Episodios

  • Exhale in Cascais: A Laidback Retirement Paradise with Alastair Cull and Wes Williams
    Mar 25 2026

    Today, we're diving deep into the sunny shores of Cascais, Portugal, and trust me, it’s not just a pretty postcard! Our guests, Alastair and Wes, share their journey from bustling city life to the chill vibes of this coastal gem, where they’ve found a safe haven to retire. They spill the tea on what it’s like to live in a place that’s all about art, food, and a good dose of relaxation, while also touching on the LGBTQ-friendly atmosphere. Whether you're curious about the cost of living, healthcare, or just how to hold hands without an audience, we've got you covered. So, grab your shades and let’s take this virtual trip together! Cascais, Portugal is a vibrant spot where Alastair Cull and Wes Williams have found their happy retirement after years of dreaming about life in Europe. In this episode, Mark Goldstein takes us through the pair's journey from the hustle and bustle of North America to the serene coastlines of Portugal. Alastair and Wes share how they navigated the challenges of relocating during a pandemic and embraced the new lifestyle that came with it. They fell in love with the warm climate, stunning beaches, and the friendly atmosphere that welcomed them with open arms. Listeners get a peek into their daily lives, filled with relaxing walks along the beach, engaging with the local community, and enjoying delightful meals at charming cafes. The duo emphasizes how easy it is to blend into the vibrant culture of Cascais while still feeling safe and accepted for who they are. They talk about the significance of finding a place that allows for true self-expression, where love can be celebrated freely, and life can be enjoyed at a more leisurely pace. Through witty anecdotes and heartfelt discussions, Alastair and Wes provide insights into the practical aspects of retiring in Cascais, such as healthcare, cost of living, and the overall quality of life. They reflect on the beauty of their new life, filled with joy and adventure, and encourage anyone considering retirement abroad to dive in and explore the possibilities. This episode of Where Do Gays Retire? is not just about finding the perfect location; it’s about discovering a lifestyle that resonates with one’s true self.

    Takeaways:

    1. Cascais, Portugal is a chill place for LGBTQ retirees, offering safety and a decent cost of living.
    2. Mark interviews Alastair and Wes about their move to Cascais and life post-retirement.
    3. Life in Cascais is all about relaxation, art, food, and enjoying the calm ocean vibes.
    4. Public displays of affection are totally cool in Cascais, no weird looks, just love!
    5. The cost of living in Cascais is manageable, especially if you're smart about your choices.
    6. Cascais offers beautiful beaches, rich history, and a welcoming community for everyone.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. wheredogaysretire.com

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride

    Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

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    1 h y 34 m
  • The Mediterranean Dream: Why We Chose Oliva, Spain
    Mar 11 2026

    Summary

    In this episode, Mark Goldstein interviews Brad Shreve and Maurice Chevalier, a couple who recently relocated to Oliva, Spain, after years of contemplating a move abroad. They share their journey of deciding between Ecuador and Spain, ultimately choosing Spain for its quality of life and community. The couple discusses their specific criteria for choosing a location, including a preference for smaller towns, affordability, and a welcoming atmosphere for the LGBTQ+ community. They emphasize that their move was not an escape from the U.S. but rather a pursuit of a different lifestyle and culture.

    Brad and Maurice recount their experiences of moving to Oliva without ever having visited, highlighting their extensive research and the importance of community connections. They discuss the cultural adjustments they’ve faced, including the pace of life, meal times, and the siesta concept. The couple also touches on the cost of living in Spain compared to their previous life in California, noting significant savings in rent and utilities, as well as the quality of food. Their story is a testament to the joys and challenges of relocating to a new country, and they offer insights into the vibrant life they are building in Oliva. In this episode, Maurice Chevalier shares his experiences of living in Oliva, Spain, particularly as part of the local gay community. He describes the vibrant and inclusive atmosphere, noting that being gay is a non-issue in the area and that a strong expat community regularly gathers for social events. Maurice discusses the ease of making acquaintances and the importance of community in their new life, emphasizing that they enjoy the local culture and the relaxed pace of life. He also touches on the practical aspects of living in Oliva, such as transportation, walkability, and the unique dining culture that differs from the U.S. lifestyle.

    The conversation shifts to the logistics of relocating to Spain, including the visa process and the importance of hiring relocation specialists to navigate the bureaucracy. Maurice explains the differences in daily life, including the Spanish dining schedule and the social norms surrounding coffee culture. He concludes by reflecting on the long-term prospects of living in Oliva, expressing a strong sense of belonging and contentment in their new home, while also acknowledging the importance of adaptability and openness to new experiences.

    Takeaways

    "We wanted somewhere that was openly gay friendly."

    "We did not want to work 60 to 70 hours a week to buy things that we then didn't have time to enjoy."

    "We are purposely not putting ourselves in that bubble."

    "We want to be able to converse, even if it's just minimal conversation."

    "We could change that overnight if we wanted to."

    "We love the concept of siesta. There's nothing about it that's negative in our mind."

    "We are actually trying to learn the language and practice it."

    "We felt instantly at home. It was just like this place has been waiting for me my whole life."

    "We are living in a much larger space for less money."

    "We are trying to build ties to the local community, not just the expat community." It's a non-issue, quite honestly.

    We wanted to have an active gay community.

    We can go be gay for the weekend.

    Everything's pretty much within a 15-minute walk.

    It's a clean town because people physically sweep the streets.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. wheredogaysretire.com
    2. www.youtube.com/@ourchosenspanishlife

    Companies mentioned in this episode:

    1. Marriott

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride

    Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

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    1 h y 45 m
  • Discovering Zaragoza: A Gay Couple's Journey to Spain with Chad and Jorge Pitts
    Feb 25 2026

    Summary

    In this conversation, Mark Goldstein interviews Chad Pitts and Jorge Pitts about their experiences living in Zaragoza, Spain. They discuss their motivations for moving, the research they conducted, and their first impressions of the city. The couple shares insights into the cultural vibe, community building, cost of living, transportation, food scene, and healthcare in Zaragoza. They also touch on the challenges of navigating Spanish bureaucracy and the benefits of living in a city that is both family-friendly and LGBTQ+ safe. Overall, they emphasize the importance of embracing the local culture and the rewarding experiences of expat life in Zaragoza.

    Takeaways

    Zaragoza offers a very authentic Spanish vibe, with a strong sense of community.

    The cost of living in Zaragoza is significantly lower than in larger cities like Madrid and Barcelona.

    Transportation in Zaragoza is excellent, with walkable streets and a reliable public transport system.

    Cultural experiences in Zaragoza are rich, with festivals and events happening regularly.

    Making friends in Zaragoza can be challenging, but it is possible with effort and openness.

    Healthcare in Zaragoza is accessible and affordable, especially compared to the US.

    The climate in Zaragoza can be extreme, with hot summers and cold winters, but it is manageable.

    Zaragoza is a safe place for LGBTQ+ families, with a welcoming community.

    The food scene in Zaragoza is diverse and delicious, with many international options available.

    Navigating Spanish bureaucracy can be frustrating, but it is part of the expat experience.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. wheredogaysretire.com

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride

    Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

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    1 h y 16 m
  • Sherry, Sun, and Safety: Living Your Best Life in El Puerto! With Daniel Cairns
    Feb 11 2026

    We're diving into the sunny vibes of El Puerto de Santa Maria, a gem in southern Spain, where life is all about community and connection. Our guest, Daniel Cairns, swapped the hustle of London for the laid-back lifestyle of Andalusia, and he’s here to share how he and his partner are creating a welcoming home for expats in their Casa de Vecinos project. Together, they’re redefining retirement by blending practical tips on healthcare and living costs with the joy of embracing local culture—think flamenco and sherry tastings! We’ll chat about how to navigate life in this vibrant town, from the best places to eat (hello, tapas!) to how to get involved in the community. So grab your sunglasses and let’s get into the good life in El Puerto!

    El Puerto de Santa Maria is where the sun shines, the sherry flows, and the LGBTQ community thrives! In this episode, we dive into the coastal charm of this Andalusian gem with our guest Daniel Cairns, who swapped the hustle of London for a more relaxed life in Spain. Daniel shares how he and his partner, John, created a cozy home and a vibrant community project that welcomes newcomers with open arms. We talk about the importance of integrating into local culture, navigating the healthcare system, and embracing the joys of outdoor living. Daniel's stories are not just about retirement; they’re about finding your place in the world, making friends, and enjoying life to the fullest. Whether you're thinking of moving or just dreaming, this episode paints a picture of what life in El Puerto can be like for LGBTQ people, sprinkled with humor and heart. Get ready to be inspired by the beauty of community and connection!

    Takeaways:

    1. El Puerto de Santa Maria is a vibrant coastal town in Spain, perfect for LGBTQ retirees.
    2. Daniel and John created a community-focused project that blends affordable living with shared spaces.
    3. The local lifestyle includes outdoor living, festivals, and a strong sense of community and belonging.
    4. Healthcare in El Puerto is efficient, private insurance is affordable, and the services are excellent.
    5. Living in El Puerto means embracing a unique culture rich in flamenco, sherry, and local cuisine.
    6. Transportation is super convenient, making it easy to explore nearby cities and towns.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. https://andaluzliving.com/
    2. wheredogaysretire.com
    3. lgbtqseniors.com

    Companies mentioned in this episode:

    1. Louis Vuitton
    2. Chanel
    3. Harrods

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    50 m
  • Where to Find Your Retirement Joy: 10 Questions to Ask! with Mark Goldstein & Michael AI
    Jan 28 2026

    Ready to level up your retirement game? We're diving into the 10 essential questions every LGBTQ person should ask before picking their retirement city. Forget about palm trees and sunshine; we're talking about finding a place that vibes with who you are today, not who you were in your 20s. From walkability to genuine LGBTQ friendliness, we've got the scoop on what really matters for your happiness and sanity. Join me and my sassy AI sidekick, Michael, as we navigate the nitty-gritty of making your golden years truly shine!

    Diving straight into the heart of retirement planning, this week’s episode is all about the essential questions every LGBTQ retiree needs to ask when choosing that perfect place to kick back and relax. We start by discussing the importance of picking a city that resonates with who you are today—not who you were 20 years ago. I mean, did you really think a beachside bungalow would still be your jam when you can barely handle a sand grain in your flip-flop? The conversation is rich with insights about walkability, cost of living, and how a place can either support or stifle your daily joy. We even share a few personal anecdotes about our own misadventures in city selection, which, spoiler alert, involved a gator or two in a retention pond. So grab your favorite drink, settle in, and let’s unravel what makes a retirement city the right fit for you.

    Next up, we tackle the burning question of LGBTQ friendliness. Spoiler: it’s not just about rainbows and parades! We dive into what actual protections look like and how to spot a community that truly embraces you year-round, not just during Pride Month. Think about it—wouldn’t it be nice to stroll down the street with your partner without feeling like you’re on display? We chat about cities that excel in creating inclusive environments, from the glittering streets of San Francisco to the surprisingly warm vibes of Asheville, North Carolina. Plus, we share how places in Spain set the bar high when it comes to feeling normal and accepted. Trust us; it’s a conversation you won’t want to miss!

    Finally, we wrap it all up with the big picture—what does your ideal Tuesday look like in retirement? No, really! Tuesday is the unsung hero of your week, and we explore how the day-to-day aspects of a city can make or break your experience. Accessibility to stores, health care, and even coffee shops play crucial roles in your retirement happiness. We throw in a dash of humor with tales of our own Tuesday escapades, comparing cities that excel at making life easier (hello, Spanish trams!) versus those that turn errands into Olympic events. So, hang tight as we help you navigate these essential questions, ensuring your retirement isn’t just about the sun—it's about thriving in your new home!

    Takeaways:

    1. Choosing a retirement city is all about finding the right vibe for who you are today, not who you were in the past.
    2. Is the city LGBTQ friendly year-round? Because Pride Month isn't the only time we need love and support!
    3. Your Tuesday routine matters more than you think—make sure it fits your retirement lifestyle and makes you happy.
    4. Don't forget to check out the healthcare situation; it’s crucial to know if you can get the care you need when you need it!
    5. Affordability goes beyond just rent; consider all the little costs that can add up and stress you out.
    6. Ask yourself if the city supports your dreams for this new chapter of life, because you deserve to thrive!

    Links...

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    19 m
  • Living La Vida Local: Gay Retirement in Oaxaca with David Shallenberger and Harvey Nystrom
    Jan 14 2026

    Ever been curious about retiring in Oaxaca, Mexico? Well, grab your sun hat, because today we're diving into that dreamy destination! We chat with David and Harvey, a dynamic duo who’ve crafted their lives in this vibrant city after years of exploring Latin America. They'll share the scoop on community vibes, cost of living, and the oh-so-important healthcare scene. Spoiler alert: it’s all about connection and convenience, from the cobblestone streets to the local markets. So, stick around and soak in the wisdom from two guys who’ve turned their retirement into a colorful adventure!

    Let’s talk about walkability, community vibes, and the sweet life in Oaxaca! David and Harvey break down the nitty-gritty of life in their new home, where cobblestone streets lead to charming markets and friendly faces greet you at every corner. They’ve lived in several neighborhoods, each with its own unique flavor, and they reveal what surprised them most about settling in. Spoiler alert: the vibrant energy of the city, especially during the Day of the Dead celebrations, is a total game-changer! They emphasize the importance of community and how they've built connections with fellow LGBTQ folks, from volunteer opportunities to regular meetups. Plus, they share tips on navigating local healthcare and the importance of learning some Spanish to truly immerse yourself in the culture. This episode is packed with insights for anyone considering a retirement adventure south of the border!

    Takeaways:

    1. Oaxaca is a vibrant city filled with music, art, and a friendly atmosphere, perfect for retirees.
    2. David and Harvey share their experiences living in various Latin American countries before settling in Oaxaca.
    3. The cost of living in Oaxaca is quite reasonable, with rent for a two-bedroom apartment around $500 monthly.
    4. Healthcare in Oaxaca can be affordable, but many choose private care due to overcrowded public hospitals.
    5. Community is key in Oaxaca, with places like the Oaxaca Lending Library connecting LGBTQ folks with each other.
    6. Transportation in Oaxaca is walkable, and public options like taxis and buses are readily available, making car ownership unnecessary.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. wheredogaysretire.com

    Companies mentioned in this episode:

    1. Airbnb
    2. Amazon
    3. Costco
    4. Santander

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride

    Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

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    1 h y 5 m
  • Don't Just Visit—Live! Americans Moving To Spain -With Christopher Hughey
    Dec 31 2025

    Today, we're diving headfirst into the world of Americans moving to Spain! We'll chat about why folks from the LGBTQ community are flocking to this sunny slice of Europe, seeking safer and more affordable retirement spots. Our guest, Christopher Hughey, is a relocation guru who's got the inside scoop on what it takes to make the big move. From climate to cost of living, he's got the lowdown on everything you need to know to ensure a smooth transition. So, whether you're dreaming of tapas in Sevilla or sunbathing in Alicante, stick around for some fabulous tips and tricks to make your Spanish adventure a reality!

    Who knew moving to Spain could spark a whole new identity? In this episode, we chat with Christopher about the nitty-gritty of relocating, focusing on the non-lucrative visa that many Americans are eyeing. It's not just about the paperwork; it’s about understanding what life will look like once you land in Spain. Christopher emphasizes the importance of scouting trips, not just vacations, to get the real feel of living in Spanish neighborhoods. We also dive into the social aspects, from the vibrant LGBTQ community to the challenges of adapting to a new culture and language. Let’s just say, if you’re thinking about making Spain your next home, you might want to pack more than just your bags!

    Takeaways:

    1. This podcast episode highlights how to find affordable and gay-friendly retirement spots globally, especially in Spain.
    2. Mark Goldstein interviews Christopher Hughey, who shares insights about moving to Spain and life there.
    3. Understanding the visa process for moving to Spain is crucial, especially for retirees in the U.S.
    4. Scouting trips to Spain are essential for ensuring a smooth transition and happy living experience.

    Links referenced in this episode:

    1. americansmovingtospain.com
    2. www.wheredogaysretire.com

    Companies mentioned in this episode:

    1. Americans Moving to Spain
    2. Facebook

    Mentioned in this episode:

    Introducing LGBTQSeniors.com – A Free Community for Connection & Pride

    Mark Goldstein, host of the Where Do Gays Retire Podcast, shares exciting news: LGBTQSeniors.com is live! It’s a free online community for LGBTQ folks 50+ featuring: Private messaging & forums Monthly Zoom meetups Real connection—without the social media clutter If you love what Mark’s building, please support the cause at 👉 https://buymeacoffee.com/unlonelylgbtqseniors 🌈 Join today at LGBTQSeniors.com — because pride doesn’t retire.

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    1 h y 22 m
  • The Day That Changed My Life. 43 Years Later, I’m Going Back to Málaga
    Dec 16 2025

    We’re diving into some heavy stuff today, folks! This episode is all about survival and community, wrapped in a personal story that hits hard. Mark Goldstein shares his experience surviving an aviation disaster 43 years ago, and how that day shaped his journey. We talk about the importance of choosing safe, queer-friendly places and how community can be your lifeline. Plus, we throw in some tips on what to look for when scouting your next retirement spot. So, grab a cozy drink, settle in, and let’s explore how navigating life—and where to live—is all about connection and choice!

    Strap in, folks! We’re taking a detour from the usual retirement chit-chat to tackle a wild and emotional ride. Mark Goldstein shares a gripping personal story about surviving a plane crash in Malaga, Spain, 43 years ago, and how that experience shaped his outlook on life and community. He reflects on the chaos of that day and the choices he made that still resonate with him. It’s all about survival, connection, and the power of returning to a place that holds so much history. This isn’t just about retirement; it’s about the life we lead and the people we surround ourselves with. Mark’s journey reminds us that choosing a retirement destination is about more than just geography; it’s about choosing a community that feels like home.

    Takeaways:

    • This episode dives deep into the journey of finding safe and affordable retirement options for the LGBTQ community.
    • Mark Goldstein shares a gripping personal story about surviving an airplane crash in Spain back in 1982.
    • The discussion highlights the importance of community and connection when choosing a place to retire happily.
    • Listeners are encouraged to consider key factors like walkability and safety in their retirement planning.
    • Mark reflects on how past experiences shape our choices in life and retirement, emphasizing the value of chosen family.
    • The episode wraps up with a reminder that choosing joy and community is a powerful act of survival.

    Companies mentioned in this episode:

    • Drexel Burnham Lambert
    • Iberia

    Links referenced in this episode:

    • wheredogaysretire.com
    • lgbtqseniors.com

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