Family in Six Tones

A Refugee Mother, an American Daughter

De: Lan Cao, Harlan Margaret Van Cao

Narrado por: Elyse Dinh-McCrillis, VyVy Nguyen

"A brilliant duet and a moving exploration of the American immigrant experience." (Ruth Ozeki, author of A Tale for the Time Being)

A dual first-person memoir by the acclaimed Vietnamese American novelist and her thoroughly American teenage daughter.

In 1975, 13-year-old Lan Cao boarded an airplane in Saigon and got off in a world where she faced hosts she had not met before, a language she didn't speak, and food she didn't recognize, with the faint hope that she would be able to go home soon. Lan fought her way through confusion, and racism, to become a successful lawyer and novelist. Four decades later, she faced the biggest challenge in her life: raising her daughter, Harlan - half Vietnamese by birth and 100 percent American teenager by inclination. In their lyrical joint memoir, told in alternating voices, mother and daughter cross ages and ethnicities to tackle the hardest questions about assimilation, aspiration, and family.

Lan wrestles with her identities as not merely an immigrant, but a refugee from an unpopular war. She has bigoted teachers who undermine her in the classroom and tormenting inner demons, but she does achieve - either despite or because of the work ethic and tight support of a traditional Vietnamese family struggling to get by in a small American town. Lan has ambitions, for herself and for her daughter, but even as an adult feels tentative about her place in her adoptive country and ventures through motherhood as if it is a foreign landscape.

Reflecting and refracting her mother's narrative, Harlan fiercely describes the rites of passage of childhood and adolescence, filtered through the aftereffects of her family's history of war, tragedy, and migration. Harlan's struggle to make friends in high school challenges her mother to step back and let her daughter find her own way.

Family in Six Tones speaks both to the unique struggles of refugees and to the universal tug-of-war between mothers and daughters. The journey of an immigrant - away from war and loss toward peace and a new life - and the journey of a mother raising a child to be secure and happy are both steep paths filled with detours and stumbling blocks. Through explosive fights and painful setbacks, mother and daughter search for a way to accept the past and face the future together.

©2020 Lan Cao, Harlan Margaret Van Cao (P)2020 Penguin Audio

Reseñas de la Crítica

”What makes this memoir especially compelling is the way these two separate but linked perspectives illuminate silences or gaps in the stories each woman tells. For example, Cao's probing but emotionally restrained narrative focuses on the facts of her remarkable life ... As it celebrates the mother-daughter bond, this book reveals the added complexities that bring together refugee mothers and their American children while also maintaining a certainunbridgeable distance ... An eloquent and affecting multigenerational memoir.“ (Kirkus Reviews)

“Family in Six Tones is a brilliant duet and a moving exploration of the American immigrant experience. Mother and daughter speak to each other across generations and cultures, revealing and bridging their differences with patience and hard-won trust. Their astonishingly heartfelt dialogue offers a model for sharing the deeper truths that so often get ignored or forgotten.” (Ruth Ozeki, author of A Tale for the Time Being)

"Startling and necessary, Family in Six Tones takes us deep into the singular bond of a mother and daughter, fiercely connected by a love wrought out of loss and the will to create anew. This memoir will forever trouble the water of the American Dream, complicating it and clarifying it of the myths and masks of survival, assimilation, and success. It reminds us that Vietnamese refugees, like so many who call this country home, are not amnesiacs. We carry within us memories of faraway places and discarded lives. Thus our dreams here are haunted, unsettled, and yet we still dream." (Monique Truong, author of The Book of Salt)

What writing should be

Immersive, informative, heartfelt, thought-provoking, informative, beautiful.

Tough subjects, brave that they tackled them publicly - and we as readers are lucky that they did!

Wonderful peek into the Vietnamese experience!

A well-written book by a Mother-Daughter duo. I live in an area with many Vietnamese, they were a mystery to me, sweet, gracious, and industrious people. I got a peek into family dynamics, superstitions, and ethics. The second generation told from the daughter's view showed the struggle to blend the Asian and Western cultures into one being.
This book has stayed with me, I am glad they wrote it. The Mother is an amazing woman, who has accomplished so much with trauma in her background, not many people could do this..