If you’re a high-functioning drinker waiting for rock bottom to give you permission to quit, this episode will change everything.

Most people think rock bottom is an external event—a DUI, job loss, or divorce. But that’s not what rock bottom actually is, and this misunderstanding is keeping you stuck in a cycle that never ends.

In this episode, I break down the real meaning of rock bottom and why waiting for external proof is preventing you from taking action on what you already know.

You’ll learn why comparing your life to other people’s disasters keeps you drinking longer, what to listen for in recovery meetings (hint: it’s not the external details), and why the question “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer.

What You’ll Learn:

• Why high-functioning drinkers misunderstand rock bottom and how it keeps them stuck
• The “I’m not that bad” fallacy and why comparing external circumstances is the wrong measuring stick
• What rock bottom actually is (internal, not external) and why it changes everything
• How to recognize rock bottom moments before they become major disasters
• Why people who don’t have a drinking problem never wonder if they need to quit
• The real reason your brain keeps offering alcohol as a solution when things get uncomfortable
• How lowering the bar and rationalizing red flags keeps the cycle going
• Why you don’t need to wait for things to get worse to make a change

Key Takeaways:

Rock bottom is internal, not external. It’s not about what happens to you—it’s about the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore, even if your life still looks good from the outside.

You’re comparing the wrong things. When you compare your life to other people’s disasters, you’ll always feel like you’re “not that bad.” But when you compare your internal experience—the exhaustion, the mental gymnastics, the constant negotiation with yourself—that’s when you recognize the real problem.

External events don’t create clarity—they force action. Most dramatic rock bottom moments are years in the making. There are a million smaller red flags that get rationalized away before the big event happens. You don’t have to wait for the big event.

If you’re asking the question, that’s your answer. People without drinking problems never wonder if they need to quit. They don’t think about alcohol constantly, plan their days around it, or spend energy managing and moderating it. If you’re here listening to this, you already know.

Episode Highlights:

[00:12] The common misunderstanding about rock bottom that keeps high-functioning drinkers stuck

[02:00] Why “I’m not that bad” only works if rock bottom is external (spoiler: it’s not)

[05:50] The AA meeting trap: comparing external details instead of internal feelings

[09:33] What rock bottom actually is: internal, emotional, and the moment you realize you can’t live like this anymore

[11:00] My two-year rock bottom and why I waited so long to take action

[14:42] If you want to wait until things get worse, they will (and here’s what that looks like)

[16:30] The small red flags we rationalize away that lead to bigger disasters

[17:50] A client’s rock bottom moment: choosing a drink over playing with his son

[19:19] Why asking “Do I really need to quit?” is actually your answer

[21:31] The takeaway: You already know. Stop waiting for permission.

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Here’s something nobody tells you about long-term sobriety: your brain doesn’t forget its relationship with alcohol just because you stop drinking.

After 19+ years sober, I can still walk into a restaurant and automatically glance at the bar. I can spend 10 minutes with my best friend analyzing five drinks in a hotel cooler. I notice who’s drinking at parties when my non-alcoholic mom never does.

And that’s exactly how I know – even after almost two decades – that I still can’t drink.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the ONE thing that tells you with 100% certainty whether you can drink again after sobriety. Spoiler: it’s not about time. It’s not about willpower. It’s about how much mental real estate alcohol still occupies in your brain.

What You’ll Discover:

The “mind space test” – how aware are you of alcohol even when you’re not drinking?

Why “normal” drinkers never think about alcohol (and why you can’t stop)

How alcohol becomes your higher power without you realizing it

Real stories from my own journey – including that champagne bottle I saved to celebrate 30 days sober (yep, I did that)

The difference between your brain and a non-alcoholic brain – and why it matters more than sobriety time

Why the fact that you’re even asking “can I drink again?” is actually your answer

The Bottom Line:

Non-alcoholic people don’t wonder if they drink too much. They don’t count down to their next drink. They don’t notice the bar when they walk into restaurants. They don’t plan their social lives around alcohol availability.

If you’re still hyperaware of alcohol – whether that’s craving it, avoiding it, or constantly thinking about it – your relationship hasn’t changed. Time doesn’t fix this. Only honesty with yourself does.

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Why 5pm Feels Impossible (And What To Do About It)

Let’s talk about the hardest part of early sobriety: that predictable window of time when the craving hits like a wave and you’re not sure you can ride it out. Maybe it’s 5pm on a Tuesday. Maybe it’s Friday night when everyone’s posting their wine glasses on Instagram. Maybe it’s standing in the parking lot at your kid’s soccer game watching all the other moms with their Stanley cups.

In this episode, I’m breaking down what I call the witching hour—that specific time when staying sober feels almost impossible. But here’s the truth: it’s not about the drink. It never was. The drink was the solution you were using for something else—exhaustion, overwhelm, loneliness, anxiety, boredom.

I’ll walk you through the four different types of witching hours, what you’re really craving during each one, and most importantly—what to actually DO about it. Because willpower alone won’t get you through this. You need a plan. And if you’re doing nothing, you’re planning to drink.

3 Key Takeaways From This Episode:

1️⃣ The Drink Was Never the Point — When you say “I want a drink,” what you’re actually saying is “I’m exhausted and need to turn my brain off” or “I’m anxious and need relief right now.” Understanding what you’re really craving changes everything.

2️⃣ Different Witching Hours Need Different Tools — The daily 5pm decompression requires different strategies than weekend FOMO or emotional overwhelm. Once you know your type, you can prepare accordingly.

3️⃣ Doing Nothing IS a Plan—It’s a Plan to Drink — If you know your hardest time is Friday at 5pm and you’re sitting back with no strategy, you’re not being neutral. You’re setting yourself up to give in. Proactive planning is non-negotiable.

And, if you’re struggling with that daily 5pm crash? I did an entire episode on breaking that specific habit: How to Break the 5PM Drinking Habit Without Losing Your Mind

Want structured support to actually implement these strategies? My Recovery Starter Kit walks you through exactly how to set up your environment, calm your mind when triggers hit, build real support, and create a daily rhythm that makes sobriety feel steady instead of shaky. It’s $197 for instant access—plus 30 days free in my Sober Society community. Perfect if you’re white-knuckling it through the holidays and need more than just willpower.

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