In this episode, I break down what Daddy Dom/little girl really means from my perspective as a little. I share:

• What being a little looks like in my everyday life

• The difference between littles and middles

• Real-life caregiving moments with Scorpio

• Bratting as part of personality, not just behavior

• What Daddies get out of the dynamic

• Busting common myths about DD/lg

DD/lg isn’t about children or abuse. It’s about two consenting adults choosing roles that bring comfort, structure, and joy. For me, it’s about balance, playfulness, and trust.

This week on Unmasking Kink, I dive deep into safe words, what they are, how they work, and why they matter. From Homer Simpson to Fifty Shades of Grey, safe words in pop culture don’t always get it right. But in real life, they’re the backbone of trust in kink.

I'll share my first experience with safe words, explore verbal and non-verbal options, and explain why safe words aren’t just for bottoms, tops need them too. Plus, a look at group play, CNC, and what to do if a safe word is ignored.

Safe words are the seatbelts of kink: most of the time you don’t need them, but when you do, you’ll be grateful they’re there.

One-true-way attitudes are everywhere in online kink spaces: “real subs never have limits,” “a Dom should never apologize,” “if you’re not 24/7, it’s not real.”

In this episode, Nova Monroe breaks down why those statements are harmful, shares how she handles gatekeeping attitudes, and offers a better way: building your own rulebook.

💜 Listen in, roll your eyes with me at the gatekeepers, and remember — the only true way is the one that works for you.

I know I’m way late to the party, but I finally sat down and watched Fifty Shades of Grey for the first time—and I’ve got some thoughts. Big ones.

The BDSM community loves to drag this movie, calling it abusive, unrealistic, or just plain harmful. But my take? It’s not the floggers or the contract that bothered me. The real issues are communication gaps, experience imbalances, and the one subplot that truly is dangerous: Christian’s grooming backstory.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why the real power imbalance isn’t money, but experience.

• How the movie does show negotiation, safewords, and even aftercare (just not the way you’d expect).

• Why trauma doesn’t “explain kink,” but it does explain Christian’s walls in relationships.

• And the biggest red flag of all: the Mrs. Robinson subplot, and why it’s the most harmful part of the story.

At the end of the day, Fifty Shades is fiction—not a field manual. So let’s talk about what it got wrong, what it surprisingly got right, and what lessons kinksters and vanilla folks alike can take away from it.

🎙️ Unmasking Kink is here every Friday—subscribe so you don’t miss an episode!

This week on Unmasking Kink, Nova Monroe explores one of the simplest yet most powerful tools in the kink world: the Yes/No/Maybe List. Whether you’re brand new to BDSM or just looking for a better way to communicate with partners, this little checklist can make all the difference.

Nova breaks down what it is, why it matters, and how to use it—without overthinking or overcomplicating. Plus, a special milestone: the podcast has officially hit 200 downloads!

Tune in for practical tips, a bit of personal reflection, and a preview of Nova’s printable Yes/No/Maybe List that will soon be available on Etsy.

✨ Clearer communication, safer play, and more fun—that’s the power of Yes/No/Maybe.

In this episode of Unmasking Kink, I share my first experience attending a munch! What it's like, how to prepare and what you can expect when you walk into your first one.

We'll cover everything from event descriptions and table markers to conversation starters, group dynamics and what organizers really want you to know. Plus, I are tips on preparing ahead, how I accidentally stumbled into mine, and the lessons I walked away with.

Whether you're brand new to kink, or looking for community, this episode breaks down the who, what, when, where, why and how of munches in a way that's welcoming, real and a little bit personal.

Recourses mentioned - Show Notes – Unmasking a Munch

Finding Events & Munches

• FetLife – Events Search
• BDSM Events Calendar

Understanding Munches & Etiquette

• Wikipedia – “Munch (BDSM)”
• Threshold Society – Munch Etiquette
• EhBC – Munch Tips

For Newcomers to Kink & Events

• Kink Academy – “What to do when you’re new.”

Find all I’ve got going on at the website

• Unmaskingkink.com

Not every episode needs to be loud to hit hard.

This week, I’m exploring the very first kink I ever recognized in myself, masochism. What draws someone to enjoy pain? Is it something to worry about, or something worth understanding on a deeper level? I’m breaking down common misconceptions, unpacking the psychology, and tackling the big question: is masochism a mental disorder, or just another way humans seek sensation, control, and connection?

It’s a slower, more thoughtful vibe, but worth every second.

Articles referenced: Definition How to Tell if I have Self Defeating Personality Disorder What is a Masochist.

In this episode of Unmasking Kink, we delve into the tension between authenticity and acceptability in the kink community. Inspired by insightful posts from FetLife users Tittan and Vampyre, we explore the implications of sanitizing BDSM for mainstream comfort.

We'll discuss personal boundaries, the importance of consent, and the value of embracing the raw, unfiltered aspects of kink.

Whether you're a seasoned player or new to the scene, this conversation invites you to reflect on the true essence of kink and the importance of preserving its integrity.

Featured FetLife Writers:

• Tittan – “When Kink Gets Tamed: The Dangers of Vanilla-fying BDSM”

• Vampyre – “BDSM Isn’t About Making Outsiders Comfortable”