Ever find yourself instantly regretting how you responded to your kids? Discover a simple yet effective tool to transform those reactive moments into opportunities for connection and understanding.

Chapter Summary:

00:20 Welcome to the Stress Nanny Podcast
01:03 The Importance of Emotional Intelligence
01:40 Understanding Response vs. Reaction
03:37 The Re-do Tool
05:00 Illustrating Emotional Intelligence
06:40 Implementing the Redo in Daily Life

Featured Quotes:

• “Our response is on purpose, whereas our reaction is something that’s just kind of off the cuff.” - Lindsay Miller
• “Reaction makes a situation worse instead of better, whereas responses can diffuse a moment much more easily and create a sense of connection.” - Lindsay Miller

Behind the Story:

Lindsay shares a personal anecdote about using the “Re-do” tool with her daughter during her younger years. She explains how this method helped her cultivate patience and model intentional responses, turning potentially frustrating interactions into valuable teaching moments.

Additional Resources:

• A Mindfulness Tool for All Ages
• Expert Tips for Helping Kids Calm Down When They Feel Anxious

Lindsay Miller is a distinguished kids mindfulness coach, mindfulness educator and host of The Stress Nanny Podcast. She is known for her suitcase tricks and playful laugh. When she's not playing catch with her daughter or rollerblading on local trails with her husband, you can find her using her 20+ years of child development study and mindfulness certification to dream up new ways to get kids excited about deep breathing. Having been featured on numerous podcasts, platforms and publications, Lindsay’s words of wisdom are high impact and leave a lasting impression wherever she goes. To sign up for Lindsay's "Calm & Collected" Newsletter click here.

Show Notes: Stress Nanny Podcast

Episode Theme: Embracing Mindfulness and Self-Compassion

• Host Update: Lindsay Miller shares more about the spacing of podcast episodes to prioritize client work and personal balance, with plans to release new content, including interviews and an online audio course.
• Guest Feature: Julie Potiker, author of “Snap from Chaos to Calm,” discusses the SNAP system for stress management. The system uses mindfulness techniques: Soothing Touch, Name the Emotion, Actual Needs, and Praise.
• Mindfulness Journey: The episode explores Julie's journey into mindfulness, starting with challenges in parenting and stress-related cognitive issues.
• Mindfulness Techniques: Introduction of the RAIN acronym—Recognize, Allow, Investigate, and Nourish—as a method to improve well-being through self-compassion.
• Children’s Mindfulness: Julie recently led a mindful self-compassion workshop for a Girl Scout troop, using creative tools like polished stones and wristbands. Emphasis on teaching children mindfulness and emotional regulation while respecting their autonomy. Discussion on nurturing positive traits, shifting from self-criticism to self-compassion, and the motivational power of compassionate inner dialogue.
• Parental Guidance: Encouragement for parents to understand self-compassion to better guide their children. Exploration of different approaches to introduce mindfulness and self-love, catering to various personalities.

This episode is rich with insights into mindfulness and self-compassion, offering practical strategies for managing stress and nurturing personal growth for both adults and children.

Resources mentioned in the episode:

Happier Human Benefits of Gratitude

It's OK: Being Kind to Yourself with Things Feel Hard

Julie's Website - MindfulMethodsForLife.com

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Lindsay Miller is a distinguished kids mindfulness coach, mindfulness educator and host of The Stress Nanny Podcast. She is known for her suitcase tricks and playful laugh. When she's not playing catch with her daughter or rollerblading on local trails with her husband, you can find her using her 20+ years of child development study and mindfulness certification to dream up new ways to get kids excited about deep breathing. Having been featured on numerous podcasts, platforms and publications, Lindsay’s words of wisdom are high impact and leave a lasting impression wherever she goes. To sign up for Lindsay's "Calm & Collected" Newsletter click here.

Main Theme:
The episode delves into the concept of emotional DNA, as presented in Judy’s book “The Power of Your DNA,” which is part of the Genealogy 3.0 framework. This approach examines how inherited emotional patterns from significant family events impact individual behavior and emotional health.

Key Discussion Points:

1. Emotional DNA and Its Influence:
   • Definition and significance of emotional DNA as inherited patterns of thoughts, feelings, and actions.
   • How understanding these patterns can transform unhelpful behaviors into healthier ones.
2. Historical Impact on Present Emotions:
   • The role of unresolved family issues, such as those stemming from events like World Wars, in shaping current emotional experiences.
   • Importance of addressing these historical emotions for personal and familial healing.
   • Exploration of inherited beliefs about money and adopting a positive financial mindset.
3. Emotions as Teachers:
   • Contrast between negative self-talk and positive affirmations to encourage empowerment.
4. Constellation Technique:
   • Use of the constellation method to visualize and explore familial emotional dynamics, using insights gained to recognize opportunities for growth.
5. Processing Emotions Thoughtfully:
   • Encouragement to process emotions thoughtfully to foster understanding.
   • Avoiding uncontrollable emotional expressions.
6. Child Development and Emotional Management:
   • Importance of teaching children to manage emotions.
   • Impact of unresolved parental issues on children’s emotional development and the call for parental self-reflection.
7. Tools for Empathetic Children:
   • Introduction of tools like the “Empathy Flashlight” to help empathetic children manage their sensitivity effectively.

Conclusion:
The episode underscores the importance of mindful engagement with emotions to promote healing and positive relationship dynamics within families. By exploring emotional DNA and utilizing practical techniques, individuals can foster greater emotional awareness and agency.

Judy Wilkins-Smith is a highly regarded executive coach, Family Patterns, Systemic Work, and Constellations expert, transformational speaker, and author who is passionate about individual growth, visionary leadership, and positive, accelerated, global change. The Founder of System Dynamics for Individuals and Organizations, she has 20 years of expertise assisting high-performance individuals, Fortune 500 executives (Chevron, JP Morgan, Kellogg's, ExxonMobil), and legacy families to end limiting cycles and create lasting breakthroughs and transitions into peak performance. She is a regular guest on television, radio, and podcasts and is the author of the bestseller Decoding Your Emotional Blueprint: A Powerful Guide to Transformation Through Disentangling Multigenerational Patterns (Sounds True), which has been translated into seven languages to date.

Lindsay Miller is a distinguished kids mindfulness coach, mindfulness educator and host of The Stress Nanny Podcast. She is known for her suitcase tricks and playful laugh. When she's not playing catch with her daughter or rollerblading on local trails with her husband, you can find her using her 20+ years of child development study and mindfulness certification to dream up new ways to get kids excited about deep breathing. Having been featured on numerous podcasts, platforms and publications, Lindsay’s words of wisdom are high impact and leave a lasting impression wherever she goes. To sign up for Lindsay's "Calm & Collected" Newsletter click here.