Responsibility is one of the things that makes lawyers good at their jobs. It also shows up, over and over, as one of the things that makes it hardest for them to leave. Not because they don't want to go, but because leaving means someone else has to pick up the work. And for a lawyer who is wired around responsibility, that can feel like something they're just not willing to do.

What Sarah sees with her clients is that the sense of responsibility doesn't stay proportional. It ends up putting so much weight on what other people might have to deal with that a lawyer's own mental, physical, and emotional well-being barely registers in the calculation. Toxic environments are especially good at making this worse.

In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about why responsibility shows up so consistently in her clients' assessment results, what happens when it becomes overdeveloped, and why it makes it hard for lawyers to even let themselves think about leaving.

1:28 - How responsibility shows up in CliftonStrengths, VIA, and the Enneagram

3:01 - What Sarah sees with lawyers whose jobs aren't good for them

4:26 - Why highly responsible lawyers struggle to give themselves permission to even think about leaving

5:07 - What an overdeveloped sense of responsibility actually means

6:03 - How toxic environments exploit lawyers who are highly responsible

7:28 - The faulty logic that keeps highly responsible lawyers from cutting themselves any slack

9:18 - Why it matters to know if responsibility is one of your top characteristics

Mentioned In How an Overdeveloped Sense of Responsibility Keeps Lawyers Stuck

First Steps to Leaving the Law

The Former Lawyer Collaborative

For a lot of lawyers, hearing "just do your best" as a kid didn't feel reassuring. It felt like a requirement to give every ounce of everything they had until there was literally nothing left.

That's not incidental. The kind of person who interprets "do your best" that way is often exactly the kind of person who ends up becoming a lawyer. And that standard follows them.

In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah Cottrell talks about what that standard is actually costing lawyers who want to make a change, and why doing B-minus work might be worth considering.

1:00 - What "do your best" actually means if you're wired like a lawyer

1:56 - Why caring about doing good work makes this harder

3:56 - The B-minus work concept and why it matters

4:37 - Why this is harder for lawyers from marginalized communities

5:04 - How loosening that standard makes space for other things

5:24 - Why therapy is worth considering if this resonates

Mentioned in What Doing Your Best Is Costing You as a Lawyer

First Steps to Leaving the Law

The Former Lawyer Collaborative

Lawyers thinking about leaving often get stuck on a question that feels practical but actually keeps them waiting longer than they need to. Do I need to quit my job before I start figuring out what I want to do instead? It sounds responsible, but for most people, it's part of what keeps them in a holding pattern.

Sarah Cottrell frequently gets this question from lawyers considering The Former Lawyer Collaborative, and her answer might change how you think about the timing of your next move. She explains why the assumption that you need to be "ready" before you start often works against you, and what she's seen actually happen when people stop waiting.

In this episode of The Former Lawyer Podcast, Sarah talks about why she built The Collab to fit inside the life of a working lawyer, what the time commitment really looks like, and why the lawyers who start before they feel ready often surprise themselves.

0:28 - The practical question lawyers keep asking before joining The Collab

0:53 - What The Former Lawyer Collaborative actually is and how it works

1:38 - Do you need to quit your job before starting this process

2:25 - How people find The Collab and when they typically join

2:57 - Why less pressure to leave can actually mean faster progress

3:29 - The time commitment question and what "a couple hours a week" really gets you

5:15 - Other reasons you might quit, and why most people in The Collab don't

6:23 - Why The Collab was designed to fit inside a lawyer's life

7:06 - How to join and where to find more info

Mentioned In You Don't Have to Quit Your Job to Start Leaving Law

Five Years of Helping Lawyers Leave the Law inside The Former Lawyer Collaborative

First Steps to Leaving the Law

The Former Lawyer Collaborative