Ever wonder why YOU are SO addicted to people who pull away? Today, you’ll finally find out.

If the harder you chase, the faster they run — you might be trapped in the anxious-avoidant cycle: where one partner craves closeness, and the other panics when things get too real. In this BBC episode, Violet breaks down why this dynamic feels like home but leaves you emotionally starved.

Inspired by the book Attached, we dive into real stories, psych-backed insights, and how to finally break free.

Bonus: Don’t miss the quiz at the end—It’ll help you decode your partner’s attachment style fast. Jump to minute 37:00 if you’re done guessing and ready to know who you’re really dealing with.

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Think he was your soulmate? wrong. He was just a love bomber with good Wi-Fi.

This isn’t another “just let go” episode. This is your official detachment plan with a twist—designed for the girl who’s done performing for emotionally unstable men who ghost after six weeks of calling you “the one.”

In this short, savage 5 step guide, I’m breaking down how to detox from the fantasy, regulate your nervous system, and finally stop romanticizing the inconsistency of A LOVEBOMBER. Because love bombing isn’t love—it’s manipulation with good marketing.

You’re not crazy. You’re just waking up.

It’s time to stop making chaos feel like home.

And no, babe, he doesn’t get access to this version of you anymore.

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Second week of the month? You know what that means—it’s time for Dear Violet - where you call, text, or email me your BURNING questions and I give you the best advice that you need to hear.

From pooping in front of him (WHY) to co-signing car loans in the talking stage—On today's episode, I’m breaking down the dumbest sh*t we’ve all done for men who didn’t deserve it. Plus: navigating ex drama, toxic friends, and how to actually move on from heartbreak when therapy, shrooms, and silent retreats aren’t cutting it.

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