Reading about sobriety isn’t the same as doing the work to get sober.

If you feel like you’re doing everything for your sobriety—but nothing is actually changing—this episode is for you.

And trust me, there’s a huge difference!

Here’s the thing: when I got sober, the landscape looked completely different.

There were no podcasts, no endless library of quit lit books, no free challenges.

But today? You can fill every spare moment with sobriety content.

And while that’s amazing in so many ways, it’s also created something I see over and over: people who mistake presence for participation.

They’re reading books, listening to podcasts, signing up for challenges, even showing up to meetings – but they’re not actually engaging.

They’re just… there.

And that’s how people stay stuck for years—busy, informed, and still drinking.

So in this episode, I’m breaking down exactly what it means to shift from passive presence to active participation.

Because that shift?

That’s where real transformation happens.

I dive into:
3:48 – Why passive sobriety feels like progress but quietly keeps you stuck
8:30 – The false comfort of other people’s stories vs. doing your own work
13:12 – How to tell if you’re participating… or just observing
17:36 – Why only showing up for celebration hurts your recovery (this one stings)
19:56 – What real participation looks like—and why the same people succeed
21:49 – Simple ways to start participating today, even if you’re uncomfortable

Tune in and get ready to shift from being present in your recovery to actually participating in it.

Because that’s where the magic happens, my friend.

And I promise you’re capable of it – right now, exactly as you are.

If you’re done consuming recovery content and ready to actually change, Sober Society is where that happens.

Join us in Sober Society for just $27/month! We’ve got meetings throughout the week (and we’re adding more in February, including a meditation meeting!).

This is a place where people actually show up, support each other, and do the work together.

Find all the details at addictionunlimited.com/society
Schedule a call to work with me at addictionunlimited.com/call

If you’re getting sober in 2026, make it your only focus—everything else can wait.

Here we are, in that weird part of early January where everyone’s trying to overhaul their entire life at once.

New year, new you, right?

Quit drinking AND hit the gym AND change your diet AND meditate AND deal with your trauma… all at the same time.

But… when you try to transform everything simultaneously, you’re not being ambitious—you’re sabotaging the one thing that actually matters.

Today is my 20th sobriety birthday, and I’m sharing something that helped me get from one day to the next in early recovery: making sobriety my ONE thing. This simple approach allowed me to start accumulating time, finding relief, and building belief in myself—one day at a time.

Because sobriety isn’t 10% of your energy. It’s 100%.

In this episode, we dive into:

>> The hard truth about alcohol: it worked as your relief system, and you have to replace that relief

>> Why early sobriety is a full-time job disguised as “just not drinking”

>> How to do an inventory of your pain points and build a new survival toolkit

>> The ONE question to guide every decision: Is this getting me closer to sobriety or closer to a drink?

Early sobriety means managing cravings, sitting with unbearable feelings, rewiring every social situation, and learning to survive without your only coping mechanism.

That’s not a side project. That’s the entire project.

If you’re getting sober in 2026, or recommitting to sobriety, make it your sole focus.

Do this one thing well. Master it. And when it becomes stable, you can add something else.

But right now? Just stay sober. Everything else comes from that.

Listen in, and remember: sobriety IS the transformation.

Links mentioned in this episode:

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Why January 1 Isn’t the Answer — and What Actually Moves You Forward

It’s New Year’s Eve, and if you’re feeling that familiar pressure—that maybe-this-year-will-be-different energy—I want you to take a deep breath and listen up.

Whether you’re planning to drink tonight (even though you don’t really want to), or you’re already sober but looking at 2026 like it’s some kind of test you have to pass… I see you.

And here’s what I need you to know: You’re not broken. You’re not behind. You’re just in a stage.

In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the Stages of Change—a professional framework used in psychology and addiction recovery that’s going to help you figure out exactly where you are in your journey. Because once you know your stage, you’ll know exactly what to do next.

No more spinning your wheels. No more beating yourself up. Just clarity, action, and a path forward.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:

The 5 stages are:

1. Pre-Contemplation
2. Contemplation
3. Preparation
4. Action
5. Maintenance

(Spoiler: If you’re listening to this podcast, you’re already past stage 1. But where are you really?)

Why people get stuck in contemplation (and the one thing that moves you forward—hint: it’s not more research)

The difference between preparation and action (and why support is the bridge between the two)

Why January 1st isn’t going to save you (but action will)

How to avoid burnout in maintenance (and why my 90-Day Focus Planner is built to help you actually make progress)

🎉Why This Episode Matters Right Now

If you’ve been beating yourself up for “not having it figured out yet,” this episode is going to shift everything for you.

You’re not failing. You’re not lacking willpower or motivation. You’re just doing the wrong work for the stage you’re in.

And once you understand that? Everything changes.

🔗Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Dry January Bootcamp – 31 days of structure, support, and figuring out who you are without alcohol.

90-Day Focus Planner – Built for people who want to make real progress without burning out. Three goals at a time.

Coaching with Angela – If you’re ready to stop effing around with starts and stops, book your consultation call and let’s get you the support you need.

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