Emotionally Unavailable Men

How to Spot Them and Handle Them

NEW Edition 2024. Therapist and Certified Relationship Coach Lyn Kelley, Ph.D., MFT, CPC gives you the real lowdown on closed men. Rate your man on the “emotional unavailability scale.” Why he shuts down emotionally, how to get him to open up, how to connect with him, how to create more intimacy, and how to make him fall deeply in love with you. She will help you understand his psyche, how to know if you should stay or leave. Plus: The best 15 strategies to handle an emotionally unavailable man. Definition of emotionally unavailable When you change, he changes Whether or not your relationship can endure has to do with these 10 things Chapter One: Common Signs of an Emotionally Unavailable Man Why is he so afraid? Signs of emotional unavailability Chapter Two: What Causes Emotional Unavailability? Learned behavior Passivity Passive resistance and passive aggressiveness Weak and helpless men Passiveness or weakness as a control strategy Chapter Three: How Stunted Is He? A Continuum Values vs ability Quiet and reserved personality type Conflict avoiders Secretive Hot and cold In another relationship Shiny ball syndrome Alcohol and addictions Control, anger and hostility Chapter Four: Why We Are Attracted to Emotionally Unavailable Men How EUM’s hook us in The 4 reasons women choose EUM’s Chapter Five: How You May Be a Cause of It Change your perception Why complaining doesn’t work K.I.S.S. (Keep It Short and Sweet) Chapter Six: How to Connect With an Emotionally Unavailable Man Best ways to get more intimacy 15 Strategies proven to work Chapter Seven: How to Know if You Should Stay or Leave Are you in love with HIM or a FANTASY? You have the right to feel loved Speak in simple truths Would couples therapy help? Chapter Eight: How to Break Up With an Emotionally Unavailable Man Talk and walk Should we just take a break? You deserve to be happy Bibliography

Easy to understand

Good and concise information to follow in your life. Would recommend listening to this audio book.

Degrading to women

Initially, I thought the information useful to be aware of this kind of man in dating situations. Later, as the author gave instructions to women to turn themselves into pretzels to placate and soothe the man’s immaturity and low confidence, I hit the pause button, Disgusting advice! I could not listen to it. You are priming women to accept future abuse. My advice is to RUN!

Not healthy

Please stop instructing women on how to act differently to fix men. Please help all humans to become complete in themselves, to truly listen, develop healthy boundaries, ask for what they want and give love freely and openly to safe people. If it’s unhealthy for you, look inward. This feels toxic to me and I worry it will keep women hoping and in relationships that are harmful to them.