Ep. 8: I Don't Want to Be Your Caregiver, I Want to Be Your Wife
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Publisher's Summary
[Contains Mature Themes] Almost two years ago her husband was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's Disease. They have three kids, a mortgage to pay, and he has developed some compulsive behaviors he isn't proud of. Esther helps them learn how to turn off the 'caregiver,' and remember they are much more than that to each other.
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- Krystal
- 12-05-17
I love these series!
Love both of these seasons! It's a very self reflective and empathy building series! i would recommend this to listeners of all ages!
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- M
- 05-25-18
Thank you for these gifts!
Amazing-- thank you to all of the couples and to Ms. Perel for sharing these powerful experiences. Ms. Perel is such a gifted therapist and I am so impressed with her ability to get to the core issues in a nonjudgmental compassionate method. These sessions are gifts to couples and therapists!
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- Stella Petrakis-Rinne
- 03-13-18
Esther Perel is extremely insightful, gentle, wise
Esther chooses her words kindly, eloquently, skillfully, and wisely. Her sessions are excellent. Thank you.
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- R. MCRACKAN
- 07-05-18
Introvert's sin
There's a lot of substance in this episode. My big take away though is what I'll call ''the introvert's sin.'' there are a lot of times when introverts can be frustratingly quiet, but they boil down to: we're quiet because we have nothing to say or we're quiet because we have something important to say but won't. That 2nd one is the toxic problem here.
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- SB
- 02-05-18
Brilliantly done! Inspiring
Wow! This series is very interesting. Season 2 is just as good as season 1.
Esther Perel’s sessions are all interesting, she creates intimacy with the couples she treats, AND with the listener, and she inspires hope.
This episod is so honest, and it sheds a light on what couples can face when struck by adversity, especially illness. But it is amazing how a session that could be sad, is full of hope, humor, and good will. My heart goes out to this young couple, and they are in my prayers.
The production/editing quality is excellent!
Highly recommended, definitely worth your time, you’ll be surprised how thought provoking or relevant it can be.
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- Amazon Customer
- 02-01-18
Great season 2
Such heartfelt and teaching conversations. Also really appreciated Esther's commentaries about her own shortcomings in the sessions. Thanks for all the honesty and vulnerability of everyone involved.
Hope another season is coming!
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I related to this one so much.
All of these are amazing but this one really hit home for me and I think the 'porn' issue is one many couples can relate to more and more.
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- Debi Huber
- 12-11-17
interesting
Esther again offers pearls of wisdom and owns limitations as a therapist. very refreshing to listen to
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- Marina Reznik
- 12-03-17
One of my favorite episodes!
An incredible session to bear witness. Thank you for sharing your lives with the world & thank you all for your insight!