How Not to Be an *ss

Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man

By: Andrew J. Bauman

Narrated by: Adam Naranjo

Length: 2 hrs and 46 mins

Publisher's summary

I am a recovering ass.

Of course, at times I still am one, but it's less often. I now recognize my “assness” more quickly, recalibrate, and take action to make amends for my poor behavior. It's important to acknowledge the truth of our mistakes without turning toward self-contempt, shame, or beating ourselves up for the harm we have caused to those we love. Yet, we must take full responsibility for our poor behavior and fully own what we have done and learn to live differently, becoming men who bring life rather than further heartache.

This audiobook is just as much for me as it is for you. I am in the process of learning to become a good and safe man, and writing out these truths in this book has helped me immensely. I hope it will help you on your journey to becoming the man you most desire to be.

©2022 Andrew Bauman (P)2022 Andrew Bauman

Excellent and very important book

This is an excellent and very important book to break toxic cycles for both men and women. I do hope that many will read it with an open mind and willingness to reflect deeply and be honest with themselves in order to bring about change and growth.

Accurate descriptions of abusive behavior, language and attitudes that are used in subtle ways to manipulate and coerce others.

Great book quick and easy read with mountains of relevant information that can be easily applied to guide recovery

Good

It would have been a bit better if the author was one that struggled with the issues in the book. I struggle hard and at times don't even realize I'm being a verbally abusive Jerk. Nor do I want to be one!

I Am a recovering ass

the revealing of me was frightening and needed this short book contains great wisdom in such short book. must read for every church goer and pastor but it is only the beginning

*sses, Mount Up

Men, your wife brings you this book, and you scoff at it. But, read it…and if you get offended by the words, look deeper into why that is. I’ve fallen short time and time again, and this book is written by someone that overcame the issues we are dealing with. This gives me hope. Knowing this, we know that he’s been there, and can relate, but also speak out for the women who’s voices aren’t being heard loud enough. I encourage you to give it a chance. A very informative and necessary book for a step in the right direction.

Shameful. Toxic, Not Helpful

If you are looking to develop a healthy view of masculinity, become emotionally healthy, learn how to treat women, etc., look elsewhere.

This author has a long way to go to "not be an *ss". He is full of contempt and cheap criticism of men and the Christian church. He goes so far as to compare the men of the US Armed forces to mass shooters.

In his view, real men don't set themselves in harms way to defend their wives and children. No. the best portrait of "healthy masculinity" is himself, when he has the "strength and courage" to cry openly in the face of personal loss. Nothing wrong with shedding som tears, but he couldn't find a single example of gentle, controlled strength, nothing about self sacrifice, nothing about laying one's life down, nothing about courageous leadership and making the tough decisions. "Just take care of yourself emotionally and be good to mama, and you'll be a healthy man" is his message. Sorry, but there's a lot more to it than that. Real men do more than cry. That might get you out of childhood and into your adolescent years, but you still have some ground to cover if you want to claim the title "real man".