Babies Are Not Pizzas: They're Born, Not Delivered!

Narrated by: Rebecca Dekker
Length: 6 hrs and 29 mins
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One in three births is traumatic.

It doesn’t have to be that way.

Rebecca planned to give birth at the hospital affiliated with her university, where she was an award-winning nurse researcher finishing her doctoral degree. But hospital practices and policies that were more than 20 years out of date left her with complications that seemed preventable. Worst for Rebecca, her healthy baby was whisked off to a nursery right away. She spent the first few hours after birth begging to see her own baby!

A few years later and pregnant again, Rebecca put her research skills to work and examined the hard evidence on what went wrong with her first childbirth experience.

She discovered shocking truths that not only impact millions of families every year, but would change the entire course of her life.

Embark on a journey with Rebecca as she exposes the stark realities of institutional care during childbirth and reveals inspirational solutions for parents and professionals alike.

©2019 Evidence Based Birth (P)2019 Evidence Based Birth

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Not what I expected or wanted, but still good.

I'm not sure if I read the description incorrectly or what, but this was not the type of book I was looking for, I was searching for a book with information for expecting mothers about approaching labor and child birth without fear. This was NOT that.
I enjoyed the audiobook, The narrator (and Author) are engaging and provide humor and good advice, just not exactly the type of advice that I was seeking.

While the author does discuss her experience in birthing 3 children, as well as adding birth stories from other mothers, it does not offer much advice on the process of labor or "how-to"s. This book is more about the author's quest for evidence based birth and how to ensure you receive hospital care based on evidence and scientific studies instead of care based of common hospital practices (no matter how unnecessary or unfounded). There are several tid-bits of info from research on cultural norms among hospital staff, racial issues in maternity care, the benefits of midwifes and doulas, information about the authors blog called Evidence Based Birth, and her quest to advocate for mothers and seeking change in hospitals.

This book is more of an autobiography; Rebecca Dekker's journey to effect change after suffering from a traumatic birth with her first child.

I think this book would be most useful for those in the medical field, labor and delivery, midwives, doulas, hospital administration, etc.
When it comes to expecting mothers, this book offered more scary birth stories, and less empowering advice for mothers-to-be (in fact it caused me some added fear about what is to come).

After reading/listening to the book, I would seek out the Evidence Based Birth blog, and would be interested in taking the child-birth classes offered from the author. I am sure the author possesses the information that I was seeking, the information just wasn't included in this book like I was expecting.

Good book, glad I listened, but I will have to continue the hunt for an audiobook on how to survive the birth of my first child unscathed and empowered.

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Interesting and informative

I am a doula in training, mother of 5, grandmother of 4 with another on the way. This book was recommended in our doula training class. I thoroughly enjoyed it. It was very interesting and informative. I’m anxious to check out the resources on the website.

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This book will likely change your life!

You’ll likely shed a few tears as Rebecca reveals her motivations behind her life’s mission of spreading evidence based science and research to the birth world. She shines light on a massive societal shortcoming so many of us not only experience, but also sadly and unconsciously perpetuate. This book will likely touch you in one way or another and will motivate you to want to know better and do better!

Thank you, Rebecca, for sharing your many gifts with us and for working so hard to make this world a better and safer place for birthing moms! Your work is truly inspiring!

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Great story! Great resource!

Gripping, moving, inspiring, eye-opening, informative. I recommend this book and the EBB website to all.

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Post partum RN loved this!

I’m a Registered Nurse that specializes in obstetrics. I live in a very rural area and work at a smaller hospital. I am now also 29 weeks pregnant upon completion of this book. All I can say is what a motivation this book has been to give me the courage to step up this strong foundation of evidenced based birth. I feel the stories that were shared and the education I received has given me the confidence to command my reasonable expectations of a birth plan. And also to be a stronger RN as I continue to educate myself and allow evidence based practice to lead the care I provide to future mothers.

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A must Read for all Expectant Mothers

Mrs Dekker is a Registered Nurse with her PHD. She has shared her story and encourages everyone to use her evidence based research to help make informed decisions regarding their births.

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Informative, enlightening, and well written!

As birth worker for the last 5 years, I have read a lot of books on childbirth. This one stands out in many ways. Dr. Dekker is eloquent, honest, and brings so much information to light. I appreciate how many subjects within the birth world she touches on ie: systemic racism in medical care, compassion fatigue and secondary trauma. I highly recommend this book to any parents giving birth for the first time, or looking to improve their next birth experience. I will be recommending this book to all my clients from here on out.

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A must read! Easy & informative!

I loved the realness of this book! Rebecca has a way of telling it like it is and making me want to listen to every word! I have learned so much from her and am inspired by her passion to bring birth & pregnancy education to everyone! I hope to become an EBB Instructor some day soon!

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A “Must”!!!

Admittedly I am biased about this book as a friend/colleague of Dr. Dekker... but all the same: This is that book you can give at a wedding shower, or baby shower, or Christmas, and know that it’s going to hit home. It’s a good story that’s also packed with information. It is so hard to watch friends and family members have unnecessary birth trauma, and watch that trauma be so normalized in our culture. This story personalizes and contextualizes birth trauma so that others can choose differently and have healthier births—or as providers, can choose to give better care and change the system. I’m so glad she put her story out into the world!!

P.s. the narration by the author is great and adds to the impact

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An important read for birth workers!

I chose to read this book for a doula recertification and I am so glad I did! She tells such a beautiful story and un folds it by getting to the heart of a lot of the research she has done. I have a lot to reflect on and many changes I hope to make so I can be a better doula and prepare for Motherhood myself. highly recommend giving this a listen.

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  • 02-20-20

birth trauma trigger warning

I dont think there were many things wrong with the book - more with me.
listening to the book and the stories of her birth and her recounting other peoples traumatic births has triggered a lot of unwanted memories of my own. so listen with care if you have unresolved issues around the subject

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  • 11-24-19

A must-read for mums-to-be

This book will prepare you for a number of ways you could possibly be treated during the birthing process, many of which are truly shocking.
Education equals empowerment and this helps you to prepare with an understanding of what you can expect and how to advocate for yourself or a loved one.
Not only for mums-to-be, this book can also provide a massive insight to those in the birth and medical industry in general. Dehumanisation has long been a problem in the medical industry, and all humans deserve to be treated as autonomous humans with the right to informed consent.
I loved this book and highly recommend it.