Episodios

  • 334. Boundaries and Empathy: How to Care Without Losing Yourself

    334. Boundaries and Empathy: How to Care Without Losing Yourself
    Feb 25 2026
    Do you find yourself overexplaining a lot? Do you delay hard conversations because you’re worried about how the other person will take it? Do you find yourself caught in the quagmire of resentment? Do you struggle to have boundaries because you’re concerned that the other person’s feelings will be hurt? Are you struggling with the impulse to rescue people? Do things you don’t actually have time for because you don’t want to be seen in a negative light? Does other people’s pain run your life? Are you a people pleaser? If any of these are true for you, this episode is for you. The modern religion of empathy has hijacked our agency on how we live our lives. Its adherents preach that you are responsible for my emotions and feelings. They take hostage a person’s ability to choose boundaries. Let’s look at how boundaries and empathy can coexist. What does it mean to live in a healthy way with both? Episode 334 of The Joe Martino Show is live.
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    37 m
  • 337. Growth Often Feels Like Loss First

    337. Growth Often Feels Like Loss First
    Feb 18 2026
    Have you ever wondered what emails I might get as a podcast host? Today, I read two of my favorites. Then the episode dives into the truth that our growth will often be painful. Often when people encounter that pain, they stop engaging the growth process. In this episode we dive into how the change process can hurt and that often means we’re doing good things. Growth subtracts while it adds. We explore the grief that comes with change and how to foster the courage to grow.
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    32 m
  • 336. The Lie We Tell Ourselves About Being “Calm”

    336. The Lie We Tell Ourselves About Being “Calm”
    Feb 11 2026
    Calm gets praised. It gets rewarded. It gets mistaken for health. But emotional quiet is not always emotional maturity. In this episode, we unpack the difference between true regulation and strategic shutdown, and why some forms of calm are rooted in fear, control, or avoidance. You’ll learn how to tell whether your peace is grounded and flexible or dependent on silence and compliance. Because real emotional health is not the absence of tension. It is the ability to stay present when tension shows up. Episode 336 of the Joe Martino Show is live.
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    23 m
  • 331. Emotional Maturity: The Skill No One Taught You

    331. Emotional Maturity: The Skill No One Taught You
    Feb 4 2026
    331. Emotional Maturity: The Skill No One Taught You by Joe Martino
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    31 m
  • 330. How Do We Know if We Had a Good Conversation?

    330. How Do We Know if We Had a Good Conversation?
    Jan 28 2026
    There is a common assumption in the world today: how someone feels after a conversation is the best way to judge how well the conversation went. If they aren’t offended, what we said was good, loving or right. But feelings were never meant to be the scoreboard. They’re data, not conclusions. In this episode, I unpack why using emotional reaction as the final verdict quietly undermines honesty, clarity, and growth, and I offer better metrics for navigating hard conversations without confusing discomfort with harm or emotional safety with emotional comfort. Episode 330 of The Joe Martino Show is live.
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    32 m
  • 329. Why Some People Feel Attacked by Accountability

    329. Why Some People Feel Attacked by Accountability
    Jan 21 2026
    Accountability often feels like an attack, not because it is one, but because of what it touches in us. In this episode, I unpack why responsibility can feel threatening, how shame and emotional fusion distort feedback, and why defensiveness is often about fear rather than arrogance. We’ll talk about the difference between emotional safety and emotional comfort, what healthy accountability actually sounds like, and how to respond when someone shuts down instead of owning their part. This episode is for anyone who wants honest relationships without turning every hard conversation into a fight.
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    33 m
  • 328. Big Emotions Happen. They Don't Excuse Bad Behavior

    328. Big Emotions Happen. They Don't Excuse Bad Behavior
    Jan 14 2026
    It’s become a rallying cry. Parents are told they must validate a child’s emotions during a full-blown tantrum. Adults expect other adults to accept and validate emotional outbursts without question. The message is everywhere. In many ways, this is a good thing. For a long time, emotions were dismissed, minimized, or shamed. But somewhere along the way, validating emotions started to mean something it was never meant to mean. Does validation require standing by while a toddler destroys property? Does it mean accountability disappears? Does it mean every emotional reaction is justified simply because it exists? Or is there a way to validate emotions while still holding clear standards for behavior? I believe there is. In this episode, I unpack what emotional validation means, what it doesn’t, and how we can navigate big emotions, our own and other people’s, without losing responsibility, boundaries, or wisdom. If you’ve ever felt confused, pressured, or unsure about how to handle intense emotions, this episode is for you.
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    30 m
  • 327. Wishing You a Happy Holiday Season.

    327. Wishing You a Happy Holiday Season.
    Dec 24 2025
    Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays. This season may not be what you had hoped. I grieve for and with you. If your holiday is exactly what you hoped for, I celebrate with you.
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    3 m