Dr. Kim Kimberling has spent over 40 years as a counselor and marriage therapist helping people navigate the things the church often tiptoes around — including the devastating and lasting effects of sexual abuse.

With nearly 4 million people reached through Awesome Marriage, Dr. Kim brings both clinical wisdom and deep faith to one of the most complex topics in human experience. He joins Matt to talk about what sexual abuse actually is, how it hides in plain sight, and what real healing looks like for survivors and their spouses.

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HIGHLIGHTS

✅ Why sexual abuse doesn't have to be violent to be real — and why the church's silence around non-violent abuse leaves so many victims without language for what happened to them.

✅ How unaddressed abuse goes dormant for years, then surfaces in marriage — sometimes as early as the honeymoon — through avoidance, shutdown, and broken trust.

✅ The lie that it's your fault, and the simple but powerful reframe Dr. Kim uses with survivors to help them see themselves the way God does.

✅ How male victims of female abusers experience unique confusion — and why cultural messaging makes it even harder for men to come forward and get help.

✅ Why the "why did God allow this?" question is valid — but why getting stuck there blocks the healing that God actually has for you.

✅ What spouses of survivors need to hear: believe them, don't minimize it, don't try to fix it, and let them lead.

✅ Forgiveness as freedom — why it's a process, not a transaction, and why it has nothing to do with making what happened okay.

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QUOTES

❝Most sexual abuse is perpetrated on someone by somebody that the victim knows and probably trusted to some extent.

❝God didn't design abuse. But sometimes people use the freedom God gives us to do horrible things.

❝When you look at what Jesus did — how he was betrayed and stripped and violated — he's not a distant God that doesn't understand.

❝When we bring things into the light, the shame that goes along with that loses its power.

❝When you forgive, you set a prisoner free — and then you realize it was you.

❝Letting go doesn't mean what that person did was okay at all. It gives you the freedom you deserve.

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RESOURCES

➡️ Awesome Marriage — courses, social media, podcast, and more: awesomemarriage.com

➡️ The Awesome Marriage Podcast

➡️ Marriage Undefiled Course (featuring Restored Ministries) at restoredministries.ca/marriageundefiled

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TAKE ACTION

If you're struggling with sexual sin, pornography, or betrayal and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

If you're a man who's tired of secrets, this episode for you.

Kirk Oliver is living proof that God has freedom and purpose planned for even those stuck in sexual immorality.

Kirk is the author of Tip of the Spear, a 30-day men's devotional for discipleship and he shares about his double-life, the miracles that God pulled off to restore his marriage, and the workaholism that he and so many men give into.

YOU'LL LEARN

✅ Why discovering pornography as a boy rewired Kirk's brain — and how the need for affirmation drove decades of hidden sin.

✅ What happened when Kirk's wife came downstairs at midnight and asked the question he'd been dreading.

✅ Why his first Christian counselor didn't work — and how he finally broke free.

✅ How a random Sunday at a new church changed Kirk's life forever.

✅ What Biblical accountability really is

QUOTES

"Convenience and sacrifice are opposites."

"Sacrifice is an act of worship."

"If you're full spiritually and emotionally, you're not easily tempted."

"I used to think, what's the least I could do to be free? That's just not God's economy."

GET THE BOOK

Search "Tip of the Spear by Kirk Oliver" on Amazon to get your 30-day discipleship plan for men.

TAKE ACTION

If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, join The Armory — a transformational men's discipleship community rooted in Biblical teaching. restoredministries.ca/armory

Bonnie Pue of The Union Movement has written the book parents didn't know they were waiting for — a practical, biblical, and deeply honest guide to talking with your kids about sexuality before the world does it for you. Bonnie and her husband Bryan, parents of six boys, bring theology, storytelling, and a lot of lived experience to one of the most avoided conversations in Christian homes today.

HIGHLIGHTS

✅ Why talking to your kids about sexuality isn't one big conversation — it's a series of small, age-appropriate moments you capitalize on as they come.

✅ How the enemy specifically targets sexuality because it bears the image of God — and why parents need to move from defense to offense.

✅ The real reason parents stay silent: not because they lack love, but because nobody had the conversation with them either.

✅ Practical tools for starting the talk — including a dinner table game that had six boys squirming and laughing at the same time.

✅ Why fear makes parents either helicopter or disengage — and how to find the confident middle ground.

QUOTES

❝If it's always tomorrow, it's never going to happen.❞

❝I don't just want this to be an information transfer — I want people to connect with God himself and invite the Holy Spirit into this journey.❞

❝The voice of the parent needs to be the strongest voice on this topic, through attachment and relational development with their son or daughter.❞

RESOURCES

➡️ Awkward by Bonnie Pue — available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Audible, Kobo, and Google Play. Search "Awkward Bonnie Pue"

➡️ The Union Movement — resources, events, and more: unionmovement.com

TAKE ACTION

If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Bryan and Bonnie Pue of The Union Movement have spent years equipping the church to talk honestly about sexuality. Not as a side topic, but as a core pillar of discipleship. Bryan and Bonnie bring an incredible depth to their understanding of Biblical sexuality and a conviction that we can find the gospel in the midst of our sexuality.

HIGHLIGHTS

✅ Why sexuality cannot be separated from discipleship — and why 25 out of 27 New Testament books address it directly.

✅ The Old Testament sexual framework God established from the very beginning

✅ What the laws in Leviticus and Numbers show about a God who is radically different from every false god demanding sexual worship.

✅ How the slow erosion of sexual identity is a strategic scheme to destroy the image of God in humanity.

✅ The freedom available in 1 Corinthians 6: "Such were some of you" — washed, sanctified, justified. You are not bound to your past or your struggle.

QUOTES

❝If you're not purposely and strategically leading with sexuality, there's a huge deficit within your church culture.❞

❝God is so pro-sex, but He also understands the danger when it's taken outside the context he designed it for.❞

❝Christ's cleanness, his purity was so strong, it actually healed her. That's what happens when you come close to Christ.❞

❝Within this message is a revival message because if we don't get to the root of some of this stuff, revival cannot be sustained.❞

RESOURCES

➡️ The Union Movement — video courses, blogs, podcast, and church leadership resources: theunionmovement.com

➡️ Follow them on Instagram: @theunionmovement

TAKE ACTION

If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Ian Shire of Authentic Intimacy has spent years helping people ask the question the church often avoids — what does God actually have to do with sex? Not just as a rule-giver, but as the one who designed sexuality to point somewhere.

Ian brought his own story of pornography addiction that followed him from childhood into marriage and ministry, and he shows us why the healing journey only works when the Healer is actually in it.

HIGHLIGHTS

✅ Why sexuality isn't about intercourse — it's about the God-designed longing for deep knowing, union, and intimacy that points straight back to the Creator.

✅ How Ian's pornography addiction followed him from age 10 all the way into marriage and ministry — and why better accountability never broke it.

✅ The shift that changed everything: realizing this was an intimacy journey, not a behavior management problem.

✅ What singles do with sexual desire — and why the church's marriage-obsession leaves them feeling invisible when the Biblical framework actually includes them fully.

QUOTES

❝This is so much more of an intimacy journey than it is a getting-my-life-right journey.❞

❝We were all operating under the narrative that we just need better accountability. It's like a Chinese finger trap — the more you pull, the tighter it gets.❞

❝Allow these physical longings to remind you of the spiritual longings God's placed in you.❞

❝When we come into the light with Jesus, it is amazing to watch his response.❞

RESOURCES

➡️ Authentic Intimacy — courses, cohorts, hot topic kits, blogs, and more: authenticintimacy.com

➡️ Rethinking Sexuality Book

➡️ God, Sex, and Your Marriage Book

➡️ Surrendered Sexuality on Right Now Media

➡️ Seven Myths About Singleness by Sam Allberry

TAKE ACTION

If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, you can experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of men around the world. Join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory.

Brad and Lisa of Unrelenting Pursuit share one of the most raw and redemptive marriage stories you'll hear — a 10-year marriage that looked good on the outside, a double life of pornography and physical infidelity, nine months of separation, a divorce already in process... and then a road-to-Damascus moment on the side of the highway that changed everything.

Together they show us what it looks like to build not the old marriage back, but something entirely new — and why the scars aren't a record of what was done wrong, but a monument to what God did.

Highlights

• How Brad's compromise started small — pornography, twisted scripture, justification — before becoming full physical infidelity.
• Lisa filing for divorce while still praying — God wrenching each finger off the situation one at a time.
• Brad's road-to-Damascus moment: pulled over on the side of the road, no audible voice, the loudest thing he'd ever experienced.
• Why the betrayed partner's instinct to control is really a desperate reach for safety — and why nothing actually earns the position back.
• The pressure valve moment: when Lisa saw Brad going after God, submission became something she wanted to do.
• Brad holding shame for years — and the prayer time where God reframed his kids' scars as monuments to what He did, not reminders of what Brad did.
• Servant leadership as the model for stepping back into a broken marriage — not the dictator, but the man who simply says, "I'm going to serve my family."
• Why couples in the thick of betrayal believe "this is forever" — and how Brad and Lisa have watched that lie get broken over and over again.
• What it means to celebrate the miracle you're in, even when it's still messy and painful.

Quotes from Brad and Lisa

• "It wasn't a quick thing. It was the small compromises I made that made the ultimate physical side of it not much of a step at all."
• "God always reveals the truth. If she hadn't found out, I would have kept living that weird life — and I believe that was God intervening."
• "There is no price that makes it okay. There's not a price that just hands you the position back. It's surrender — because who you serve is Christ."
• God said: "You're looking at it wrong. Those scars aren't reminders of what you did. They're reminders of what I did."
• "The best leaders I've ever been around were servant leaders. And that's what Jesus wants you to do."
• "Our marriage represents what God's ministry of reconciliation looks like here on earth."

Resources

• Unrelenting Pursuit — Marriage intensives, weekend reboots, speaking, and podcast: unrelentingpursuit.org
• 188+ free podcast episodes covering marriage, faith, and resilience
• Speaking events and church engagements
• Contact: info@unrelentingpursuit.org

Take Action If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory. Experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted the lives of countless men around the world.

Restored Ministries helps men and women find freedom from sexual sin and walk in sexual integrity through Biblical teaching, community, and coaching.

Free webinar here: A Heart Made Whole

Kristy Rodriguez, Executive Director of Hope After Betrayal, was a pastor’s wife when his affair got publicly exposed.

Hear Kristy share her journey from discovering her husband's sexual betrayal to experiencing profound healing in Christ.

Kristy opens up about the "nuclear fallout zone" of betrayal — the shattered trust, rewired memories, public shame, teenage daughters caught in the fallout, and a crisis of faith that shook her to the core. She shares how Jesus met her in that darkness, not with judgment, but with the same tenderness he showed Doubting (Traumatized) Thomas.

Kristy went from a group participant to volunteer facilitator to Executive Director at Hope After Betrayal. Her story shows that pain doesn't get the final say and that God can turn ashes into beauty.

Key Moments

• Describing the devastation of betrayal: "like a nuclear fallout zone."
• The shrapnel of betrayal — shattered trust, rewritten memories, public fallout, and daughters caught in the crisis.
• Identifying with the suffering of Jesus through the suffering of betrayal.
• Moving from pain's point of view to God's point of view.
• How triggers become invitations — naming trauma to reclaim authority over it.
• "Why did God allow this?" — the question God redirected through the lens of Calvary.
• The two sides of forgiveness — personal and relational — and why bad theology hurts betrayed partners.
• Forgiving not just the deed, but the impact — grieving the pre-trauma version of herself.

Quotes

• "Pain carries a point of view. It carries with it a message — and the enemy wants the pen of pain to control your story."
• "Calvary is our guarantee that our suffering has an expiration date."
• "Trauma doesn't get to have the final say. It doesn't get to be the end of our stories."
• "Triggers aren't a weakness. They're an invitation — how do I step into intimacy with God right now?"
• "Forgiveness isn't something I had to muster up in my own strength. I just had to partner with what God had already done."
• "I'm not the pre-trauma version of myself — but I'm not the post-traumatic version either. A new phoenix has risen from the ashes."

Resources

• Hope After Betrayal for wives and partners impacted by sexual betrayal. Visit: hopeafterbetrayal.com for
  • Healing Help Groups (12-week online support groups)
  • Alumni book studies for continued healing
  • Mentor program — trained peer supporters
  • Hope in a Box curriculum — turnkey group curriculum for churches and communities (updated edition coming end of March/early April)
  • Workshops for pastors and ministry leaders
  • 90-minute forgiveness webinar

Take Action

If you're struggling with sexual sin and want help, join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory. Experience transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted lives of countless men around the world.

Restored Ministries helps men and women find freedom from sexual sin and walk in sexual integrity through Biblical teaching, community, and coaching.

Gino Pena shares his powerful journey from living a double life struggling with same-sex attraction to finding freedom, healing, and purpose. As a coach with Restored Ministries, Gino opens up about the transformation that happened when he stopped hiding and brought his struggles into the light.

He talks about living a double life that nobody knew about, what it was like to marry a woman after a past with same-sex activity, and the key moments in his life that led to His transformation and freedom.

Gino’s story shows how God can turn our deepest pain into profound purpose.

Key Moments

[01:28] How Gino discovered Restored through podcasts and initially sought help for marriage issues.

[10:36] The turning point: Gino hearing God say, "You're going to leave me next."

[14:47] Learning about God as Father - a transformative revelation.

[21:37] "Today you have become my son" - receiving the vision for four nations (men, youth, those struggling with homosexuality, and families).

[27:22] Bringing his past into marriage and the importance of due diligence.

[32:21] Psalm 51:10-13 as a life verse: "Then I will teach transgressors your ways."

[41:14] The moment in college when Gino first told his best friend about his struggle.

[43:19] The profound statement: "I'm thankful that I struggled with homosexuality" - because it led him to know God as Father.

Quotes

"To be vague is safe, but to be real is vulnerable - and when you're vulnerable, you lead."

"Everybody knows you, but who gets to know you?"

"I can't love myself and I can't love others unless I know He loves me first."

"My story isn't my story of shame, it's His story of grace on my life."

Resources

The Armory - Restored Ministries' comprehensive program for sexual integrity

Video curriculum

Group training calls with coaches like Gino

Biblical foundations for transformation

Community and accountability

Visit: restoredministries.ca/armory

Book mentions: Raising a Modern Day Knight & The Friendship Factor

Take Action

If you're struggling and want help, join The Armory at restoredministries.ca/armory. Experience the same transformational community and Biblical teaching that has impacted Gino's life and the lives of countless men around the world. Financial assistance is available if needed.

Restored Ministries helps men and women find freedom from sexual sin and walk in sexual integrity through Biblical teaching, community, and coaching.