In this episode, Nancy and Matthew recap their GrowthDay Ultra event in Napa, where the focus was on health and wellness. They share their key takeaways from Brendon Burchard and other speakers, including the “Four E’s” of High Performance: Energize, Engage, Excellence, and Expand.

Highlights include:

• Why energizing your mornings matters (even when you’re cold and underdressed)
• How documentaries and biographies fuel deeper engagement
• The importance of holding yourself—and your team—to a higher standard
• What it really means to “expand” your sense of self
• Deep reflections on faith, overthinking, and why “the moment you’re in is the good old days”
• And of course, a Midwest saying that might just change your life: “Not my monkey, not my circus”

You’ll laugh, reflect, and walk away with practical takeaways (and probably a new mantra). Faith, fun, and a bit of Target fashion—this is personal growth, unfiltered.

Takeaways:

• The four E's of personal growth—Energize, Engage, Excel, and Expand—serve as foundational principles for enhancing health and wellness in our lives.
• Engagement in uncomfortable situations is essential for personal development and effective communication with others.
• Maintaining a routine is pivotal for health; however, one must listen to their body and allow for rest when necessary.
• Honoring others can be a powerful motivator for personal accountability and transformation in our health journeys.
• The phrase 'not my monkey, not my circus' encapsulates the importance of detaching from others' problems to focus on one's own well-being.
• Creating good memories today is vital; we should strive to make the present moment our good old days, fostering gratitude and mindfulness.

Mentions in this episode:

• Brendan Burchard
• Ultra
• GrowthDay
• Billy Joel
• Ed Mylett
• Erwin McManus
• Dean Jacobs

This week on We Should Probably Edit This – But We Won’t, Nancy and Matthew dive deep (and occasionally off the rails) into their ultimate bucket list dreams. From solo trips with each of their kids to epic adventures with their grandkids, a month in Europe, building a backyard guest house, and the eternal dream of finally owning a convertible—no goal is too big, too small, or too ridiculous.

They explore what really matters in life: connection, impact, joy, and the freedom to laugh until you can’t breathe—preferably in beautiful places, and possibly with a dog.

It’s part wishlist, part life audit, and full of surprises (including chickens, yachts, and the Great Cat Debate). Whether you’re crafting your own list or just along for the ride, this episode is your reminder to dream big, start now, and support the people around you in chasing what lights them up.

Takeaways:

• The exploration of a bucket list reveals the significance of personal aspirations and the joy of pursuing dreams, regardless of their scope or nature.
• Traveling with family members is emphasized as a means to forge deeper connections and create lasting memories that enrich our lives.
• The episode underscores the importance of laughter and joy in our experiences, encouraging listeners to seek out moments that provoke genuine happiness with loved ones.
• The conversation highlights that a bucket list should not merely consist of destinations but should also reflect the intentions and emotions behind each goal, fostering personal growth and connection.

From hot dogs on the streets of NYC to clamming in Bodega Bay, today’s Father's Day special is packed with stories, laughter, and the unexpected lessons we carry forward. Matthew and Nancy open up about their dads—flawed, funny, and formative—and reflect on the legacy of parenting, from tool tips to horse misadventures to the power of being present. Whether you’re a dad, had a dad, miss a dad, or are raising one, this episode is for you. It’s heartfelt, hilarious, and full of real talk.

Takeaways:

• The episode poignantly explores the imperfections inherent in fatherhood, emphasizing that no parent is without flaws.
• Listeners are encouraged to reflect on how their own upbringing has shaped their parenting style and approach to family.
• Unexpected lessons from fathers, such as the importance of returning borrowed tools in better condition, are shared as valuable insights.
• Contrasting experiences of growing up in New York City versus California reveal diverse perspectives on father figures and childhood.
• The significance of being present as a parent is underscored, highlighting the lasting impact of quality time with children.
• The episode humorously notes the joys of grandparenting, suggesting that one of the greatest perks is the ability to return grandchildren after fun times.