There’s the version of you people think they know.

And then there’s the version of you that actually exists.

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, Marcie talks about what it feels like to be labeled, misunderstood, and reduced to a single choice or chapter of your life.

From religious upbringing to divorce, from OnlyFans to polyamory, from people pleasing to autonomy, she unpacks how identity evolves and why public perception rarely captures the full story.

This conversation isn’t about correcting everyone.

It’s about reclaiming yourself.

• Being misunderstood after life changes

• Religious identity vs personal identity

• How labels limit people

• Shame and public judgment

• Outgrowing old versions of yourself

• Why people cling to the version of you they’re comfortable with

• Identity shifts after divorce or faith transitions

• Online perception vs real life complexity

• Self trust vs external validation

• Letting go of people who only love the “old” you

Most people don’t struggle with change.

They struggle with how other people respond to their change.

This episode explores the tension between growth and familiarity, between evolving and being asked to stay the same. It’s about learning to tolerate being misunderstood instead of shrinking back into something easier for others to digest.

Growth often looks messy from the outside.

From the inside, it feels like relief.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve reinvented yourself

• You’ve left a religion or marriage

• You’ve started something controversial

• You’ve been labeled for one decision

• You’re tired of explaining yourself

• You’re learning to choose authenticity over approval

If you’ve ever felt like you’ve lived multiple lives in one lifetime, this conversation will feel familiar.

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where faith, sexuality, autonomy, shame, and love intersect.

No shame.

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

If this episode resonated with you and you want to stay connected, submit a question, or follow along, everything is gathered here:

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Jealousy gets blamed for a lot.

But most of the time, it’s not the villain. It’s the messenger.

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, Marcie unpacks what jealousy actually reveals about us, especially inside nontraditional and monogamous relationships alike. From religious conditioning to attachment styles, from comparison spirals to fear of abandonment, this conversation looks at what’s underneath the trigger instead of reacting to it.

This isn’t about pretending jealousy doesn’t exist.

It’s about understanding what it’s trying to tell you.

What We Talk About:

• What jealousy really signals in relationships

• Insecurity vs intuition

• Anxious and avoidant attachment styles

• Fear of abandonment

• Comparison in the social media era

• Religious conditioning and possessiveness

• Emotional regulation in relationships

• Communicating without accusation

• Conflict avoidance and people pleasing

• How to sit with discomfort instead of controlling it

• The difference between control and safety

• Rewriting inherited relationship patterns

Jealousy is rarely about the other person.

It’s usually about the story you’re telling yourself.

This episode explores how past experiences, religious upbringing, attachment wounds, and insecurity shape the way we react when we feel threatened. Instead of shaming the emotion, Marcie breaks down how to pause, name the fear, and communicate from clarity instead of panic.

Because the goal isn’t to eliminate jealousy.

It’s to respond to it differently.

This conversation is for you if:

• You’ve ever spiraled over something small

• You struggle with anxious or avoidant attachment

• You’ve felt insecure in a relationship

• You’ve compared yourself to your partner’s past or present

• You’re learning how to communicate without attacking

• You want healthier conflict instead of silent resentment

Whether you’re monogamous, polyamorous, dating, married, or healing, this episode sits at the core of relational growth.

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where desire, insecurity, autonomy, faith, and love collide.

No shame.

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

If this episode resonated and you want to submit a question, share your story, or stay connected, everything is gathered in one place:

link.me/marcie_reeves

If you’ve seen The Secret Lives of Mormon Wives on Hulu, you’ve probably walked away with a very specific idea of what swinging looks like .

Dramatic.

Chaotic.

A guaranteed way to destroy your marriage

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, Marcie separates reality TV spectacle from real life non monogamy.

Because cheating, secrecy, and misalignment are not the same thing as consensual swinging.

And when those get blurred together, people walk away believing openness is the villain.

What We Talk About:

• The difference between soft swap and full swap

• Why spin the bottle is not representative of the lifestyle

• How alcohol and lack of sex education complicate boundaries

• The role of communication in healthy non monogamy

• Why “go with the flow” is not a strategy

• The importance of clearly defined boundaries

• Consent culture inside swinging communities

• Why over communication actually increases safety

• Aftercare, emotional recap, and physical aftercare

• How lack of condom conversations creates real risk

• The difference between swinging and cheating

• Why reality TV frames non monogamy as the problem instead of dishonesty

The show framed swinging as chaotic and impulsive.

But what actually went wrong wasn’t openness.

It was silence.

Lines were crossed before they were ever drawn.

And when you call cheating “swinging,” you erase the couples who do the hard work of communicating, setting boundaries, and protecting each other.

Drama makes good TV.

Healthy relationship dynamics don’t.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve watched the show and felt confused

• You’re curious about non monogamy but wary

• You’ve assumed swinging always leads to divorce

• You’ve struggled with communicating boundaries

• You want to understand consent culture more clearly

• You’re trying to separate moral panic from actual practice

Swinging, like any relationship structure, only works with honesty and alignment.

Without context, anything can look like a cautionary tale.

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where faith, sexuality, autonomy, and love collide.

No shame.

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

If this episode resonated and you want to share your experience, submit a question, or stay connected, everything is gathered here:

⁠link.me/marcie_reeves⁠

Sunee didn’t just choose a different path.

She chose one most people are taught to avoid entirely.

Raised in Utah, surrounded by expectations about marriage, religion, and what a “good life” is supposed to look like, she realized early she didn’t fit the mold.

And instead of forcing it… she walked the other direction.

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, Marcie sits down with Sunee to talk about growing up outside the dominant culture, resisting pressure to conform, and building a life that actually fits you.

This conversation is not about shock.

It’s about ownership.

What We Talk About:

• Growing up outside the dominant culture in Utah

• Feeling like the outsider early in life

• Rejecting the default path from a young age

• Confidence, rebellion, and refusing to shrink

• Dating outside the local mold

• Building a life that doesn’t fit the traditional narrative

• Starting a subscriber based content career

• Marriage, openness, and nontraditional relationship dynamics

• Supportive partners versus controlling ones

• The emotional labor behind digital intimacy

• Boundaries with subscribers and difficult client behavior

• The assumptions people make about women in this line of work

• Why people confuse visibility with availability

• Doing unconventional work in Utah

• Freedom, flexibility, and redefining success

• How judgment changes when it turns inward

• Wanting to be seen as more than one label

A lot of people assume a woman like Sunee must be reckless, shallow, or asking for judgment.

That’s lazy thinking.

What this episode actually shows is how much intention, communication, confidence, and emotional intelligence it takes to build a life outside the script.

Not everyone who looks unconventional is lost.

Some people are just honest enough to stop pretending.

This episode is for you if:

• You grew up feeling like the outsider

• You’ve questioned the life path you were handed

• You’ve ever felt judged for how you look or what you do

• You’re trying to separate your identity from other people’s assumptions

• You’ve built a life that makes sense to you but not everyone else

• You want more freedom without apologizing for it

Sometimes the hardest part of being different is not the choice itself.

It’s the constant pressure to explain it.

If this episode resonated and you want to share your experience, submit a question, or stay connected, everything is gathered here:

⁠link.me/marcie_reeves⁠

We all get the chance to do things for the first time.

Some of us just choose more controversial ones.

In this episode, Marcie shares what her first day on OF actually looked like and what it didn’t.

Before the account.

Before the money.

Before the opinions.

This is the story behind the decision.

From growing up Mormon with abstinence-only education

to unpacking sexual shame in therapy

to realizing that the job wasn’t just about nudity, it was about emotional labor, connection, identity, and autonomy.

She talks about:

• What it felt like to choose OnlyFans without feeling immoral

• Why money didn’t magically fix everything

• The unexpected emotional connection with subscribers• OCD, overthinking, and public judgment

• Why p*** and real-life intimacy are more complicated than people assume

• The difference between outside judgment and inside experience

• How her values didn’t disappear, they evolved

This conversation is not about convincing you of anything.

It’s about perspective.

OF ended up being less about what she was doing and more about who she was becoming.

If you’ve ever judged something from the outside, or been judged for something you chose, this one sits right in that tension.

What’s something you’ve judged from the outside that you’ve never experienced from the inside?

Thanks for being unladylike.

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Some relationships start with a plan

Ours didn't

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, we sit down with James and Mia to unpack what happens when love doesn’t fit the script. We talk about jealousy, emotional safety, autonomy, expectations, and what it really takes to build a relationship outside of default rules.

This conversation isn’t about having it all figured out. It’s about navigating uncertainty without losing yourself.

What We Talk About:

• What happens when relationships don’t follow the traditional path

• Jealousy and where it actually comes from

• Emotional safety vs control

• Communication under pressure

• Autonomy inside a partnership

• Ownership vs agency in love

• Redefining commitment

• Learning to sit in discomfort

• Breaking relational patterns

• Choosing honesty over image

At some point, every relationship hits a moment where the script runs out.

The question becomes:

Do you tighten control, or do you expand trust?

This episode explores what it looks like to stay in conversation when things feel uncertain, to face jealousy without turning it into accusation, and to build something intentional instead of inherited.

Love isn’t simple.

But it can be honest.

This episode is for you if:

• You’ve ever struggled with jealousy

• You’ve questioned traditional relationship structures

• You’re learning how to communicate without shutting down

• You want connection without possession

• You’re trying to build something real instead of something expected

About Unladylike Thoughts:

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where desire, insecurity, autonomy, and love collide.

No shame.

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Stay Connected:

If this conversation resonated with you and you want to submit your own story, connect deeper, or follow along, everything is gathered in one place:

https://link.me/marcie_reeves

I’ve shared pieces of my story before

But never the whole picture.

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, I walk through my full journey, growing up Mormon in Utah, getting married at 18 for religious reasons, questioning church history, leaving the faith, starting OnlyFans, getting divorced, and finding myself in a polyamorous relationship.

This isn’t about shock value.

It’s about what happens when the belief system that shaped your entire identity begins to crack, and you decide to listen to your own voice instead.

What We Talk About:

• Growing up in a strict Mormon household

• Religious conditioning and people pleasing

• Getting married young for faith based reasons

• Women and salvation in Mormon doctrine

• Questioning church history and faith deconstruction

• Leaving the Mormon church

• Divorce after religion

• Starting OnlyFans after religious shame

• Porn focused therapy and sexual healing

• Financial independence after marriage

• Polyamory and open relationships

• Attachment styles, anxious vs avoidant

• Conflict avoidance and peacekeeper identity

• Reclaiming intuition and inner voice

• Becoming financially and emotionally independent

Core Conversation Thread:

When your entire identity is built on belief, what happens when belief collapses?

This episode explores what it feels like to untangle yourself from religious expectations, cultural pressure, marriage built on doctrine, and the fear of eternal consequences.

It’s about moving from obedience to agency.

From shame to ownership.

From survival to self trust.

And realizing that every version of you was just trying to stay safe.

This conversation is for you if:

• You grew up in a high demand religion

• You got married young because you thought you were supposed to

• You’ve questioned your faith but felt afraid to say it out loud

• You’ve struggled with attachment styles in relationships

• You’re navigating divorce or identity shifts

• You’re learning to separate who you are from what you were taught

You don’t have to agree with every conclusion.

But if you’ve ever felt like you’ve lived multiple identities in one lifetime, you’ll recognize something here.

About Unladylike Thoughts:

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where faith, sexuality, autonomy, divorce, desire, and identity intersect.

No shame.

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

Stay Connected:

If this episode resonated with you and you want to submit your story, stay connected, or follow the ongoing conversation, everything is gathered in one place:

https://link.me/marcie_reeves

For most of her life, “unladylike” felt like a warning

Too loud.

Too sexual.

Too honest.

Too much.

In this episode of Unladylike Thoughts, Marcie unpacks what that word meant growing up Mormon in Utah, how modesty and purity culture shaped her relationship to shame, and why reclaiming her sexuality through polyamory and OnlyFans became an act of agency instead of rebellion.

This isn’t about being shocking.

It’s about being honest in the places where honesty was never allowed.

What We Talk About

• Growing up Mormon and internalizing modesty culture

• Purity lessons that equated sexuality with “dirty”

• Religious conditioning around agency and obedience

• Being labeled “too much”

• Attraction vs infidelity

• Polyamory and opening a marriage

• Secrecy, shame, and emotional betrayal

• Monogamy as default vs conscious choice

• Reclaiming sexuality through OnlyFans

• Authenticity and trust in friendships and relationships

• Breaking from tradition without breaking yourself

This episode challenges one central belief:

Attraction is not betrayal.

Secrecy and shame are.

Marcie shares how years of religious messaging taught her that even having a thought could make her “unclean,” and how that conditioning followed her into marriage, relationships, and her own self-image.

Through polyamory, deconstruction, and radical honesty, she began separating desire from moral failure.

And what she found was this:

When she stopped hiding, people trusted her more, not less.

This conversation is for you if:

• You grew up in purity culture

• You were taught your body was responsible for someone else’s thoughts

• You’ve questioned monogamy but felt afraid to say it out loud

• You’ve felt “too much” in relationships

• You’ve wrestled with shame around sexuality

• You’re learning how to trust your own agency

You don’t have to agree with every conclusion.

You just have to be willing to examine the beliefs you inherited.

About Unladylike Thoughts

Unladylike Thoughts is a relationship and identity podcast hosted by Marcie Reeves.

This show lives in the gray.

Where desire, religion, autonomy, shame, and identity collide.

No shame

No fake perfect.

No skipping the uncomfortable parts.

New episodes every Tuesday.

If this episode stirred something in you and you want to share your story, submit anonymously, or stay connected, everything is gathered here