Episodios

  • The Counter-Cultural Secret of Planned Emancipation: Why Parenting Doesn’t Have to Be Hard

    The Counter-Cultural Secret of Planned Emancipation: Why Parenting Doesn’t Have to Be Hard
    Apr 29 2025
    What if parenting didn’t have to be as frustrating as it often feels—especially during the teenage years? Dr. Ken Wilgus, author of Feeding the Mouth That Bites You, joins John and me in this episode to reveal his game-changing approach to parenting called "Planned Emancipation." The idea: give your teens freedoms—starting at 13—to make choices about their lives, like what they watch, how clean their room is, and more. I’ll be honest, when I first heard Dr. Wilgus explain his method, I had a hard time with it. But as we dug deeper into the conversation, I warmed up to it... and I’m already starting to implement it in my own approach to parenting. But what's the catch? It’s not about losing control: it’s about empowering your kids to take responsibility for their own decisions. Dr. Wilgus explains why giving freedoms, rather than privileges, builds autonomy, strengthens responsibility, and ultimately makes the teen years smoother for both parents and kids. This conversation will challenge the way you think about raising your kids. With so much conflicting parenting advice out there, Dr. Wilgus' method teaches us how to move beyond the stress and truly prepare our kids for adulthood. If you're ready to take the frustration out of your relationship with your teen, this episode is a must-listen! Key takeaways: The key difference between parenting and raising kids. How giving freedoms, not privileges, builds real responsibility. Why holding teens accountable with freedom is the secret to reducing conflict. What's the catch? Tune in to find out how this simple shift could revolutionize your parenting style! LIFE HAPPENS. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (04:02) - Redefining Parenting Roles and Expectations (14:09) - Transitioning to Authoritative Parenting (23:47) - Preparing for Teenage Independence (33:30) - Navigating Teen Independence and Boundaries (45:44) - Parental Guidance on Adolescent Autonomy (55:20) - Financial Autonomy for Kids Resources Sign up to receive Paula’s email where she keeps it real about what it’s like being a parent in America. And, if you’re a working mom, make sure you’re getting The CARRY ALL email, the load-lessening newsletter for and by working moms. Want to watch this episode? You can watch it on your Spotify app or head on over to our YouTube Channel, and be sure to like and subscribe! If you want to learn more about Dr Ken Wilgus, check out his website. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h y 1 m
  • How to Not Lose Your Cool with Your Kids, Featuring Dr Carla Naumburg

    How to Not Lose Your Cool with Your Kids, Featuring Dr Carla Naumburg
    Apr 22 2025
    Carla Naumburg, author of How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids, joins me to talk about why we—yes, our generation—are the ones screaming at our kids… and how we can stop. She says we’re too emotionally invested in our children (ouch, but true), and gives us practical, no nonsense tips for those moments when you’re on the edge of totally losing it. This one’s for every parent who’s ever locked themselves in the bathroom for a breather. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (00:00) - Parenting in the Modern World (10:06) - Effective Parenting Strategies (20:49) - Navigating Modern Parenting Challenges (24:28) - Parenting and Button Reduction Practices (32:28) - Importance of Single Tasking While Parenting (38:03) - Parenting With Self-Compassion and Apologizing (49:06) - How to Stop Freaking Out (59:26) - Continuing the Parenting Discussion In this episode, we are diving into why parents resort to yelling, the pressure parents put on ourselves, how parenting today is different than it was in previous generations, how to stop yelling at your kids, why you are not a bad parent, identifying your triggers, how multitasking increases our stress, teaching our kids to wait, relying on our community for support, how to practice self-compassion in our parenting, and the power of apologizing to our kids. LINKS Connect with Carla on IG Carla’s books Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    1 h y 5 m
  • Want All the Kids to Hang Out at Your House? Here's How!

    Want All the Kids to Hang Out at Your House? Here's How!
    Apr 15 2025
    If you want to be the house where all the kids hang out, it’s pretty simple: FEED THEM. I’ve invited my good friend, Logan Wolfram, to the conversation because as a mom of teen boys, she is living proof that this is the case. Feed them. They will hang out. Logan and I talk about what this is and what it isn’t. It’s NOT trying to be the “cool parent” and providing drugs and alcohol to underage kids. It IS providing a safe space, full of love and laughter. We discuss the easy steps in becoming the home all the kids want to hang out at, plus some hilarity that involves a bat (the nocturnal kind), a mountain cabin, and a tree swing attempt gone bad. Also, make sure you’re subscribed to my personal newsletter if you want Logan’s easy recipes to feed your teens and all their friends! Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (00:51) Food Movement and Family Influence (09:33) Family Cabin With Challenging Tree Swing (13:06) Unexpected Bat Discovery in Mountain House (17:19) Cooking Favorites for Teenagers (20:52) Entertaining and Letting Kids Be Kids (28:10) Feeding Hungry Teenage Boys (34:27) Creating Community Through Shared Activities (44:30) Dispelling the Insect Swallowing Myth In this episode, we are digging into how to be the house where kids and teens want to hang out, making space for kids and teens to have fun, feeding teens and large groups in a simple way, supporting our teens and their friends, being intentional in your community, building community and connection over food, and the power of being flexible and available. LINKS - Connect with Logan Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms YOUTUBE LINKS Connect with Logan https://www.instagram.com/loganlwolfram/ Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter Connect with Paula on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    51 m
  • What American Food is Doing To Us And Our Kids, Plus Easy Swaps with Dr Josh Axe

    What American Food is Doing To Us And Our Kids, Plus Easy Swaps with Dr Josh Axe
    Apr 8 2025
    When it comes to what’s in our American food system, it can be difficult to know WHO to believe and WHERE to start. Honestly, the process is incredibly overwhelming and can be pricey. But here’s the reality: ➡️ 60-90% of our foods are ultra-processed ➡️ Our pre-teens are seeing dramatic increases in pre-diabetes ➡️This young generation is the first generation that isn’t expected to outlive the previous generation. ➡️Many of the food dyes in our food are banned in almost every other country While food is just ONE component of what’s happening in this conversation, I wanted to dive deeper into the subject of what’s truly in the American food system–from food dyes, to pesticides and a ton of different additives. Dr Josh Axe tells us what American food is doing to us and our kids, plus some easy steps we can take in our journey towards awareness and eating better. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (01:05) Healthy Eating Made Easy (05:49) Impact of Junk Food on Performance (12:57) Impact of Food Dyes on Health (18:33) Pharmaceutical Marketing Prioritizes Money (25:14) Family Health and Positive Swaps (32:25) The Effects of Contaminated Water (40:35) Cost-Effective, Tasty, Fresh Food Storage In this episode, we are diving into the movement to clean up the American food system, dangers related to herbicides and pesticides, the most concerning additives in our food, where to start with making better food choices, advice for saving money on healthy food, the importance of water filtration, and a simple way to improve the food and products you are buying. LINKS Dr Axe’s Guide to Eating Clean Connect with Dr AXE Dr Axe’s Podcast Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    48 m
  • The FIght To Clean Up Our Food with Vani Hari, aka The Food Babe

    The FIght To Clean Up Our Food with Vani Hari, aka The Food Babe
    Apr 1 2025
    There is a strong bipartisan movement in our country to clean up our food, from food dyes to pesticides and ultra-processing. The FDA even recently banned Red Dye #3 due to potential links to cancer. Vani Hari, aka “the Food Babe”, has been on the front lines of this FOOD FIGHT for over a decade, petitioning large corporations, speaking on the senate floor, writing NYT best-selling books about the subject and being named one of Time Magazine’s “Most Influential People on the Internet”. She cites evidence that our children are being decimated with chronic disease, including a pre-diabetic epidemic, in large part due to the junk in our food (using ingredients that are banned in most other countries). We talk about this movement, why she’s encouraged that our food supply will change, plus how we can all use our voice for positive change. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (00:00) - Cleaning Up Our Food System (03:46) - Food Ingredient Discrepancies and Health Risks (10:20) - Fighting Against Artificial Food Dyes (19:31) - Revolutionizing the Food System (30:35) - Budget-Friendly Family Breakfast Ideas (33:18) - Empowering Parents to Advocate for Change (38:20) - Navigating Food Transparency and Swaps In this episode, we are delving into the differences in American food products and the same products in other countries, comparing how foods are regulated in the US and abroad, the effects of food dyes in children’s health and behavior, how our food supply chain has changed over time, bipartisan support for cleaning up our food, and how we can hold private companies and government agencies accountable for what is in our food. Vani's Website Vani on Instagram Vani’s Blog:75 ways to save on organic Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    44 m
  • The Mental Load with Paige Connell of @SheIsAPaigeTurner

    The Mental Load with Paige Connell of @SheIsAPaigeTurner
    Mar 25 2025
    My guess is that you’re burned out. Between working and parenting and managing the home, you’re fried. But, we can’t find words to articulate why. And, when it comes to having necessary conversations with our partners about sharing the load, we will often avoid it altogether because we don’t want to come across as a “nag”. Next thing we know, our relationship is suffering. In many ways, Paige Connell (@SheIsAPaigeTurner on Instagram) is saving relationships. She’s a mom of four who talks a lot about Mental Load and how it can make or break a relationship. We’re going to discuss how (and why) to have these conversations with our partner, the danger in letting the little things build up, plus how equity in relationships leads to happy and healthy families. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (06:17) The Mental Load and Domestic Labor (09:37) Unseen Mental Load in Relationships (12:38) Men's Participation and Birth Rate (27:31) Challenges of Gendered Expectations (31:32) Redefining Gender Roles and Expectations (35:43) Challenging Gender Expectations for Men (44:16) Financial Considerations in Dual-Income Families (50:02) Empowering Boys to End Cycle In this episode, we are diving into defining the mental load, the danger of avoiding hard conversations with your partner, different societal standards and expectations for moms and dads, the value assigned to paid vs. unpaid work, how to have conversations with your partner about the mental load in a way that is respectful and productive, considering the long term impacts of being a stay at home parent, and why childcare is not only a women’s issue. Follow Paige on IG Paige’s Audio Course on The Mental Load Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    57 m
  • Midlife, Menopause, Empty Nesting and Gen X with Instagram’s @PeachesAndDiesel104

    Midlife, Menopause, Empty Nesting and Gen X with Instagram’s @PeachesAndDiesel104
    Mar 18 2025
    We’re in need of some levity and laughs, so I’ve invited the very funny Peaches (from @PeachesAndDiesel104) to the show. You might be one of her 500k followers that are drawn to her ridiculous and relatable content, like I was. Only to learn that Peaches is an empty-nesting mom of two, navigating midlife and menopause. While we have the most amount of fun in this conversation, you might just find that Peaches has inspired you to try something new, fun and crazy. She’s already got my wheels churning! Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: (12:42) Navigating Empty Nesting With Humor (24:38) Navigating Menopause and Fitness After 50 (36:53) Wedding Dress Parties and Friendships (40:26) Real Moms, Real Life (51:20) Revisiting Wedding Dresses and Conversation SUMMARY: In this episode, we are digging into finding humor and joy in midlife, what it’s like to be an empty nester, saying yes to things that bring you joy, being willing to try something new, navigating menopause, and the importance of friendship in midlife. My Favorite Weighted Vest Follow Peaches on IG Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Follow Paula on IG THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    57 m
  • The Fight for Paid Family Leave with Erin Erenberg, the Chamber of Mothers Co-founder

    The Fight for Paid Family Leave with Erin Erenberg, the Chamber of Mothers Co-founder
    Mar 11 2025
    There’s a lot we don’t agree on in this country. But one issue that gets overwhelming support among voters is the need to support moms and families in this country, from paid family leave, to affordable childcare and improved maternal health. Those issues shouldn't be a luxury. They should be a necessity, if we want to support families and grow our economy. I’m talking to Erin Erenberg, the co-founder of Chamber of Mothers, a non-partisan organization that is doing the work on those very issues in Washington, D.C. Erin shares why she’s optimistic about these issues, plus how we can get involved in changing the game for moms and families. Also, hear why we shouldn’t have to choose between kids and career in this country. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : (01:39) Support for Moms (08:40) Empowering Moms for Change (15:48) Moms in Leadership Driving Change (18:38) Optimism for Maternal Support Initiatives (24:45) Policy Shifts Cultures on Working Moms (35:36) Men and Women Facing Gender Equality (39:52) Advocating for Working Moms In this episode, we are digging into the importance of paid family leave, the number one barrier to women in the workforce, the importance of access to affordable and quality childcare, the economic impact of policies that support families, different perspectives of motherhood and work, and why moms make great employees. Links: Learn about Chamber of Mothers Get Paula’s Personal Newsletter Connect with Paula THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    49 m
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