If you keep losing yourself the moment you like someone… this video will change your dating life.

Today we’re talking about how to decenter men while dating and in a relationship — so you can stop worrying about whether he likes you and start focusing on whether he’s aligned with you.

In this video, we cover:

✨ What it really means to “center a man”

✨ Why women lose themselves when they catch feelings

✨ How conditioning, trauma, and scarcity mindsets impact dating

✨ How to stay grounded, confident, and self-led

✨ How to maintain your routines, boundaries, and identity

✨ How to date without anxiety, overthinking, or performing

✨ How to keep decentering men inside a relationship

✨ The mindset shifts that help you stop chasing male validation

✨ What healthy attraction feels like vs. anxious attachment

✨ How to evaluate men instead of auditioning for them

This isn’t about being cold or detached — it’s about being whole.

Decentering men is not anti-men. It’s pro-you.

If you want to build a meaningful life and healthy relationships, this video is your guide.

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You’ve probably heard the phrase “decenter men” — but what does that really mean?

In this video, I break down what decentering men actually looks like in real life — and why it’s not about hating men or avoiding relationships. It’s about re-centering yourself.

We’ll talk about:

✨ The real definition of “decentering men” and who coined the phrase (Charlie Taylor)

✨ Why it’s a lifestyle, not a temporary phase

✨ The challenges women face when learning to live this way — and how to work through them

✨ The common misconceptions (like “you can’t want love and decenter men”)

✨ Why women were conditioned to center men in the first place

✨ And how to date while decentering men

This isn’t about becoming “anti-men.”

It’s about becoming pro-you.

You can want love and still decenter men.

You can be soft and still have boundaries.

You can date and still live from your center.

Because once you make peace your priority — everything changes.

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So let’s talk about the real reason you can’t let go.

It’s not because he’s your soulmate.

It’s not because the connection was “too strong to walk away from.”

You’re scared of detaching because detachment forces you to sit with the feeling of not being chosen.

And that feeling is uncomfortable.

It’s vulnerable.

It’s raw.

But that feeling isn’t proof that you’re unlovable.

It’s just proof that you care and that your heart still remembers how to hope.

On this episode, we’re going to walk through why detachment feels so painful, how to sit in the discomfort instead of running from it, and how to choose yourself again — even when your heart is still attached.

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