In the world of D/S there is much written and said about redflags in dominants but what happens when supposed red flags are actually green flags? Or a submissive mistakenly blames a dominant for upholding their boundaries, labels them as a fake because they are not a sadist, or heaven forbidden they are a caring soul?

This episode looks at what some have called red flags but are actually positive, green flags, breaking myths and stereotypes helping you avoid the scourge of false warnings to see positive omens hidden in the myths.

How does a flaming car connect to BDSM vetting, D/S, and kink? What happens when you focus so much on being open to being vetted that you do not do your homework on someone? In this episode, I reveal the mistakes I made and the heavy cost of replacing due diligence with blind trust. This story stands as one of my most valuable BDSM lifestyle and relationship lessons. Listen to uncover the warning signs I overlooked that led to automobile flambé.

People often say “trust me,” but in BDSM and kink, trust goes far beyond words. In this episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper, uncover why saying “trust me” does not make someone trustworthy. This is why it is essential to invest time in proper vetting, whether someone is a potential play partner or a long-term life partner. In this episode, you will hear about red flags to avoid, green flags that show promise, practical tips to improve vetting, and common processes that seem helpful but can actually be risky.

A man once believed that lemon juice could make him invisible to security cameras. He had read that lemon juice worked as invisible ink, and he assumed the same principle applied to his face. He robbed a bank and was shocked when he was arrested. This episode uses that story to examine the kinds of false assumptions and overconfidence that can show up in BDSM.

The episode is about self-awareness, poor logic, and the very real consequences of not understanding what you are doing. It breaks down how ego, lack of communication, and assumptions can lead to serious mistakes in kink. It offers direct insight for anyone who wants to improve their practice, avoid common pitfalls, and take BDSM seriously.

This episode of Chatting With The Lightkeeper is personal.

A recent family emergency brought forward a challenge to my identity as a dominant. According to some, my actions mean I am not a "true" dominant. In this episode, I explain what happened, explore why rigid definitions can be more harmful than helpful, and discuss how there are moments in every D/S relationship when the focus must shift to partnership rather than roles. This is a reflective and provocative conversation about leadership, care, and the reality of living this lifestyle.

What really happens when a dominant says they are punishing their submissive?

This episode takes a provocative look at the outdated idea of punishment in D/S relationships and why it may be time to leave it behind. From the misunderstood kink of being “punished” to the concept of “funishment,” and then beyond into more constructive alternatives, the conversation challenges long-held assumptions and asks whether punishment has any place at all in a healthy dynamic. If you are tired of hearing that D/S must include punishment, this episode offers a bold rethink.

Do not cross my state line, obey the legal limit, and is it time to reexamine negotiation?

Often the words boundaries and limits are used interchangeably in BDSM and kink but there are differences. Find out what those key differences are and why they are so important.

Next, the phrase "negotiate consent" covers an incredibly important topic but when it comes to consent are we really negotiating? Should we be negotiating something so precious? Ascertain why we can do better.

All in this episode!

You had questions, and you did not hold back. From the awkward to the bold, the curious to the complicated, your inquiries about BDSM, D/S, and kink were sharp, honest, and wide ranging. In part one, the conversation began. Now it is time to get into the rest, including the surprises, the tougher dilemmas, and the ones people usually keep to themselves. Grab those earbuds and settle in. Part two is ready for you.