In this first Thriving Kids Q&A episode, Dr. Dave Anderson answers real parenting questions about kids’ behavior — what it is, how to shape it, and how to support children through challenges.

We cover:

• How to handle lying, even when kids show no remorse
• Teaching respect, kindness, and standing up for others
• Whether there’s such a thing as “good” or “bad” behavior
• What to do when boys’ behavior becomes more destructive as they grow
• How to help kids recognize areas for growth without shame
• What to do when a high-energy child is sensitive to feedback

For more on this topic, check out our full episode with Dr. Caroline Mendel: How do I promote good behavior in my children?

Resources mentioned:

• Positive Parenting, Thriving Kids video series → childmind.org/positiveparenting
• Full podcast feed → childmind.org/podcast

In this premiere episode, Dr. Dave Anderson and Dr. Caroline Mendel dive into one of the most common questions parents ask: How can I get my child to behave better?

From toddlers to teens, they explore what really works when it comes to promoting positive behavior — and why quick fixes and harsh discipline aren’t the answer. Instead, they break down a proven, evidence-based approach that starts with the foundation of a strong parent-child relationship.

Guest: Dr. Caroline Mendel, Former Senior Director of Clinical Services at the Child Mind Institute

You’ll learn:

• Why quality time matters more than you think
• How to “catch them being good” — and why that phrase is more than a cliché
• What the behavior pyramid is (and how to use it)
• Why consistency beats intensity every time
• What actually makes time-outs effective
• And how to handle common behavior challenges like sibling conflict and screen time battles

This episode is packed with realistic strategies, expert insight, and personal stories that remind us: there’s no magic solution — but there is a better way.

Resources Mentioned

From the Child Mind Institute:

• Positive Parenting, Thriving Kids Guide to Good Behavior
• Complete Guide to Managing Behavior Problems
• Behavior Problems Resource Center

Books We Recommend:

• Raising Human Beings by Dr. Ross Greene
• The Everyday Parenting Toolkit by Dr. Alan Kazdin
• Evidence-Based Parenting Books – Behavioral Collective

Parenting Programs & Online Tools:

• PAXIS Institute School-Based Programs
• Incredible Years Parenting Course
• FAST Resources for Parents – Seattle Children’s Hospital
• Caregiver Handout on Supporting Teenagers – Seattle Children’s
• Encouraging Positive Behavior: Tips – Raising Children Network
• Encouraging Positive Behavior – Children’s Hospital of Orange County
• Mental Health Minute Series – American Academy of Pediatrics

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What do I do when my child is anxious—or angry—or just shuts down?
Welcome to Thriving Kids, the new podcast from the Child Mind Institute. Hosted by clinical psychologist Dr. Dave Anderson, each episode shares practical tools and clear answers to tough parenting questions—always evidence-based and judgment-free.
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