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Ever feel stuck in the same loop, even when you know you want things to change? I get it!

Today we’re talking about something I see all the time in divorce, conflict, and life transitions. I call them the six victim habits. They’re not about calling yourself a victim.

They’re about spotting the patterns that quietly keep you stuck, keeping you from moving forward.

In this episode, I’ll walk you through the six habits and help you figure out if one of them is showing up in your life right now. Once you spot it, you can fix it.

We’ll chat about:

• The thrill of attention and when support turns into a trap
• Self-imposed helplessness and why “I can’t” can become a default
• Playing small and not growing because it feels uncomfortable
• The “get them before they get you” mindset
• The “can’t say no” habit and how over-giving really leads to burnout
• And some real life examples

Next episode, I’ll show you what to do with this once you spot your habit, because awareness is totally step one, and change is the goal.

Resources:

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm

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You really can get through your divorce without it turning into an all-out war.

I’m breaking down how to keep your peace and your power. Because being the “peacemaker” doesn’t mean being a pushover. It means you’re smart, strategic, and keeping your eyes on the long game instead of getting lost in the drama.

We’ll talk about what a real peacemaker looks like (hint: calm and confident, not quiet and compliant), and how to protect what matters most to you without letting emotions run the show.

Here’s what we’re diving into:

• The real difference between being peaceful and being passive
• How to get in the right headspace before a big talk or mediation
• Why your emotional "state" affects how well you negotiate
• What to say when your ex pushes back without making things worse
• Red flags that you're giving too much away (and how to stop before you do)
• The one thing that can save you time, money, and a lot of stress

If you’ve been trying to “keep the peace” but end up feeling walked on, this one’s for you. I’ll show you how to stay grounded, protect your interests, and actually get to the finish line faster, with a lot less stress and way fewer lawyer bills.

MEDIATION STARTER GUIDE: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

KELLY'S BOOK: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk

LEGAL: Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com

INSTAGRAM: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm

FACEBOOK: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm

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It sounds simple: just add your kid to the house title and skip the legal stuff. But what feels like a shortcut can turn into a mess… and sometimes, a full-blown legal disaster.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sapere Pro and estate planning attorney Greg Bennett to talk about why putting family on your title is almost never a good idea. We’ve seen this move backfire in ways that cause family conflict, tax surprises, and court cases that could have been prevented.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just put my kid on the deed so it’s easier when I die,” this is your heads-up: it’s probably not as easy or as safe as it sounds.

Greg and I often see people trying to do the right thing with their home, only to create problems they didn’t expect.

We talk about what really happens when you add someone to your title, and how it can lead to legal issues, financial risk, and family tension that’s hard to unwind once it starts.

Here’s what we cover:

• Why “just put them on” feels simple but can backfire fast
• The real risks of giving up legal control of your home
• How families end up in court over decisions made with good intentions
• A cleaner, safer way to protect your property and the people you love

This one’s for anyone thinking about estate planning, helping aging parents, or navigating property during divorce. You have options. Just make sure they’re the right ones.

RESOURCES:

Download: Mediation Starter Guide: How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation
https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

Kelly's Book: Victim Is Not Your Name

Legal & Mediation Help: Sapere Law Firm

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