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It sounds simple: just add your kid to the house title and skip the legal stuff. But what feels like a shortcut can turn into a mess… and sometimes, a full-blown legal disaster.

In this episode, I’m joined by Sapere Pro and estate planning attorney Greg Bennett to talk about why putting family on your title is almost never a good idea. We’ve seen this move backfire in ways that cause family conflict, tax surprises, and court cases that could have been prevented.

If you’ve ever thought, “I’ll just put my kid on the deed so it’s easier when I die,” this is your heads-up: it’s probably not as easy or as safe as it sounds.

Greg and I often see people trying to do the right thing with their home, only to create problems they didn’t expect.

We talk about what really happens when you add someone to your title, and how it can lead to legal issues, financial risk, and family tension that’s hard to unwind once it starts.

Here’s what we cover:

• Why “just put them on” feels simple but can backfire fast
• The real risks of giving up legal control of your home
• How families end up in court over decisions made with good intentions
• A cleaner, safer way to protect your property and the people you love

This one’s for anyone thinking about estate planning, helping aging parents, or navigating property during divorce. You have options. Just make sure they’re the right ones.

RESOURCES:

Download: Mediation Starter Guide: How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation
https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources

Kelly's Book: Victim Is Not Your Name

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You can’t control how they’ll react, but you can control how you show up.

This episode is about getting grounded, staying calm, and making those hard conversations a little less painful... and a lot more productive.

When conflict flares up, the way you communicate can either move things forward or make them worse. I’m sharing the same tools I teach my clients—and use myself—to help navigate emotional conversations with more clarity and less chaos. Whether it’s your ex, your co-parent, or your boss, there is a better way.

You’ll hear a clip from my video guide, How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation. And while this isn’t about mediation specifically, the same steps and language apply to any tough conversation, especially when emotions are high and the outcome really matters.

We’re digging into:

• Why your emotional state before the conversation matters most
• How to set a non-confrontational tone without triggering the other person
• The power of neutral language, and why accusations backfire
• What not to say if you want to avoid defensiveness and dead ends
• Why pressure and ultimatums never get you what you want
• How to use scripts to prepare for difficult talks without sounding robotic
• The surprising upside of conflict (yes, there is one)

If you’ve got a hard conversation coming up—or one you’ve been avoiding—this episode will help you get grounded, clear, and confident before you speak.

RESOURCES

Download Mediation Guide & Video: How to Talk to Your Ex About Mediation
Kelly’s Book: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
Legal & Mediation Help: Sapere Law & Mediation - https://saperelawfirm.com
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Facebook: @saperelawfirm

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What if the best way to win custody… is to wait?

This episode flips the script on what most veteran parents expect—and reveals what family court actually wants to see when it comes to veteran divorce and custody.

In Part 2 of my conversation with Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.), we move from trauma to the tricky terrain of divorce and parenting after PTSD. If Part 1 was about what went wrong, this one’s about how to start making it right.

Whether you're a veteran struggling with post-combat stress and facing divorce, or the co-parent trying to hold it all together, this episode is full of clarity, compassion, and a clear plan forward.

In this episode:

· What family court really wants to see before granting custody

· How to set up parenting plans that account for trauma history

· The custody checklist every military family should read

· When it’s time to lower your timeshare—and why that’s not losing

· Why treatment first = better outcomes for everyone

· A mock court speech that every lawyer should borrow

About Mark Johnson: Hon. Mark Johnson (Ret.) served as a Superior Court Judge and Colonel in the U.S. Army. He’s a decorated Iraq War veteran, former Veteran’s Court judge, and the author of Scars and Strife, a novel inspired by real stories of combat trauma and recovery.

RESOURCES:

Mark Johnson's book: Scars and Strife – https://a.co/d/38sod6z
Download Custody Checklist: https://mailchi.mp/2939c428981d/mediation-resources
Kelly’s Book: Victim Is Not Your Name – https://a.co/d/e4VguRk
Legal & Mediation Help: https://saperelawfirm.com
Instagram: https://instagram.com/saperelawfirm
Facebook: https://facebook.com/saperelawfirm