We open up about how that played out in our marriage—how selfishness drove decisions that caused real hurt, and how easy it would have been to stay stuck there. Heather shares honestly about what was going on beneath the surface, and Rusty talks about the temptation on the other side to hold onto pain, bitterness, and self-pity. What we’ve learned is that selfishness doesn’t just show up in big moments like infidelity or addiction. It shows up in everyday conflict, when everything starts to revolve around our needs, our expectations, and what we feel like we deserve.

At the same time, we want to be really clear about what we’re not saying. There are situations where safety matters, where boundaries are necessary, and where choosing space or help is the right step. But for most of us, most of the time, the tension in our marriage can be traced back to this quiet, ongoing battle between “me” and “us.”

Our hope in this conversation is to help you recognize where that might be showing up in your own heart, not to bring shame, but to invite something better. Because healing really begins when we stop asking, “What about me?” and start asking, “What would it look like to choose us today?”

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Resurrection is not just something we celebrate at Easter. It is something we can experience in our marriages.

We know what it feels like to be stuck. We know what it feels like for things to seem lifeless, distant, or even beyond repair. But what we have learned is that what feels impossible to us is not impossible for God. If He can roll away a stone, He can move what feels stuck in your marriage. What looks dead may not be finished. It may just be waiting on Him to breathe life back into it.

In this episode, we share five truths that have shaped our own story. We talk about inviting God into the broken places, believing that He can restore what feels too far gone, and trusting that He can turn even the hardest seasons into something meaningful and beautiful.

Most importantly, we want you to hear this. Your story is not over. An empty tomb means your marriage still has a future. No matter where you are today, there is hope.

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Sometimes we look at our marriage and feel overwhelmed by everything that needs to change.

The conversations. The habits. The distance. The hurt.

And if we’re honest… it can feel like too much.

But what if you didn’t have to fix everything today?

In this episode, we share a simple shift that God has been pressing on our hearts lately: focus on the next 24 hours.

Not forever. Not five years from now. Just today.

Because when you wake up and choose—just for today—to love your spouse well, to be patient, to be kind, to show up differently… something begins to change. The weight lifts. The pressure eases. And suddenly, growth feels possible again.

We talk about how this “24-hour mindset” can bring clarity, reduce overwhelm, and help you become more intentional in your marriage—right where you are.

And at the end, we share a powerful God story that reminded us of something we never want you to forget:

God is in the details of your marriage.

Even the ones you think He’s missed. Even the ones that feel small. Even the ones that feel delayed.

This was a moment we couldn’t have planned—and it left us in awe of how personal and present God really is.

If you’re feeling stuck, tired, or unsure where to start… this episode is for you.

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