You’ve made it to the final episode of the Permission to Disappoint series—and let’s be real, we saved the hardest part for last: actually saying the no.

This isn’t about knowing what your boundaries should be. This is about the moment someone asks you for something and your mouth says “Sure!” while your soul quietly packs a bag and tries to escape out the back door.

If you’ve ever:

• Agreed to something just to avoid the awkwardness of saying no

• Felt responsible for other people’s feelings

• Or replayed a conversation 47 times because you’re still second-guessing your “no”...

This episode will feel like a deep exhale.

Pamela’s walking you through the art of delivering a clear, unapologetic no—without spiraling into guilt, overexplaining, or people-pleasing gymnastics. She also breaks down the four most common boundary-pushers (yes, there are types!) and how to handle each one with calm confidence.

✨ Plus, she shares a mindset shift that might just change how you view your relationships forever.

Oh—and if you're wondering what to actually say when you're put on the spot?

That’s where the Boundary Setting Toolkit comes in.
Inside, you’ll find:

• 10 plug-and-play scripts for tricky boundary convos

• A 3-step reset plan for when you slip up

• Quick phrases to buy time (because “I panicked and said yes” is a real thing)

• Text + email templates when you want to say no without a face-to-face showdown

You can grab it for just $27 👉🏻right here in the show notes or through Pamela’s Instagram @pamelahughescoaching (check the link in her bio).

So here’s your invitation:What would your life look like if you stopped abandoning yourself just to keep others comfortable?

Let’s find out.
🎧 Hit play on this episode—and let Pamela show you how to make your “no” powerful, peaceful, and totally guilt-free.

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About the host:

Hi, friend! My name is Pamela Hughes and I’m a former talk show host turned life coach. After 20 years in the news business, I walked away from what people thought I should do and I did what I wanted to do … coach people who are stuck like I was and help them find relief, awareness and control within themselves.

This was no easy task and I’m not here telling you it was. I had to take full responsibility for where my life was and then decide where I wanted it to go. It was time to stop complaining about my situation and do something about it. I had to stop looking for others to validate me and start having my own back. This required looking inside myself for the answers instead of looking outside myself.

I told you it wasn’t easy … but I wouldn’t change one thing about my journey because it led me right here to you reading about it, maybe identifying with aspects of it, and hopefully being inspired to get UNSTUCK.

Ever catch yourself saying “It’s fine, I’ll handle it” when it is definitely not fine and you absolutely do not have the time, energy, or patience to handle it?

Yeah… same.

If you’re constantly overcommitting, over-explaining, and over-functioning for everyone but yourself, this episode is your wake-up call. Because here’s the thing—saying yes all the time doesn’t make you a good person. It makes you an exhausted one. And the worst part? You probably don’t even realize just how much it’s costing you.

That’s exactly why I’m kicking off a brand-new, 3-part series called Permission to Disappoint: The Boundary-Setting Masterclass—because setting boundaries isn’t just about saying no. It’s about giving yourself the freedom to stop living for everyone else and start showing up for yourself.

🚨 Ever wonder why you’re always drained, even after a full night’s sleep?

🚨 Or why certain people seem to take more from you than others?

🚨 And what if trying to keep the peace is actually destroying your relationships?

Yeah… we’re going there today.

In Part 1, I’m breaking down the hidden cost of chronic helpfulness—how people-pleasing is draining your energy, disconnecting you from who you really are, and (plot twist!) damaging your relationships more than protecting them.

Plus, if setting boundaries feels impossible—don’t worry, I’ve got you.

👇 Need help setting real boundaries? Start here.

THE BOUNDARY SETTING TOOLKIT

💥 Ready to stop people-pleasing and actually start setting boundaries that stick? The Boundary Setting Toolkit is your next step. This isn't just something to read—it's something to use. Inside, you’ll find:

✔️ A checklist to catch your automatic yes moments before they slip out

✔️ 10 plug-and-play scripts to say no—without overexplaining or feeling rude

✔️ Phrases to help you buy time when you feel put on the spot

✔️ Email, text, and meeting templates for real-life digital boundary setting

✔️ A 3-step reset process to help you bounce back when you slip up

If you've ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why did I say yes to that?”—this toolkit is for you.

You don’t have to keep guessing or winging it. These are the exact tools that will help you go from constantly overcommitting to confidently protecting your time, energy, and sanity.

👉 CLICK HERE to grab it here for just $27: (You can also find the link on Instagram @pamelahughescoaching)

No fluff. Just the tools you wish you had years ago.