As women, we receive so much messaging about how big our lives are allowed to be. Whether it’s patriarchy, childhood conditioning, or the communities we’re part of, many women learn that being convenient, optimistic, and helpful makes them lovable. Even though it isn’t true, that influence often keeps us from living our lives in a bigger way. In this episode, we explore the signs that your life is too small for you and how you can start to live a life that’s as honest and expressive as you want. Here's what I cover:

• How to recognize when your life has become too small by how your body feels
• The most common signs that you're ready to take your life to the next level
• Why your dreams feeling impossible or selfish is a signal that you’re ready for change
• How resentment and irritation can show up under the surface when you feel stuck in a small life
• How emotional suppression can lead to real issues that affect women’s health
• An example of how my life changed when I learned how to say what needed to be said

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Last week, I shared an interactive episode about people-pleasing and lying—today, we’re continuing the conversation. In this episode, I offer an approach that is based not on the morality of telling the truth, but on your values and human need for safety. We’ll take a deeper look at why we lie, the hidden costs it can have in our relationships, and how you can be more truthful in safe, selective places to foster connection to yourself and others. Here’s what I cover:

• How good-girl programming wires us to lie in order to please and avoid conflict
• The huge role that the nervous system plays in why we lie
• When lying can still be a necessary and useful tool
• How we separate children from the truth of their bodies and punish them for honesty
• Why protecting yourself is not the same as deceiving someone else
• How to build more honesty in your life one relationship at a time

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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Lying is such an interesting topic—and after working with many women who feel stuck in patterns of people-pleasing, I’ve learned that lying and truth-telling are far more complex than they may seem. I’m not talking about lies meant to cause harm, but the everyday ones we tell to keep ourselves safe and comfortable: saying we’re fine when we’re not, or yes when we mean no. In this interactive episode, I’m introducing the framework I’ll be using to explore this topic and offering reflections to help you understand your patterns around people-pleasing and lying. Here’s what I cover:

• Why lying is not a character flaw of people-pleasers, but a survival strategy
• How childhood experiences influence our beliefs and behaviors around truth
• How lying creates a disconnect in our relationships—with ourselves and others
• Why telling the truth requires internal safety and nervous system regulation
• Reflection questions to help you notice why you may choose to lie in certain situations

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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Today, I’m back with part two of my conversation with Enneagram coach Wendy Montgomery. In part one, we explored the nine Enneagram types and how people-pleasing can show up for each one. Now, we’re diving into what healing these habits looks like for each type and how the Enneagram can act as a guide for transformation. Here’s what we cover:

• Why self-awareness is key to reducing people-pleasing tendencies
• A type-by-type analysis of how the shift away from people pleasing can happen
• Why healing is a journey, not an arrival–even with the help of the Enneagram
• How to offer yourself grace and compassion when overcoming people-pleasing
• A healing message for each Enneagram type

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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I have been so excited to have my dear friend and Enneagram coach, Wendy Montgomery, on the podcast. The Enneagram is an expansive and incredible tool that has helped me understand myself and those around me in a whole new way. In this two-part conversation, you’ll learn about all nine types and the insight they offer into why and how we people-please. Here’s what we cover:

• The characteristics, core motivator, and core fear of each Enneagram type
• Why understanding your Enneagram type can help lessen people-pleasing tendencies
• How the Enneagram triads offer further insight into your type
• The unique ways people-pleasing shows up for every type
• A question for each type to ask themselves to gain more self-awareness
• How gender stereotypes can impact Enneagram analysis

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What happens inside the free Stop People Pleasing Facebook Community? Our goal is to provide help and guidance on your journey to eliminate people pleasing and perfectionism from your life. We heal best in a safe community where we can grow and learn together and celebrate and encourage each other. This group is for posting questions about or experiences with material learned in The Ex-Good Girl podcast, Sara Fisk Coaching social media posts or the free webinars and trainings provided by Sara Fisk Coaching. See you inside!

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