BDSM and kink lifestyle educators often talk about the importance of education. It is not surprising that educators discuss education, but what happens when fiction replaces facts, fantasy supplants safety, and consent takes a backseat to raw, primal desire?

Could it result in a D/S scene filled with orgasmic delights? It could, but this is BDSM, where activities come with risk from small to life-altering or even ending. The more play that happens between those without proper training, the risks skyrocket, and informed consent becomes impossible, as there is no knowledge base to provide informed consent.

Studies show there is an alarming trend in the world of BDSM and kink where pornography is moving from entertainment andinspiration into the role of educator. The spicy content has not changed, but how it is viewed by those consuming it has. Find out what research shows about the trend of porn as a BDSM and kink educator.

Sources:

Prevalence of Sexual Strangulation/Choking Among Australians Authors: Leah S. Sharman, Robin Fitzgerald, and Heather Douglas

Holes in Kinky Education: The Role of Pornography in Learning about BDSM Sexualities Authors: Iris Ryn Olson and Bryce Westlake

BDSM Safety in Pornography: Its Perceived Accuracy and Impact on Practitioners' Safe Word Practices Author: Bryce G. Westlake

Enjoyment, Exploration and Education: Understanding the Consumption of Pornography Authors: Mark McCormack and Liam Wignall

Kink Community Education: Experiential Learning and Communities of Practice Authors: Richard A. Sprott, Carolyn Meeker, and M. O'Brien

TBA...Have you ever heard or seen a comment about D/S from someone in the community that makes you scream, “This is justutter, utter garbage”? That recently happened to me.

An influencer in the dominant and submissive space shared that “real” dominants are all outgoing, charismatic, and magnetic. Rather than just sit back and think “I cannot believe they said that”, I thought, what if I am wrong and they are indeed right? So I started down the research rabbit hole of BDSM, D/S dynamics, introverts, extroverts, and magnetism vibes to find out what actual data, from scientific studies, showed. Well, the results are in.

So is it true that “real” dominants are all rocking an outgoing and magnetic vibe? Just press play and find the answers.

Hey there, come on over and join me for a chat about collars. No, no, not the one your pet wears unless your pet is an amazingperson who just happens to be submissive. For some collars are simple yet deeply meaningful, while others build a detailed process, but as with everything in D/S, there is no right or wrong answer. Heck, a collar in BDSM might symbolize something entirely different than a dynamic. This episode is one you do not want to miss, even if it is for the answer to one question: How can a collar tell someone they have a 'cheap' dominant?