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Time after time, His Needs, Her Needs has topped the charts as the best-selling marriage book available. In this classic book, Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr., identifies the 10 most vital needs of men and women and shows husbands and wives how to make their marriage sizzle by satisfying those needs in their spouses. He provides guidance for becoming irresistible to your spouse and for loving more creatively and sensitively, thereby eliminating the problems that often lead to conflict and even extramarital affairs.

Join those who have seen spectacular changes in their marriages by following Dr. Harley's tried and proven counsel. You will discover that an outstanding marriage can be more than a dream - it can be your reality.

©1986, 1994, 2001 Willard F. Harley, Jr. (P)2020 One Audiobooks

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Easy read! Every couple should read this book!

I couldn't quit listening. I finished it in a day! I enjoyed the facts based on research. He tells you what most others are afraid to talk about.

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Content is great but...

As you listen to the author speak you will hear several times there phone ringing and somebody’s voice in the back ground as well, which can be very distracting. Also, I feel that the author might not take enough breaks in between reading the book and he ends up sounding robotic at times and his voice is pasty. I do the content is great.

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Great book.

Great writing. Great reading. Author used examples that made concepts easy to understand. I finished it in 3 days. I learnt that it takes more than just saying 'I am committed to you' to make a marriage work. I am more enlightened about marriage as I prepare for mine.

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SIMPLY BEST

If any married couple find this a wasted purchase I will offer to refund their money😊

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Mostly good stuff

If you can get past a few biased comments in his examples you will find this book a wonderful aid in personal and couple growth.

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clearest, most prescriptive marriage-help book

I've read many marriage books. and none have explained the difference between a man and a woman's needs as much as Dr. Harley has here. not only do i feel i understand my wife more, but i now have specific instructions on what I can do better. I don't like how he used the negative aversion of an affair through his cautionary tales of sultry infidelity to motivate people to be better spouses. But I understand that most of his exposure to marital issues was through the lens of clients who were in the midst of affairs.

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Well thought out and practical

Enjoyed listening to this so practical and the examples made the content easier to consume. highlight was the love bank concept it clearly articulates how I feel when my partner earns or looses points by not meeting my emotional needs.

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a must for marriages

for marriages to get a idea of how to love each other. you may not agree with everything but the points are important

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Just what I needed!

I even recommend to my therapist! we are going to use it in couples therapy!

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Sexist & too simple

It may have been the sing-songy delivery, but some of the advice is presented too simply and assumes particular gender roles for men and women. “Men think…” puts all men in the same boat and I felt excused their behavior as if men were just too simple to understand communication and why women might want it. Definitely not my favorite book.

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  • 12-18-20

Essential for all marriages.

Very revealing & un put downable. Essential reading for all marriages. Whether never had, never thought about or had an affair & looking to rebuild.

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  • 02-11-22

Insightful but dated.

This is a great book with much to learn from, but it needs to be read between the lines and with a critical eye. It's very heteronormative and patriarchal, and some passages are just wishful thinking for somebody idealizing the 50s nuclear family myth. Nevertheless, baby and bathwater and all that, there's tons of good stuff here.

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  • Ms. K. Martin
  • 02-03-22

The absolute BEST RELATIONSHIP BOOK EVER!

I'm on my second marriage. The crazy thing is I discovered this book and read it at the END of my first message. It literally had every argument we were going thru at the time! Unfortunately my wife did NOT want to read the book. No matter how much a pleaded. 8 years later I've remarried and we have STARTED OUT with this book and will continue to read it every year! It's better to start off with this even before you have any marital problems then to wait & read /need it later.

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  • 08-05-21

Informative albeit outdated/offensive at points

I found this book informative in many ways about considering the different needs of each partner. It is however, heteronormative and doesn’t account for same sex relationships. At points it also arguably offers sexist and patriarchal views and values: particularly around how women should dress and present themselves. I also felt uncomfortable with his suggestion that it is okay to physically punish children. Given he is a psychotherapist I would have expected him to have a greater insight into how damaging this can be for a child’s development. Other than these points, I did find it insightful and useful in terms of how to communicate and meet our needs in relationships and would recommend reading it.

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  • FEVAL M.
  • 05-26-21

Life changing book

Key emotional needs are very relevant. A genuine source a inspiration for a better marriage.