Collateral Damage

By: Dr John Chirban

Narrated by: Tom Parks

Length: 6 hrs and 50 mins

Publisher's Summary

Based on research from more than 10,000 surveys from children and parents of divorce, Collateral Damage presents parents with an overview of the impact that divorce has on their children and offers ways to better serve their needs at this critical time.

Approximately 50 percent of marriages in the United State fail. Add to that the increasing number of couples who never marry, have children together, and later go their separate ways. In all of these scenarios, children suffer greatly - often in silence, as parents do not know how to effectively guide their kids. When the sorrow and emotional issues of children are not addressed, the cycle of divorce is likely to continue for them and in generations that follow. In addition, while children may appear to be resilient and adjusting, without proper support, children of divorce are more prone to drug and alcohol abuse, criminal behavior, mental and physical illness, and suicide. How can parents manage their own hurt, shock, anger, and despair so that they can provide their children with what they need?

Collateral Damage sounds a wake-up call for parents. It identifies the land mines inherent in the dangerous terrain of divorce and equips them to help their children not to feel abandoned or unheard. Topics covered include:

• Building the family - not losing it
• Tuning in to your kids
• Stabilizing childhood
• Maintaining parent/child roles
• Avoiding the parenting handoff
• Keeping kids out of the war zone
• Instilling trust
• Keeping open lines of communication
• Attuning to guiding, spiritual resources

The failure of a marriage does not mean the end of the family. Providing a stable, supportive, healthy relationship with your child demonstrates what a loving relationship looks like, better preparing them for intimate relationships and marriage as an adult.

©2017 Dr. John T. Chibran (P)2017 Thomas Nelson

Good insight

Eye opening facts. Good case studies & advise. Smacks a bit of Christianity at the end.

Good info but way too many stories.

This book could be much much shorter and just as good by removing half the stories and keeping the 'info'.

Very good book. Very helpful during Divorce

Gives very helpful tips and helps to show what kids feel when parents divorce. Very insightful

Good reference book

I loved this book. But in some ways he uses surveys that make me feel like they fit his narrative points. Based on the fact that i agreed whole heartedly in my personal experience with divorce as a child and in my marriage, with the examples he gave.