Cassandra Syndrome - 132 Signs and Symptoms

The Hidden Suffering of Women Who Marry Aspies, Schizoids, Narcissists and OCPD Men

By: J.B. Snow

Narrated by: Tara Tyler

Many listeners email me each day. They typically have problems with the men in their lives. The truth that most of them don't realize is that their emotionally unavailable man or narcissistic man has an undiagnosed syndrome, complex, or disorder. Men often don't seek diagnoses for these issues that have been an ingrained part of their personality since they were born. They want acceptance and a sense of belonging from their partners, and they are often as unable to get these things from his partner as she is unable to get emotional validation from him.

The disorders and complexes that these men have often range from schizotypal disorder to schizophrenia to Asperger's Syndrome to Autism Spectrum Disorder. The traits, signs, and symptoms of these disorders are often pervasive and elusive. No single set of traits can instantly diagnose someone who is on these spectrums. Their brains and their learning style are different, thus causing their partners great grief in trying to deal with them.

In interacting with these men, the women often suffer significant mental decline themselves. They are often put through verbal and emotional abuse. Their emotional needs are often not met by their partners. They fall into a depression, or they suffer from unrelenting anxiety about the relationship. They are never sure whether the relationship will thrive or fail. They are blamed by their family, partners, friends, and coworkers for the failure of the relationship. Everyone else often seems completely clueless as to why they are complaining. After all, their spouse generally seems to be responsible and hardworking.

Both partners are at a loss as to how to connect, bond, and interact with one another appropriately. If they do not know the source of their angst, they will continue to hurt each other, bicker, and argue to the point of tearing each other apart.

©2016 J.B. Snow (P)2016 J.B. Snow

How much I related to the material

I finally felt seen and not so alone. The book was extremely informative and helpful.

Should be longer.

It was OK. It felt like the narrator was racing through it as I felt myself at times struggling to keep up. It was only around 30 minutes long, so why the rush? Many of the disorders mentioned I'd never heard of, so more detailed explanations, followed by some actual help, would have been very useful. Some of the symptoms didn't pertain to me, which I expected, however many did. I just would have appreciated a slower read and more in-depth detail and advice that I could try putting into practice. I feel like this book could have certainly included a lot more helpful info. I feel like it kind of fell short. It has the potential to be a great help to people like me. Overall, it wasn't horrible, but there's definitely room for improvement. I hope they do just that and release another one, as it's a really important topic.

Hard to follow

The concept is good but the reader is way too fast and doesn’t pause. I couldn’t tell where one thought ended, when she was reading a title or where there were any paragraph breaks. Even on slower listening speed 0.7 it wasn’t better.

I think the idea is sound and a list of traits could be helpful. But it was hard to tell what the traits were when mentioned. It needs to be rewritten with more explanations and transitional sentences. And also read with some pauses and emphasis.

I think I did learn about the Cassandra syndrome a bit. It was my intro to the idea, so probably not the best choice for that.

The areas I have lived.

I iked feeling validated by what I am suffering. I just wish there was another book on what to do.

Demonizes People with ASD

If you have ASD, spare yourself the listen. This sloppy book cruelly depicts men on the spectrum. My husband and I both live on the spectrum, and he’s the most sensitive, compassionate person I’ve ever known. This is not a helpful guide; it feels more like a uneducated, bitter dig at men with ASD offering zero value due to its outdated generalizations and stereotyping. GROSS.