen, heard, and a little less alone. What a gorgeous treat this book has been.

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Garbage

You know that whiny, neurotic friend you avoid because all they ever do is complain about their life, and how tough they've had it because everyone lets them down by not filling the black hole of their emotional neediness? Well, she wrote a book. Now you can listen to her blame everyone and everything for why her life is awful. I listened for almost 2 hours before I just gave up. I hoped this would be helpful in some way to navigate being alone. Clearly what the author meant by "How To Be Alone" was not "here is helpful advice for becoming comfortable with being alone", she meant "here is how to act if you want to drive everyone away from you so you end up alone."

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Relatable

This was a delightfully written book...hilarious but also a deep reflection of many of the things I’ve struggled reconciling about my “alone-ness”. Worth the read, especially if you’ve ever felt like a left shoe in a right world.

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Loved the traditions

I so did my own traditions for a few years even hiked on thanksgiving and found a pair of ray bans sunglasses on my hike solo. You can do your own thing and this book reinforced my own beliefs to keep on trucking .... at your own pace.
Fuck it.

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You know how your phone listens to you and shows you ads that are related to or EXACTLY what you were just talking about?

I stumbled upon this book, rather the ads were everywhere for it on different social media apps, and I’m so glad I did.

I did not live the same life as Lane and I surely did not have the same experiences; the way she writes, reads, and thinks AH it’s stupendous.

Every part of the book resonated with me heavily. A great listen and just recently a great addition to my physical library.

Support the creators and artists you enjoy so you can continually see them thrive and grow I always say.

5 stars, a millions stars.

Thank you for sharing, Lane.

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  • Neli UE
  • 01-02-19

This book is actually a magic potion

And with this magic potion you will never feel alone ever again, I promise. Lane really knows what she's talking about.

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  • Kate
  • 08-11-19

Hilarious, honest and beautifully written

This story was such a beautiful, funny and devastating journey. Lane has such a stunning talent for sharing stories of her difficult childhood. Such a talented, hilarious and entertaining writer.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 07-30-19

amazing!

I finished it in one day and felt so connected, even cried at the end.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 04-17-19

Gorgeous

Moore's writing, ideas, and narration are beautiful. This book meant so much to me, and at a time when I really needed it.