When ambition eats every evening and weekend, what’s left for marriage and kids? In this raw convo, we unpack our 2015 season, late nights, Canary Wharf office life, resentment vs reality, and how we rebuilt with therapy, carved-out time, practical agreements, and intentional fatherhood.

We get honest about why what looked like selfishness was actually loneliness, and share the systems that keep us balanced today: calendar carve-outs, deadlines, seasons, and bringing your partner into the dream.

If you’ve ever felt alone while your partner “hustles for the family,” or you’re the grinder who thinks they’re doing it for love, this one’s for you. Share your experience in the comments. Are you the grinder or the one left behind?

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In this raw, funny and heartfelt episode of The 3L’s Podcast (Life, Love & Legacy), Eman & Mimi get real about attraction in long-term marriage, from being friends first to that unexpected “switch” moment in church, to the messy middle of post-baby body changes, confidence dips, and intimacy on pause.

We unpack how personality can amplify physical attraction, why reassurance isn’t a one-off speech but a daily habit, and the small, practical things couples can do to keep choosing each other, 14 years in and counting. We also tackle a real listener dilemma: “My wife gained weight after kids, and I’m not attracted anymore, what do I do?” We don’t sugarcoat it. We talk about support vs. shaming, how to communicate without crushing her confidence, and why attraction is multi-channel (voice, kindness, presence, humour, not just bum and breast 🤭).

If you’ve ever looked in the mirror and felt “not like myself,” Mimi shares her micro-routine for rebuilding confidence (dress the body you have, a touch of glam on low-energy days, and throwing out the oversized hoodies that hide your shine). Eman breaks down the exact phrases and consistent actions that helped, affirmation, patience, and celebrating effort over outcomes. We also cover health goals as a team sport, accountability without control, and remembering that respect and friendship keep desire alive when physical appearances change.

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Submission is a word that evokes strong emotions. For some, it means control and silence; for others, it’s respect and partnership. In this episode of The 3L’s Podcast, we break down what submission really looks like in our marriage. Mimi opens up about why the way it was taught in church never made sense to her, while Eman explains why authentic leadership is less about titles and more about creating a sense of safety, trust, and consistency. We talk money, provision, and the hidden value of running a home, as well as how couples can challenge each other without losing respect. We also tackle a real-life dilemma: “My husband says he wants to lead spiritually and financially, but I earn more, pray more, and handle everything. Am I wrong for not respecting that?” Our take: Leadership is proven by action, not words. This episode is raw, funny, and honest, filled with stories from our own journey and lessons that every couple can take something from.

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