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In a time when much of the country sees red whenever the subject of gay marriage comes up, Dan Savage—outspoken author of the column Savage Love—makes it personal.

Dan Savage’s mother wants him to get married. His boyfriend, Terry, says “no thanks” because he doesn’t want to act like a straight person. Their six-year-old son, D.J., says his two dads aren’t “allowed” to get married but that he’d like to come to the reception and eat cake. Throw into the mix Dan’s straight siblings, whose varied choices form a microcosm of how Americans are approaching marriage these days, and you get a rollicking family memoir that will have everyone—gay or straight, right or left, single or married—howling with laughter and rethinking their notions of marriage and all it entails.

©2005 Dan Savage (P)2011 Blackstone Audio, Inc.

Critic Reviews

“The strongest argument here, which [Savage] brilliantly plays down, is that family means everything to these people: married, not married, blended, gay, straight, whatever.” (Washington Post)

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  • v. ericsen
  • san anselmo, ca United States
  • 10-07-12

I love Dan Savage! Great book! thank you!

Where does The Commitment rank among all the audiobooks you’ve listened to so far?

This is a tribute to love. As I see it anyone could benefit from listening to a successful person in relationship speaking from the heart and being humorous along the way.

What did you like best about this story?

the authentic way of writing that Dan does so well

Have you listened to any of Paul Michael Garcia’s other performances before? How does this one compare?


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  • Emily
  • MINNEAPOLIS, MN, United States
  • 11-22-11

Wish it was narrated by the author, but very good

I far prefer hearing Dan Savage in his own voice. I recognized pieces of this book from This American Life pieces, and I just really prefer the author's voice to the narrator. But the book was entertaining, funny, and heartwarming. Great story of a family and a realtionship.

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  • Derek
  • LOVES PARK, IL, United States
  • 03-27-12

Entertaining and Touching

If you could sum up The Commitment in three words, what would they be?

Favorite of mine.

What other book might you compare The Commitment to and why?

Pretty much any of Dan's other books. His signature wit and sense of humor are all over this one.

Have you listened to any of Paul Michael Garcia’s other performances before? How does this one compare?

No I have not, but I liked this performance a lot. It would have been nice to have heard Dan read it, but this performance was very well done.

Did you have an extreme reaction to this book? Did it make you laugh or cry?

A lot of laughs. I don't know how many times I actually laughed out loud at this audiobook... Too many times to count. A lot of the stories are very touching too.

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  • Althea
  • Guildford, NSW, Australia
  • 04-20-13

Have your cake and eat it too

Being a regular listener to Savage Love, it was unusual to hear Dan's words spoken by someone else but I grew accustomed to it quickly. It was very nice to know Dan and his family better; where some of his famous ideas and values come from. It is as consistently entertaining as his work on SLOG and the podcast.

I regret absolutely nothing from purchasing this audiobook... except for maybe the fact that I now have a strong craving for cake. Thanks Dan.

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This book is outdated. Dan Savage and his "boyfriend" got married in Seattle last month on the day same-sex marriage became legal.

By the way, this book has one of the worst first chapters I have ever read/listened to. It is so unpleasant to begin with an extended complaint about his "boyfriend's" faults.

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