Living in the Shadow: Healing from Cassandra Syndrome in an Autistic Marriage

Guide for Spouses Seeking Understanding, Healing, and Hope

De: Mark Hutten

Narrado por: Virtual Voice

Marriage is supposed to be a place of refuge, intimacy, and emotional safety. For many spouses in neurodiverse marriages, however, the experience is far from what they expected. The outside world sees stability: a hardworking husband, a responsible wife, a couple that seems to “have it together.” But inside the marriage, there can be a vast emotional emptiness.

This disconnection doesn’t typically come from malice or cruelty. Rather, it arises from the neurological differences between partners. An autistic individual may struggle with emotional reciprocity, while their neurotypical spouse longs for connection. The result is a marriage where one partner consistently reaches out—and the other consistently misses, misreads, or retreats.

Over time, this pattern creates deep wounds. Spouses describe feeling like ghosts in their own homes, invisible to the person who should know them best. And yet, when they try to talk about their pain, they often find themselves dismissed or disbelieved.

This is Cassandra Syndrome.

Hope and how to get out of this mess. What this mess is. Validated and not crazy.

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