Everybody Fights

So Why Not Get Better at It?

De: Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness

Narrado por: Kim Holderness, Penn Holderness

A USA Today and Wall Street Journal bestseller!

Learn how to fight better and end your arguments with your partner feeling closer, more loved, and better understood.

We take our cars in for oil changes. We mow our lawns and pull weeds. Why don't we do maintenance on our marriages? This relationship is the most important one we will ever have, so why not get better at it?

For the last several years, Penn and Kim Holderness of The Holderness Family have done the hard maintenance and the research to learn how to fight better. With the help of their marriage coach Dr. Christopher Edmonston, they break down their biggest (and in some cases, funniest) fights. How did a question about chicken wings turn into a bra fight (no, not a bar fight or a bra fight)? How did a roll of toilet paper lead to tears, resentment, and a stint in the guest bedroom?

With their trademark sense of humor and complete vulnerability, Penn and Kim share their 10 most common Fight Fails and how to combat them. Throughout the book, they offer scripts for how to start, continue, and successfully close hard conversations. Couples will emerge equipped to engage and understand, not do battle—and maybe laugh a little more along the way.

In Everybody Fights, couples will learn how to:

• Use "magic words" for healthy conflict resolution
• Address unspoken and unrealistic expectations
• Banish the three Ds of unhealthy communication—distraction, denial, and delay
• Carry individual baggage while helping your partner deal with theirs

Penn and Kim want you to know you're not alone. Everybody fights. Marriage is messy. Marriage is work. But marriage is worth it. Fight for it!

Love these Two

Even if you dont know this couple from their popular videos and podcast you should give this a listen. Yes it's a marriage advice book, which I didnt think I needed. Being a fan, I thought Id give it a shot. The books focus is on communication and respect that transcends marriage. Penn and Kim are charming and funny storytellers who also will make you tear up a bit. They didn't so much read the book, as have a conversation. This made me connect with them and there stories.

A MUST-LISTEN FOR EVERYONE IN A RELATIONSHIP!

This book was not only funny, relatable and engaging but also extremely informative and helpful! Penn and Kim are so transparent,
authentic and giving of their experiences in order to help people they’ll never even meet! My hubby and I have been married for decades and found this to be an impactful and fun way to learn more about our communication. We needed this book so much!!! I even ordered the hard copy too so I can see the “helpful boxes” for myself! Lastly, listening to them read this together and also go off-script was a delight!! All audiobooks should be on this level of valuable!!! Thanks so much, Kim and Penn🫶🏻

such a unique perspective!!

loved this book!!! love how real the authors are. I got so much more out of the audible than the book. it's just so fun listening to them!!

everything a marriage needs

my husband and I can unashamedly say that we have been through it and there was a time in our marriage that we desperately needed these tips from our marriage counselor and didn't get what we needed in order for us to stay together. we separated not long after we started counseling. by God's grace we healed a bit by ourselves to come back and be stronger than ever. THAT being said we wished this book had been around then in order to help save us from ourselves then. we are soooooo thankful we have found it now as we will always be learning how to communicate and fight better. thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities and weaknesses to help the rest of us know we are not alone and we CAN do this.

Love this couple!

I've been following the Holderness Family for a while now and have always loved not only their sense of humor but also their down-to-earth and realistic approach toward marriage and life. They delivered that and more in this book, and I really enjoyed it!