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Discover a powerful concept to shift your mindset and unlock inner peace. This video offers inspiration and actionable steps for personal growth, drawing from psychology to enhance self improvement and ignite your motivation.

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You’ve been taught that saying *yes* keeps people close. That giving more means loving more. But here’s the truth: over-giving isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And instead of creating closeness, it destroys intimacy.

In this episode, Janice Holland calls out the myth that constant giving is virtue. You’ll discover why saying yes all the time is actually manipulation, how “performance service” masquerades as selflessness, and why true intimacy only comes from boundaries.

⚡ Inside this episode:

- The hidden manipulation behind saying yes.

- The real cost of over-giving: resentment, loneliness, and illness.

- How faith and values get misused to justify self-abandonment.

- The difference between authentic service and performance service.

- Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re the gateway to connection.

- One simple boundary you can start practicing today.

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Are you truly at peace, or just stuck in survival mode? In this video, I break down the difference between the freeze response and true calm—a game-changing distinction for anyone on a trauma recovery journey.

If you’ve spent years people-pleasing, feeling numb, or confusing “shutting down” with actual serenity, this is for you.

You’ll learn:

- How freeze response can masquerade as calm

- Subtle signs you’re in survival mode (and not really at peace)

- What authentic calm actually feels like in your body

- Practical steps to move from freeze to genuine peace

Ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living courageously?

Let’s dig in!

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0:00 Introduction: The Calm That Isn't Calm

1:15 What is Freeze Response?

2:45 Signs You're Frozen (Not Peaceful)

4:20 What True Calm Actually Feels Like

6:10 Moving From Freeze to Authentic Peace

7:30 Your Next Steps