Beyond Consequences, Logic and Control

By: Heather T. Forbes LCSW

Narrated by: Reid Sollberger

Length: 4 hrs and 42 mins

Publisher's Summary

This first volume of Beyond Consequences lays out the basics of this revolutionary and simple parenting paradigm. Easy to listen to and filled with practical examples, this book will equip you to start parenting from a place of unconditional love and begin the road to healing for your family. Whether you are parenting your biological, adopted or foster children, the Beyond Consequences relationship model shows how to connect with your children and bring your family peace and healing.

©2010 Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC (P)2013 Beyond Consequences Institute, LLC

confusing dialogue

it was confusing to listen to you going back and forth between the "traditional" and the " new view". you should have only written about the new way that you get works best. The narration was fine.

One of the best in its category

This book and The Connected Child (Purvis) are my top 2 recommendations for foster and adoptive parents. (I'm a fost/adopt social worker.) We consistently get feedback about how helpful they are to the parents. Easy to read. Helpful to read over and over because you understand more/differently each time.

#Foster #Adopt #Parenting #tagsgiving #sweepstakes

Good explanation, narrow focus

I've read many parenting books in search of one that can explain behavior and then the basic solutions for that behavior. This book is intent on destroying unhelpful parenting beliefs that apparently parents hold about kids that I've rarely heard about. Every explanation to behavior or strategy threw in some random debunking of one of these parenting myths that only confused the author's message. I'd start taking notes about what to do and then they'd say how it was all wrong, and this next two pages are the way it should be. So confusing, but I suppose if you actually believed those parenting myths that this would help. but if you just want simple explanations and methods, this book could have been reduced to about 30 pages. I'll tell you the gist here to save you the confusion: Kids act bad because they're stressed because of post traumas and neglect they've had (creating attachment problems). You parent them out of those traumas by patiently and lovingly accepting them and addressing the needs they are afraid of not meeting. Meeting those needs either resolved the problem behaviors on it's own or sets up a positive relationship for you to establish the boundaries for proper behavior. If you have traumas yourself that cause you to react to their misbehavior then you need counseling before this can work. --that's the annoying part of all these parenting books. Much of bad parenting comes from their parents bad parenting. Why can't struggling parents use these techniques for kids on themselves to get over their own childhood issues? The other issue I had was that this only focuses on meeting children's unmet needs. There are times when kids act out because they just want the reward of whatever it is. No fear involved--think ADHD here. What do you do about them? Maybe they answered it but I'm too confused by what was a parenting myth to understand what their answer was. Three stars.

Great way to re-look at attachment

Love this info and the different and less oppositional approach to attachment intervention. Great book. Also consider "The boy who was raised as a dog" by David Perry.

Amazing!

I love this book! I love the examples of traditional views next to the new view. I was able to see from my own childhood the times my parents had used traditional parenting and remember feeling more out of control. I have been using the new ways with my daughter and they have been working amazingly well. She feels better, I feel better!

Instant Results!

The smallest change of heart and the whole world shifted… Every single person in any relationship of any kind should read the first four chapters of this book.

amazing

This book is so good! So compassionate towards the kids, like all parenting books should be.

Read this!

If you’re struggling with a defiant, angry, hurt child with attachment issues then this is a must read.

enlightened

helped me understand why my son does what he does and why I react the way I do

Great parenting advice kept brief

This is exactly what a self-help book should be: brief, to the point, understandable, do-able, with lots of examples.