Send us a text

In this episode of Unshakeable Confidence, I’m talking about a pattern so many high-achieving women struggle with—being “too independent.”

For years, I was proud of being the strong one who never needed help. But behind the strength, I felt heavy, overwhelmed, and painfully alone. What I didn’t realize was that my independence wasn’t confidence—it was protection. A survival strategy I learned when support didn’t feel safe or available.

I share personal stories from my childhood, my marriage, and my career to show how this protective independence develops—and why it eventually leads to burnout, isolation, and emotional exhaustion.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• The 5 most common signs of unhealthy independence
• Why asking for or receiving help feels so uncomfortable
• The difference between independence, dependence, and interdependence
• A simple parts-work process to help you feel safer with connection
• Small steps you can take to stop doing everything alone

Moving from independence to interdependence has changed my life. I feel more supported, more connected, and more myself than ever before—and I want the same for you.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at Coco@CocoDuanCoaching.com with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
• Instagam: https://www.instagram.com/cocoduan/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cocoduan/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coco.duan

Send us a text

In this episode, I’m opening up about one of the most essential human needs that most of us never learned to name — the need to be truly seen. Not for what we do. Not for what we achieve. Not for how impressive we look on paper. But for who we are at the deepest, most human level.

I share the story of the first time in my life I ever felt genuinely seen — not for my accomplishments, but for my emotions, my struggles, and my inner world. It happened five years ago with my therapist, long before I ever became a coach. And it changed everything about how I saw myself, how I led, and the kind of life I believed I deserved.

For so much of my life, I was praised for being the high achiever, the girl who kept climbing, the woman who could “handle anything.” But inside, I felt small, shaky, and unseen. I didn’t understand why external success never made me feel confident. I didn’t understand why compliments felt uncomfortable. I didn’t understand why, even as a Fortune 500 executive, I still didn’t feel “good enough.”

Now I do.
And in this episode, I walk you through exactly why.

You’ll learn:

• Why being seen is a fundamental human need — not a luxury.
• How childhood mirroring shapes your identity, self-trust, and confidence.
• What happens when this need isn’t met — including the subtle “shadow expressions” like overexplaining, name-dropping, dominating conversations, or chasing achievements you don’t even want.
• Why high-achieving women often feel both hungry to be seen and terrified of being seen.
• The three-step path to getting this need met in adulthood — safely, compassionately, and powerfully.
• How being truly seen transforms your confidence, your relationships, and your leadership.
• And how, once you learn to see yourself, you naturally become someone who can deeply see others.

This isn’t just a conversation about personal growth — it’s a conversation about identity, safety, emotional healing, and becoming the grounded, confident version of yourself you were always meant to be.

If you’ve ever felt unseen…
If you’ve ever felt misunderstood…
If you’ve ever felt like you had to perform, prove, or please your way into belonging…
This episode will feel like a deep exhale.

And if you want support in being truly seen — and learning how to see yourself with clarity, compassion, and truth — I would love to meet you. You can book a free 1:1 consultation using the link in the show notes.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at Coco@CocoDuanCoaching.com with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
• Instagam: https://www.instagram.com/cocoduan/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cocoduan/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coco.duan

Send us a text

In today’s episode, I sit down with my dear friend and longtime client, Natalie Lee, who is now a Vice President at Louis Vuitton and one of the calmest, most intentional leaders I know.

When we first started working together almost three years ago, Natalie was leading Asia Pacific during the pandemic, pregnant, living in Hong Kong without family support, and running on empty. On paper, she was a high-performing executive. Inside, she was overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and in her first real season of burnout.

In this intimate conversation, Natalie shares how she went from constantly “on,” checking emails late into the night, feeling guilty for taking even one yoga class… to becoming a calm, confident, and deeply empathetic leader who protects her energy, works out at 7 a.m., and leads her team with presence and clarity.

We also talk about the deeper inner work behind her transformation—how childhood experiences with her aunts were still driving her reactions at work decades later, and how understanding her patterns helped her break the cycle of burnout from the inside out.

If you’re a high-achieving woman who feels like you “should be able to handle it” but are secretly exhausted, this episode is for you.

• Coco Duan helps high-achieving women executives who secretly doubt themselves to build calm confidence and create success that feels truly fulfilling.
• I'd love to invite you to take the next step toward building your calm confidence. Book your FREE one-hour consultation call here: https://calendly.com/cocoduancoaching/1-hr-consultation
• Or email me at Coco@CocoDuanCoaching.com with the subject line: “Consultation.”
• Let’s discover what’s possible for you. 💫

• Website: www.CocoDuanCoaching.com
• Instagam: https://www.instagram.com/cocoduan/
• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/cocoduan/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/coco.duan