Episodios

  • Divorcing a Narcissist: How to Protect Yourself, Your Finances, and Your Future with Victoria McCo

    Divorcing a Narcissist: How to Protect Yourself, Your Finances, and Your Future with Victoria McCo
    Apr 15 2026
    Divorcing a narcissistic or high-conflict partner is one of the most emotionally and strategically complex experiences you can face. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, we’re joined by high-conflict divorce coach, mediator, and author Victoria McCoy, who shares what it really looks like to navigate divorce when manipulation, control, and emotional abuse are part of the dynamic. Victoria brings both professional expertise and lived experience—offering clear, grounded insight into how narcissistic behavior shows up in divorce, why so many people feel stuck or confused, and what it actually takes to protect yourself and move forward. If you’ve ever felt like you’re questioning your reality, being pulled in multiple directions, or struggling to make clear decisions—this conversation will help you understand why—and what to do next. What defines a narcissistic or high-conflict partner in divorce Why many people don’t recognize abuse until they’re deep in it How manipulation and control show up during the divorce process The emotional and psychological impact of gaslighting Why clarity—not reaction—is your greatest asset in high-conflict divorce How to begin reclaiming your voice, confidence, and decision-making power You don’t need to have everything figured out—you need clarity. And clarity starts with understanding what you’re dealing with. At My Divorce Solution, we see this every day—when emotions are high and information is low, decisions become reactive. That’s why financial clarity is critical, especially in high-conflict situations. When you understand your full financial picture, you regain control of your decisions—not just your circumstances. Take the Free Divorce Financial Assessment Learn about the MDS Financial Portrait™ Join the MDS Community for expert guidance and support In This Episode, We Discuss:Key Takeaway:MDS Insight:Resources & Next Steps: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    37 m
  • 190. The Hidden Cost of Not Knowing Your Numbers in Divorce

    190. The Hidden Cost of Not Knowing Your Numbers in Divorce
    Apr 8 2026
    Divorce isn’t just emotional—it’s deeply financial. And when you don’t have a clear understanding of your numbers, your mind fills in the gaps with fear, worst-case scenarios, and assumptions that often aren’t true. In this episode, we break down why financial clarity is the foundation of every smart divorce decision—and what happens when you try to move forward without it. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, uncertain, or stuck trying to decide what to do next, this conversation will help you understand why clarity—not urgency—is your most powerful first step. This conversation defines what true financial clarity actually means, why it’s not a feeling, and what must be in place before signing anything. If you’re feeling pressure to “just get it done,” this episode will help you pause, refocus, and make decisions that hold up not just today—but years from now. At My Divorce Solution, this is exactly why we focus on financial clarity before decisions are made—so strategy replaces reaction. The Divorce Financial Clarity Checklist Get clear on your numbers before making decisions. Start with a Free Divorce Financial Assessment Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    29 m
  • 189. The Most Expensive Divorce Mistake Isn’t Legal: What Financial Clarity Really Means

    189. The Most Expensive Divorce Mistake Isn’t Legal: What Financial Clarity Really Means
    Apr 1 2026
    Most people assume the biggest divorce mistakes happen in the courtroom. They don’t. In this episode of Divorce Explored, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan break down the real—and often overlooked—risk: making decisions before you truly understand your financial picture. Because when you move toward agreement without verified numbers, you’re not negotiating from facts—you’re negotiating from assumptions. This conversation defines what true financial clarity actually means, why it’s not a feeling, and what must be in place before signing anything. If you’re feeling pressure to “just get it done,” this episode will help you pause, refocus, and make decisions that hold up not just today—but years from now. At My Divorce Solution, this is exactly why we focus on financial clarity before decisions are made—so strategy replaces reaction. Get clear on your numbers before making decisions. Start with a Free Divorce Financial Assessment: https://myfinancialportrait.com/get-started Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    28 m
  • 188. The Hidden Divorce: Why You Feel Stuck—and How Financial Clarity Sets You Free

    188. The Hidden Divorce: Why You Feel Stuck—and How Financial Clarity Sets You Free
    Mar 25 2026
    There’s a quiet kind of divorce that doesn’t start with papers being filed. It starts years earlier—when the relationship has already ended emotionally, but nothing changes on the outside. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan are joined by returning guest Karen Covy—divorce coach, attorney, mediator, and author—to unpack what it really means to feel “stuck” in a marriage. If you’ve been living in that in-between space—where fear, uncertainty, and obligation keep you from moving forward—this conversation will help you understand why. More importantly, it will show you what’s actually missing: clarity. What You’ll Learn in This Episode: What a “hidden divorce” really is—and why so many people are living in one The real reasons people stay stuck (it’s not just fear of divorce) Why not knowing your financial picture keeps you in indecision How misinformation from spouses, friends, Google, and AI can lead to costly mistakes Why divorce is not a binary decision—and the options most people never consider The role of financial independence and confidence, especially in long-term marriages How to make decisions using head, heart, and gut—not just fear Why clarity before action can dramatically reduce conflict, cost, and regret Resources Mentioned My Divorce Solution MDS Financial Portrait™ MDS Community (free support + live Q&A) Visit https://karencovy.com/ to find Karen’s resources When Happily Ever After Ends (book) Divorce Roadmap 3.0 Off the Fence Podcast If you’re questioning your marriage—or quietly feeling stuck—you don’t need to rush into a decision. Start with clarity. At My Divorce Solution, we help you understand your full financial picture before you take your next step—so your decisions are grounded in knowledge, not fear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    42 m
  • 187. Financial Discovery in Divorce: What Most People Miss Before Settlement

    187. Financial Discovery in Divorce: What Most People Miss Before Settlement
    Mar 18 2026
    Most people enter divorce focused on legal steps. But divorce is ultimately a financial process—and the biggest mistakes happen before negotiations even begin. In this episode of Divorce Explored, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan break down financial discovery in divorce—what it is, why it matters, and what happens when it’s skipped. If you don’t fully understand your financial picture, you’re negotiating without the full story. They walk through real client scenarios, including undisclosed retirement accounts, missing financial documents, and investment portfolios with hidden tax consequences. These are the kinds of details that can completely change the outcome of a settlement—and they’re often missed. This conversation explains the difference between collecting documents and actually verifying them, why incomplete or outdated information leads to costly decisions, and how financial clarity creates confidence during negotiation. You’ll also learn where attorneys, financial planners, and other professionals fit into the process—and why financial preparation must come first. The bottom line: financial discovery is not a technical step. It is the foundation of every financial decision in divorce. If you’re considering divorce, in the middle of the process, or preparing for negotiation, this episode will help you understand what needs to happen before any agreements are made. Start with clarity before making decisions that impact your financial future. Learn more or begin with a free Divorce Financial Assessment:https://mydivorcesolution.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 m
  • 186. Co-Parenting Without Chaos: Tools That Protect Children After Divorce

    186. Co-Parenting Without Chaos: Tools That Protect Children After Divorce
    Mar 11 2026
    Children don’t experience divorce through court documents or financial agreements. They experience it through tone, tension, and the daily communication between their parents. And when that communication stays reactive, unclear, or emotionally charged, children carry that instability with them. In this episode of We Chat Divorce, Karen Chellew and Catherine Shanahan sit down with family law attorneys Elle Barr and Rebecca Perra from OurFamilyWizard to discuss one of the most important — and often overlooked — factors affecting children after divorce: parental conflict. Drawing on decades of family law experience and research like the ACEs (Adverse Childhood Experiences) study, this conversation explores why unmanaged conflict between parents can have lasting emotional and health consequences for children. But there is good news: conflict can be reduced when parents use the right systems, tools, and communication structures. You’ll learn how co-parenting platforms like OurFamilyWizard help parents: Reduce emotional conflict in communication Create accountability in co-parenting decisions Track shared child expenses clearly Eliminate misunderstandings about schedules and reimbursements Protect children from adult financial stress You’ll also hear why financial clarity — understanding expenses, support, and shared responsibilities — is critical to building a sustainable co-parenting plan. This episode is essential listening for parents navigating divorce, co-parenting challenges, or ongoing communication struggles with a former spouse. Because divorce doesn’t have to damage children. Conflict does — and conflict can be reduced. Links: https://mydivorcesolution.com/kids-travel-expenses/ ELLE BARR https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/author/elle-barr REBECCA PERRA https://www.ourfamilywizard.com/author/rebecca-perra Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 m
  • 185. Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks - Part 2 of 2

    185. Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks - Part 2 of 2
    Mar 4 2026
    Real Estate in Divorce: Selling, Buying, and Financial Risks Hosts: Karen Chellew, Legal Liaison & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution Catherine Shanahan, CDFA & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution In Part 2 of this conversation on real estate and divorce, Karen and Catherine focus on what happens when real decisions are made—buying property, selling the marital home, or dividing proceeds. While these steps may feel like progress during a difficult time, they can create unexpected financial risks if the details aren’t fully understood. Through real client scenarios, they explain why clauses written into real estate contracts may not actually protect you in divorce and why agreements like indemnification don’t always provide the security people expect. Risks of buying property before your divorce is finalized Why realtor clauses may not protect you in a divorce Key considerations when selling the marital home Why splitting proceeds too early can create problems The limits of indemnification in divorce agreements Real estate decisions during divorce aren’t just legal or emotional—they’re financial risk decisions. Before buying, selling, or signing anything, it’s important to understand ownership, liability, and how the transaction could impact your final settlement. If you want verified numbers and a clear strategy before negotiating property division, learn more about the MDS Divorce Financial Portrait™ at:MyDivorceSolution.com Part 1 of this episode covers the foundational concepts behind real estate in divorce, including the difference between the deed, mortgage, and promissory note, and why understanding those documents matters before making any decisions. Episode OverviewWhat You’ll LearnKey TakeawayResourcesListen to Part 1 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    26 m
  • 184. Divorce Explored: Dividing Real Estate in Divorce (Part 1 of 2)

    184. Divorce Explored: Dividing Real Estate in Divorce (Part 1 of 2)
    Feb 25 2026
    When to Sell, When to Wait, and Why “Feeling Protected” Isn’t the Same as Being Protected Hosts: Karen Chellew (Legal Liaison & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution) + Catherine Shanahan (Divorce Financial Specialist, CDFA & Co-Founder, My Divorce Solution) Real estate is often the biggest (and most emotionally charged) asset in a divorce — and it’s where rushed decisions can create long-term financial risk. In this episode, Karen and Catherine break down the real meaning of “protected” when you’re selling, refinancing, buying, or co-owning property during divorce. They explain the critical difference between being on the note, the mortgage/deed of trust, and the deed — and why misunderstanding those documents can leave your credit, liability, and future borrowing power exposed even if your divorce agreement says you’re “off the hook.” You’ll also hear real-life scenarios from recent clients: the spouse who didn’t know they were still on the mortgage, the hidden HELOC that sat unresolved for 20 years, and the buyer who thought a “divorce clause” in a purchase contract would protect him (it didn’t). The core message is simple: real estate decisions in divorce are financial risk decisions — and clarity is what actually protects you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    25 m