What happens when your body aches for more touch than your partner, friend, or family can give—or when you crave space while someone else longs to connect? In this radically honest episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty dives deep into the science, shame, grief, and negotiation of “touch hunger” and mismatched touch needs. Discover why touch is a real biological need, how neurodivergence, trauma, fat liberation, and disability justice shape who gets touched (and who doesn’t), and get practical tools, scripts, and rituals for navigating the awkward, brave, and beautiful work of honoring your body’s truth. Whether you’re touch-starved, touched-out, or somewhere in between, this episode is your permission slip to need what you need—without apology. Share, reflect, and join The Ember Vault for more embodied, inclusive community.

• (00:00:00) - How To Get Physical Touch
• (00:00:47) - What Is Touch Hunger?
• (00:06:05) - What You Need to Know About Mismatched Touch Needs
• (00:12:06) - What Kind of Touch Need Do You Have?
• (00:18:54) - How to Deal with Unmet Touch Need
• (00:26:45) - You're allowed to ask for more touch this week

Is waiting agony for you? Do you feel anxious when a conversation goes quiet, or does time vanish when you’re hyperfocused? In this episode of Untamed Ember, Dr. Misty unpacks how ADHD and neurodivergent brains experience time differently—why pauses can feel like punishment, and why mismatched tempos create conflict, shame, and communication breakdowns. You’ll get a science-backed, radically honest look at time perception, plus practical tools and conversation scripts to make your own “time warp” visible and workable in relationships, work, and daily life. Perfect for neurodivergent folks, partners, friends, and anyone ready to ditch urgency culture and honor their real rhythm. Listen, share, and join the Untamed Ember rebellion—because your tempo isn’t a flaw, it’s your superpower.

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• (00:00:00) - Introduction: The Agony of Waiting
• (00:00:34) - Understanding Neurodivergent Time Perception
• (00:01:36) - The Neuroscience Behind Time Blindness
• (00:04:35) - Impact on Conversations and Relationships
• (00:12:37) - Practical Tips for Fast Processors
• (00:14:25) - Practical Tips for Slow Processors
• (00:15:59) - Navigating Time Warps in Relationships
• (00:19:33) - Time Perception in Work and School
• (00:21:51) - Time Perception in Intimacy and Friendships
• (00:24:41) - Daily Life and Survival Strategies
• (00:26:20) - Conclusion: Embracing Your Unique Tempo

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Are you haunted by old stories in your sex life—shutdowns, freeze responses, numbness, or shame that shows up right when you most want to be present? In this episode, Dr. Misty takes you deeper than talk therapy, into the places your body holds ancestral scripts about pleasure, safety, and desire—sometimes generations deep. Discover how your fascia acts as the body’s living archive, and learn the basics of SOFT (Somatic-Oriented Fascia Therapy), Misty’s original approach for working with tissue-level memory and nervous system liberation.
You’ll hear stories, get practical ways to notice your “ghosts,” and find out why your pleasure isn’t something you have to earn—it’s your birthright.

• (00:00:00) - Misty on Ghosts in the Bedroom
• (00:03:04) - What Fascia Really Does to Your Body
• (00:10:32) - Soft Therapy for Awakening the Ghost of Sexual Performance
• (00:16:41) - When Your Body's Haunted by Old Stories