There comes a point in a woman’s dating life where nothing about a man matters if he doesn’t treat her right.

Not his looks.

Not his money.

Not his charm.

Not his potential.

In this episode, we talk about why so many women are conditioned to be impressed by the wrong things—and what shifts when you finally heal enough to make treatment the standard.

This conversation is for women who are tired of confusing inconsistency with chemistry, intensity with intimacy, and attention with love. We break down how trauma and attachment shape attraction, why emotionally unavailable men stop feeling exciting, and how peace becomes the new flex.

If you’ve ever wondered why you used to tolerate less—or why dating feels different now—you’re not alone. Healing doesn’t make you harder to impress. It makes you clearer.

🎙 In this episode, we cover:

• Why women are taught to be impressed by potential instead of behavior

• How trauma rewires attraction and keeps women chasing unavailable men

• What changes when self-worth becomes non-negotiable

• Why some men feel threatened when you raise your standards

• How to shift from chasing emotional highs to choosing emotional safety

✨ When you get to the point where being treated right is the only thing that impresses you—you stop settling, explaining, and shrinking.

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If you keep attracting emotionally unavailable men, you’ve probably been told that it must mean you are emotionally unavailable too.

But what if that explanation doesn’t tell the full story?

In this video, I break down the psychology behind why emotionally available women can still find themselves drawn to emotionally unavailable partners—and why this pattern often has less to do with a lack of vulnerability and more to do with learned beliefs about love, safety, and worthiness.

I share my personal experience of chasing emotionally unavailable men, then struggling in a healthy relationship—not because I didn’t want love, but because I had never been taught how to ask for what I needed or trust emotional safety.

We talk about:

• Why emotionally unavailable men pull more emotion out of you

• The belief that love has to be earned (and where it comes from)

• Why healthy love can feel scarier than emotional unavailability

• How childhood and relationship trauma shape attachment patterns

• Why “knowing better” doesn’t always mean you know how to do better

• How to begin breaking this cycle and learning to receive love safely

If you’ve ever felt like you could beg the wrong person to love you but struggled to speak up in a healthy relationship, this video is for you.

You are not broken.

You are not incapable of love.

You may just be unlearning what love was never supposed to cost you.

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“Lovergirl, I know you want love real bad… but please don’t settle for half-love.”

This video is for the women who love deeply, who feel everything, and who keep trying to make it work with men who can’t meet them. If you’re a lovergirl who gives your whole heart, this message is going to hit home.

I talk about why longing can trick you into staying, how self-abandonment sneaks in disguised as “patience,” why emotionally unavailable men can’t love you in the ways you need, and how to finally stop settling for half-effort, half-connection, and half-love.

You deserve someone who meets you fully.

With clarity.

With consistency.

With devotion.

Your heart is too intentional for bare-minimum love — and in this video, I walk you through the mindset shift that finally sets you free.

If you’re healing, growing, or learning your worth again… this one is for you.

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