When ambition eats every evening and weekend, what’s left for marriage and kids? In this raw convo, we unpack our 2015 season, late nights, Canary Wharf office life, resentment vs reality, and how we rebuilt with therapy, carved-out time, practical agreements, and intentional fatherhood.

We get honest about why what looked like selfishness was actually loneliness, and share the systems that keep us balanced today: calendar carve-outs, deadlines, seasons, and bringing your partner into the dream.

If you’ve ever felt alone while your partner “hustles for the family,” or you’re the grinder who thinks they’re doing it for love, this one’s for you. Share your experience in the comments. Are you the grinder or the one left behind?

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In this raw, funny and heartfelt episode of The 3L’s Podcast (Life, Love & Legacy), Eman & Mimi get real about attraction in long-term marriage, from being friends first to that unexpected “switch” moment in church, to the messy middle of post-baby body changes, confidence dips, and intimacy on pause.

We unpack how personality can amplify physical attraction, why reassurance isn’t a one-off speech but a daily habit, and the small, practical things couples can do to keep choosing each other, 14 years in and counting. We also tackle a real listener dilemma: “My wife gained weight after kids, and I’m not attracted anymore, what do I do?” We don’t sugarcoat it. We talk about support vs. shaming, how to communicate without crushing her confidence, and why attraction is multi-channel (voice, kindness, presence, humour, not just bum and breast 🤭).

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt “not like myself,” Mimi shares her micro-routine for rebuilding confidence (dress the body you have, a touch of glam on low-energy days, and throwing out the oversized hoodies that hide your shine). Eman breaks down the exact phrases and consistent actions that helped, affirmation, patience, and celebrating effort over outcomes. We also cover health goals as a team sport, accountability without control, and remembering that respect and friendship keep desire alive when physical appearances change.

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Submission is a word that evokes strong emotions. For some, it means control and silence; for others, it’s respect and partnership. In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, we break down what submission really looks like in our marriage. Mimi opens up about why the way it was taught in church never made sense to her, while Eman explains why authentic leadership is less about titles and more about creating a sense of safety, trust, and consistency. We talk money, provision, and the hidden value of running a home, as well as how couples can challenge each other without losing respect. We also tackle a real-life dilemma: “My husband says he wants to lead spiritually and financially, but I earn more, pray more, and handle everything. Am I wrong for not respecting that?” Our take: Leadership is proven by action, not words. This episode is raw, funny, and honest, filled with stories from our own journey and lessons that every couple can take something from.

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Money talks without the awkwardness? Yes, please. In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast (Life, Love & Legacy), Eman (financial advisor) and Mimi get brutally honest about money and relationships, the habits they brought into marriage (budget king vs. bargain queen), how redundancy flipped their roles, and why the phrase “It’s not your money, it’s OUR money” saved their sanity (and their bank balance). We break down the real-life systems that work for us: a joint account for bills and individual “fun money” accounts, total transparency, and regular money check-ins to prevent resentment from growing. We also discuss teaching kids about money by letting them hear real conversations, such as mortgage chats, budgeting, and investing, so good habits can start early. Then it gets spicy: a viewer dilemma, “My spouse hid debt before marriage.” We unpack how to rebuild trust, create a payoff plan, and decide when secrecy crosses the line. Additionally, we share simple wealth-building strategies for UK couples, including ISAs, workplace pensions, estate planning, and why we opted for tenants in common (50/50 ownership) to safeguard our children and long-term legacy. And yes… the Petty Section delivers: Mimi confesses to hiding Amazon boxes (growth happened, okay?).

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In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, Eman and Mimi open up about the challenge of keeping marriage at the centre while raising children. They share how, during the early years with three young kids, much of Mimi’s attention naturally shifted to the children, leaving Eman at times feeling overlooked. They discuss how easy it is for kids to become the focus of a marriage and the strain this can create on intimacy and connection. Both agree that this is often just a season, but how couples handle it sets the tone for the future. If partners withdraw, the relationship can suffer even after the kids grow up. However, when couples remain intentional about affirming each other, supporting one another, and making time to connect, their marriage can emerge even stronger. Mimi speaks about losing confidence in herself during motherhood and how small actions, such as fitting clothes or doing her hair, helped her feel like more than just “mom.” Eman encourages men to see the sacrifices their wives make and to invest in their well-being rather than seeking attention elsewhere. Together, they emphasise that a strong marriage is the foundation of a strong family, and that when the wife is cared for, the children also thrive. They also share practical ways couples can stay connected, from short trips without the kids to breakfast dates during school hours, or simply celebrating birthdays and anniversaries with intention. They close with the reminder that marriage, not children, must remain the anchor of the home, because a thriving partnership creates the best environment for kids to flourish.

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In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, Eman and Mimi dive deep into one of the most delicate and relatable topics in marriage: arguments. They begin with lighthearted banter and even a prayer for peace before unpacking how their different upbringings shaped the way they handle conflict. Mimi reflects on her Nigerian household, where arguments were rarely seen in front of children, and where her immigration experience taught her to stay quiet and avoid drawing attention. Eman, on the other hand, grew up as a vocal extrovert, shaped by a speech impediment he overcame and by a mother who both protected and sheltered him. His experiences made him passionate about using his voice and sometimes leaning into confrontation. The couple honestly explores how these differences initially clashed in their marriage, from Mimi’s tolerance for silence to Eman’s tendency to shut down when upset. They recall how therapy, both individual and joint, helped them unlearn inherited family dynamics, heal past trauma, and develop their own conflict-resolution style as a couple. They emphasise that respect, communication, and the willingness to pause before things escalate are essential. Arguments, they argue, shouldn’t just be about venting but about reaching a resolution. They share personal stories, from silent treatments to learning each other’s communication styles (even Mimi once wrote letters), to show how they’ve matured in handling conflict. The conversation also touches on dilemmas many couples face, like whether it’s right to share marital problems with family or friends. They stress the importance of choosing confidants wisely, someone who supports the marriage, not someone who keeps tally or fuels division. Closing with humour, the pair discuss petty moves during disagreements, the balance of being “the bigger person,” and even how play-fighting can go wrong. Ultimately, they remind listeners that love and respect should remain at the core of every disagreement, and that arguing with purpose, for resolution, can actually strengthen a marriage.

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Eman and Mariam tackle one of marriage’s most private and most misunderstood topics: sex. With the ease of a couple 14 years deep, they open up about how their intimacy has evolved through every season, from the electric energy of early marriage to the strategic scheduling required with four children in the house. They swap stories about their very different experiences before marriage. Mariam waited until their wedding night, while Eman came in with past relationships—and how those differences shaped their first years together. The conversation weaves through wedding night realities (spoiler: exhaustion beats romance), mismatched desire levels, pregnancy, postpartum recovery, and the creative adjustments needed when toddlers sleep in your room. Nothing is off the table: mismatched libidos, porn use, silent “knocking” to avoid waking kids, and the challenge of keeping intimacy alive when life gets hectic. They also debate a listener dilemma about a husband tracking their sex life in a spreadsheet, opening a broader discussion on scheduling versus spontaneity. What emerges is a mix of humour, vulnerability, and straight talk about communication as the foundation for a healthy sex life. Eman admits he’s cooled down with age, Mariam shares the importance of checking in regularly, and together they show that intimacy is about much more than physical connection—it’s also late-night drives, playful banter, and mutual understanding. The episode closes with a “This Week in Petty” confession from Eman, proving that even in the bedroom, marriage is equal parts love, laughter, and learning to meet in the middle.

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In this heartfelt and humorous episode of The 3L’s Podcast, hosts Eman and Mimi open up about how finances tested, but ultimately strengthened their marriage. They revisit their early days: one income, a new baby, and the illusion that love alone would carry them through. What followed was redundancy, career shifts, and the humbling reality of rebuilding from scratch. Eman reflects on going from corporate success and luxury cars to riding the bus in a suit, while Mimi recalls turning her cake hobby into a business to help make ends meet. Through candid storytelling, the couple dives into how societal expectations of gender roles complicated their communication about money, and how they learned to reframe their marriage as a true partnership. Despite moments of tension, especially during major financial lows, they both emphasise that mutual respect, honesty, and shared goals kept them grounded. Mimi’s unwavering support during Eman’s hardest times becomes a recurring theme, one that redefines what “providing” truly means in marriage. They also discuss how they’re teaching financial literacy to their children, not just through conversations, but through real-life lessons in saving, spending, and delayed gratification. Their “legacy” segment highlights their desire to raise emotionally and financially intelligent kids. The episode ends on a lighter note with a “Petty Moments” segment, where Eman jokingly calls out Mimi’s hidden Vinted and Amazon packages, a playful reminder that in every real relationship, humour helps carry the load. At its core, this episode is a powerful message about unity: that chasing money can break a marriage if you let it, but with love, communication, and shared vision, you can build something even greater, a legacy.

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